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*essa754
writes:Me and my boyfriend broke up the last week of school before winter break. We have been dating for almost 5 1/2 months and before break me and him were still good friends. After break we came back to school and he is a jerk now. I asked him why he was acting like a jerk and he said because it was fun. I don't know what to do I want to stay friends with him, but with him acting like a jerk it's impossible.
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reader, tessa754 +, writes (10 January 2010):
tessa754 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhes not single though hes going back out with his ex. And me and him still act like we are friends joking around and all that.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 January 2010):
Him acting like a jerk is his way of getting your attention because he's hurt. Tell him to grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): hey. i know the situation. it sucks and im sorry you have to deal with this if you are trying to be the better person and keep the civility between the two of you. have you considered that maybe he is acting this way as a means to vent his anger at breaking up with you in the first place? perhaps he is doing it to get some sort of reaction from you so that he can see how much he effects you, how much impact he still has on you? there is also the possibility it could be peer pressure to act this way. in my experience,lay it down with only two options. tell him to either grow up, and salvage your friendship while its there, or tell him to do one, and find other friends who dont treat you like crap. it may be fun for him but im sure you have better things to do than wait for the next bout of arsiness from him, so tell him straight. if he wants to maintain friendship then to act like a friend. if he doesnt, then tell him you will be as civil to him as he has been with you and make it your prerogative to 'have fun' right back at him. he will either start being more grown up and treat you with a bit more respect, or he loses you as a friend. just remember that people always want what they cant have. hope this helps. good luck!
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reader, lovebaby126 +, writes (9 January 2010):
 guys are stupid. fact known and need to be known. i'll give you the plain anwser he is doing it to show off that he is single and look like he doesn't care for you but deep down he still has feelings inside he is trying to hide so he won't look weak. i wouldn't waste your time on him he is not worth the pain and effort and when you show him you don't care he will realize what a dumb butt he is being.
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (9 January 2010):
He's just immature. I'm sure he still likes you but he doesn't know how to be your friend just yet. It takes us boys a long time to understand that kind of thing. I once was an immature jackass too. Just be yourself and don't let it show if he gets to you. Just blow it off if he acts dumb. He'll grow up. It's just like when girls would be mean and hit boys in elementary school, it meant you liked us but we thought you were just being cruel. No worries, he just still likes you.
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reader, justsomeguy +, writes (9 January 2010):
 friendship can turn to love but love cant turn to friendship...but ur boy is acting lyk dat bcoz i think sum how he thinks its cool..and will help him in making a bad boy image...jst move on..may be someday he will relise itz nt so cool to be a jerk...and certainly doesnt value u much at the moment
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