How do I get past all the damage my alcoholic husband has caused?
Q. How do I get past all the damage he's caused? My husband is an alcoholic and we've had some major issues in the past. For the past 2 years he gets real mean and aggressive when he drinks a lot. I have left him several times and each time I come ...
A. 9 May 2007: Thank you all for your words of advice. One of the biggeest problems I'm having is that I have no where to go. I was fortunate when I left before that I had a small 1 bedroom apartment that a friend of mine let me stay in for free. But the lease ... (read in full...)
My husband and another man, stripped and kissed each other at a party..I was so embarrassed! Is he actually gay?
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I really really need to get this off my chest. Recently we had a party at our house and there was alcohol supplied, good music and a lot of food. However, it got embarrassing when my husband and his friend b...
A. 8 May 2007: I know it may seem hard to swallow, but I would let this one go. As you said there was alcohol involved and if he was secretly bi-sexual or gay do you think he would have made such a display in front of so many people? I would write it off as a ... (read in full...)
Any new ideas for bedroom "spice"?
Q. I feel like trying something new in the bedroom - any ideas of something exciting I could do for my man?!!...
A. 18 April 2007: Take control! Men love it when you're aggressive. Just walk up to him and wrap one leg around him and grasp the back of his head and start kissing him firmly. Then, just reach down and grab is penis rubbing. I'm sure that will get the ball (or ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do you tell your wife your biggest fantasy is to sleep with hot, young 18 years old females?
Q. sexual fantasy / fantasies / fetish My wife has asked me before what kind of fetishes or fantasies I had. My real answer is hot young 18 year old girls. Would a wife really want to know the truth of a fetish or fantasy that has nothing to do wi...
A. 18 April 2007: Not just no, but "hell no"! She will never look at you the same again. She'll will probably feel degrated and think that you're a pervert. I think it's great that she's asking you that though. That shows that she's trying to keep the ... (read in full...)
I dont trust that he has pictures of all my friends on his phone and none of me, just so he can show off to his mates!!?
Q. I dont trust my boyfriend. I have caught my boyfriend doing strange things such as transfering pictures of my friends off my phone on to his. his mobile is full of pictures of all the beautiful girls he knows and none of me. after a long talk he ...
A. 13 April 2007: Well I personally think you should put your foot down on this one. 1st of all, why does he need to impress anyone other than you? If you two are together then it shoudn't matter what his mates think especially his female friends. I wouldn't trust ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship really too destructive to be in ?
Q. I have recently left my wife for the 4th time. We have been a fighting couple since we met 2 1/2 years ago. Every time we fight, she always kicks me out and as a result of that have lost 3 jobs. Everytime I have gone back. She is older than me by 10 ...
A. 13 April 2007: Based on the information you have provided it sounds like this relationship is just not so good. You both need to decide if you want to make this relationship work. If you do then it sounds like you both need to work on your insecurities. From my ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I saw various escort numbers in his recent call list, bearing in mind I spied ?
Q. I need some advice. I recently did a silly thing while my boyfriend was in the shower - pressed the green button on his mobile (recent calls)He has given me reason to be suspicious in the past as before that id never touched his phone. There were ...
A. 5 April 2007: I agree with eddie. I would definitely confront him with this. If he gets pissed, then he gets pissed. If he loves you and you are in a committed relationship, then he should have nothing to hide. My husband is a bit insecure and feels the need ... (read in full...)
I've lost my confidence and mojo!
Q. I really dont know what to do. Normally I am a happy postive person who's always helping other people out. but lately i haven't felt like this person at all, I've felt this way for quite a while now, although others can't see it as i hide it well ...
A. 5 April 2007: You know, I have been through the same exact thing, and though I wish I had the answer for you as to why this happens, I don't. It could be a phase or a chemical imbalance or something unexplainable. I never persued an answer as to why the change ... (read in full...)
He told me he thinks of other girls and masterbates and calls me mean names.....HELP!!!
