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writes:Foremost, I am a male and obviously can't ask friends for relationship advice if it doesn't apply to me "getting laid". A girl recently got in touch with me out of the blue and I was wondering if she may be interested in me. Ok, here's the sich. I was really good friends with her in high school, best friends, and yes I know that was before I knew what a friend zone was. She has admittedly told me that I was attractive, without alcohol being involved. We have never had sex... yet. I one day decided to tell her how I felt and it completely ruined the relationship. Since then I have completely been hesitant to being friends with girls, even the ones that I have dated. I feel that this lack of trust and ability to friend girls has hindered the emotional aspect of relationships, and trust me I here about it all the time. Anyway, four years later I'm about to graduate from college at home visiting and she starts texting me. I am always making stuff up for excuses to not hang out with her. I am starting to get anxiety attacks just like in high school. They are so bad that I am getting physically sick! What should I do? Should I hang out with her and retry this whole thing? Does she just want another friendship or is she interested in me? I've never been able to not read a situation this bad in my life. The texts are hard to judge the mood and emotion behind them. I'm afraid to talk because I don't usually lie and frankly I'm terrible at it. I'm only going to be in town for the summer then I am going back for grad school. I've never been more scared of a hundred twenty pound girl in all my life! Thanks for your help, much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. Turns out she did want to hook up but that is not what I wanted I found out. I date around and I am only 21 yrs old, I don't need this. Plus, I am going to be moving from this area for good in a few months. I did let her down easy and told her I was interested but I don't see anything panning out from this other than more trouble. Thanks everyone. Hopefully I won't have to use this site ever again but again thanks!
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (9 January 2010):
Dude. Suck it up. Hang out with the girl. You are thinking entirely WAY too much. Get together without expectations and just see what's up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): You sound very confused. I have no clue what a friend zone is. But here goes:If you like her and you were friends, you can just meet her to hang out and see what happens. NO one can give you a guarantee that she likes you or not. She obviously wants to be in touch with you, which is why she messaged.Since she was your friend and she is human and can talk, hang out with her. That is a start. Don't initiate anything new, just watch her and stay friends. You will know the answer after meeting her.
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