Q. im 17 and ive been with my bf for 1 year and 2 months. a while bak he said to me that hed been thinking of his ex girlfriends family and thought i should know as he felt guilty. but a few weeks later during an argument he told me that he wasnt ...
A. 4 April 2007: Girl, you need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible. He's obviously very immature, but not only that he is tearing down your self esteem. It's not your fault at all, please don't look down on yourself for his actions because you've ... (read in full...)
He loves his daughter immensely, but doesnt feel, or act like other fathers, anything I can say or do to make him feel better ?
Q. My boyfriend has a seven years old daughter with his ex-wife. They have been separated for 4 years. He gets to see his daughter every second weekend, who stays over at his parent’s home. Sometimes during the week, he will bring her to the park or ...
A. 4 April 2007: My suggestion would be to encourage him to do more things with her. Maybe if you become more involved he will follow your lead. Offer to take his daughter out for the day and do fun stuff together. Find something that all of you enjoy doing and ... (read in full...)
Im worried about my friend and this guy thats forcing her to have sex and hitting her!!
Q. i know it is really non of my buisness but iam really worried about my friend. shes 14 and she met an 18 year old guy in the chat rooms. she meets him every day after school and he forces her to have sex withhim. i once followed her home from school ...
A. 4 April 2007: You are a good friend because you are concerned about her. If you didn't care then I would question if you are a good friend or not. You should just casually bring it up in conversation. Ask her how she thinks the relationship is going. If she ... (read in full...)
This guy at work keeps coming in my office and sitting there staring at me! How can I get him to stop ?
Q. There is a guy where I work who will constantly walk by my office and stare at me. He will also come into my office and just sit in the chair across from me so I will divert my attention to him for a moment and try to make small talk, but after ...
A. 30 March 2007: Makes sense, thanks guys!... (read in full...)
I dont think Im what she wants in the long term, I cant change into what she wants me to be, How do I end it ?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 10 months, previously I had been in a long term relationship [7 years] and she had been in a few shorter relationships [1-2 years]. We seem really happy together and have spoken about marriage, ...
A. 30 March 2007: Well, I think you have a ligitimate concern. I think it's a combination of the answers already posted. Though, I don't think you're being selfish at all, I think you're a victim of circumstance. I think it's very selfless to want whats best for ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to help a girl with a broken heart ?
Q. whats the best way to help a gurl with a broken heart?...
A. 30 March 2007: Just be there for her. Let her cry on your shoulder if she wants. Assure her that the person who broke her heart is not worth her pain and sorrow. Make her feel important. Offer her little trinkets of happiness.... (read in full...)
Is it a big thing for a girl to lose her virginity!?
Q. Is it a big thing for a girl to be broken in? and another quick question is that my girlfriend has told me about a fling in her past when she told me I became jealous its because she is more experience then me, when she told I think I even started ...
A. 30 March 2007: It is very important to most girls to lose their viriginity and not so important for others, it all depends on the girl. But over all I would say "yes"! It needs to be a special and comfortable situation. As far as her past, I think you should ... (read in full...)
Why am I too scared to leave him, even though I know I'm not happy!?
Q. Say your in a bad relationship and you know that the person your with is not the one for you. All you do is argue and when it gets bad you physically fight. The thing you hate the most is not being able to communicate – little things you need to ...
A. 28 March 2007: I know exactly what you're going through. I just left my husband this past weekend for basically the same reasons, add alcoholism to the list. We have 2 children together and I would constantly beat myself up over wheather or not I should leave ... (read in full...)
I Finally left my alcoholic Husband! Hes been begging me to go back saying he will change, What should I do!?
Q. I did it! I left my bitter alcoholic husband this past weekend. It's only been 2 days and he's already calling me constantly begging for forgiveness and saying that he'll do what ever it takes to get me and the kids back. I want to believe him, ...
A. 28 March 2007: Thank you all so much for the great advice. I am spiritually feeling better every day, but the conversations are still so hard. He is constantly weaping and sobbing and saying that he can't go on like this anymore and that he feels like going to ... (read in full...)
I Finally left my alcoholic Husband! Hes been begging me to go back saying he will change, What should I do!?
Q. I did it! I left my bitter alcoholic husband this past weekend. It's only been 2 days and he's already calling me constantly begging for forgiveness and saying that he'll do what ever it takes to get me and the kids back. I want to believe him, ...
A. 27 March 2007: Thank you all for your advice. It really helped to hear a mans opinion on this as well. You make a lot of sense Dream Master. I know what I need to do, but it is hard because I do want to be with him, but not as he is now. The hardest thing for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with my best friend, how could they do this to me, Im so hurt!!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for close to four years. We lived together and planned on marrying. A month ago I went on a trip for a week, when I returned my bf and I talked and decided that we both needed some time to make sure we still wanted the same ...
A. 27 March 2007: That's one of the most devistating things to go through. Not only have you lost your boyfriend, but also your best friend. One thing you have to bare in mind is that it's not your fault. It's going to be hard to get over and to ever trust anyone ... (read in full...)
I touched something inside her.... is she still a virgin ?
Q. hey.. i have a girlfriend and were still together like more than 2 years and shes worried because i put entered my finger in her thing..and it was about 3.5 inches..and i felt something its hard to explain what but it was a little deep and i hardly...
A. 27 March 2007: You want an honest answer...........you're too young to even be doing that sort of thing! She probably was a virgin until you put your finger in her thingy.... (read in full...)
One of my employees has been smoking dope in his car at break time, do I confront him ?
Q. HI I am a manager and suspect one of my staff has been smoking dope in his car at breaks, do I confront him to see his reaction, if so what do I say,I don't know what to do? What does it do to people I really have no Idea?...
A. 27 March 2007: Well, it seem as if you are intimidated to confront this person about the situation. Remember your position, you are the manager. If you think that he is smoking pot on the job but you are worried about his reaction to your assumptions, then see ... (read in full...)
He wont let me finish with him, would he really end his life, or is this emotional blackmail ?
Q. I tried to break up with my fiance on Friday, and like always he tried to talk me out of it. He said he would call me later in the night and told me to answer my phone. I wanted to end it, so I didn't answer. He called and texted me so many times, ...
A. 20 March 2007: My ex-husband cried suicide when I left him too. For some people they think that if they cry wolf about suicide then you will stay with him, it's acually more common than you'd imagine. Of course some follow through with it, but that's their own ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that sex hurts so long after giving birth?
Q. Is it normal that having sex for the first few times after giving birth can be painful, almost as much as loosing your viginity again? When i was pregnant me and my husband didn't really have sex alot after the first 3 months of me being pregnant, i ...
A. 20 March 2007: It's completely normal, you just had a person pop out of your vagina. I had my last second and last child 3 years ago and it's still painful up inside of me. The Doctor said that once you hava kids that your uterus drops and becomes more ... (read in full...)
If I just say "no' to a girl who likes me, would that be too spiteful?
Q. If a girl fancies you and comes onto you and you don't like/fancy her, can you just say NO!! or would she say i'm spiteful? I find it hard to say no. Thanks for any help....
A. 16 March 2007: I don't think it's spiteful to tell someone that you're not interested in them. It's just how you say it. If you're not interested in the other person then it's better to let them know as soon as possible so they are not lead to believe that there ... (read in full...)
A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?
Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...
A. 16 March 2007: Dear Mr. Anonymous,
The answer to your question is a big "hell no". I would have never married him had he been like the way he is now. We were together for 4 years before I married him and he was never a bitter person. He was sensitive and a litt... (read in full...)
A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?
Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...
A. 16 March 2007: Thank you all for your responses. I feel a little better! ... (read in full...)
A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?
Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...
A. 16 March 2007: Ask Heather, that does sound a little odd. I only reason I said current husband because I was originally referring to all of my past relationships and I just wanted to establish that I was now having the same problem with my husband. ... (read in full...)
A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?
Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...
A. 15 March 2007: Thank you for the advice. However, I can tell you that I know my current husband always has and does love me, he does make that very clear. And he was always easy in my company until he turned into a jerk and we began to argue more and more. Now ... (read in full...)
My gf drinks too much and treats me badly! Should I stay or leave?
Q. My girlfriend drinks excessively and then treats me bad. In the year we have been dating she has thrown a plastic cup in my face, came to visit me and left for the whole day to party with her friends b/c she got pissed and then called me crying ...
A. 7 March 2007: Wow, I know your situation all to well. My husband is an alcoholic and I've dealt with a lot of the same issues. We have been together for 6 years, but the past 2 years have been an emotional roller coaster ride for me. See, it really depends on ... (read in full...)
What would be the difference between a confident flirt and a Jerk?
Q. What would be the difference between a confident flirt and a Jerk? In what case would they become the same ?...
A. 7 March 2007: In a lot of cases they are already one in the same. It all depends on how you feel about it. Do you like aggressive men or do you prefer the more suttle men? I say, if you don't like his attitude and you're not sure, then don't even waste your ... (read in full...)
Is it time I moved on? I don't feel the same for him and it makes no sense to continue our relationship. Can anyone else relate?
Q. Should I move on? I've been with my partner for over 4 years. We don't live together and have no children together. I've been very confused over my feelings for him over the last 8 months. I don't find him attractive anymore, we don't share the ...
A. 28 February 2007: Oh yes dear! More than once. And the best advice I can offer you is to follow your heart. I spent so much time worrying about the other persons feelings more so than my own and I would only make myself miserable. If you're not feeling it any ... (read in full...)
Is it time I moved on? I don't feel the same for him and it makes no sense to continue our relationship. Can anyone else relate?
Q. Should I move on? I've been with my partner for over 4 years. We don't live together and have no children together. I've been very confused over my feelings for him over the last 8 months. I don't find him attractive anymore, we don't share the ...
A. 28 February 2007: Oh yes dear! More than once. And the best advice I can offer you is to follow your heart. I spent so much time worrying about the other persons feelings more so than my own and I would only make myself miserable. If you're not feeling it any ... (read in full...)
Is Mom's answer to my question, right or is she just keeping my hopes up?
Q. A while ago I asked my mum "how do you know if you have found the right person?" (in other words someone you have fallen in love with and want to spend the rest of your life with them) and she said you just know it's right. Is she right or is she j...
A. 23 February 2007: Something I've learned in life is that Mom's are almost always right. They've lived longer and more than likely they love and care for you more than anyone else in this world. I've learned to take my mothers advice! You will know when you've ... (read in full...)
I only found out my fiance cheated b/c her friend and mom told me! I split, she wants to get back together but shows no remorse!
Q. Hi, I recently broke up with my fiance. She went to visit a man that she had previously slept with before when we were in an open relationship. She is 20 and I am 25. I confronted her when I found out (her best friend told me) and she denied a...
A. 23 February 2007: I know how you feel sweetie. It never feels good to be hurt, but you have to realize it's in your best interest right now. Have things gotten easier for you yet? Sorry about the delayed response, but I haven't been on the site for a while. You ... (read in full...)
I would rather find out that he no longer cared for me than suffer in this limbo.
Q. Hello Readers, I am desperately in need of your advice. In particular I would appreciate input from people who have experienced meeting their "soul mate" and you can't understand what this is like unless you have been through it. By that I mean hav...
A. 23 February 2007: Well, it really makes a difference in my opinion to know that you and your current husband are not emotionally involved. You seem to be a very intelligent woman who knows what she wants. So if it's weighing on your concience that much, I would say ... (read in full...)
I would rather find out that he no longer cared for me than suffer in this limbo.
Q. Hello Readers, I am desperately in need of your advice. In particular I would appreciate input from people who have experienced meeting their "soul mate" and you can't understand what this is like unless you have been through it. By that I mean hav...
A. 15 February 2007: I know how it feels to find your soulmate and lose them. I have been with my husband (soulmate) for almost 7 years now. Like any marraige it takes hard work and commitment, even soulmates have issues. I left him twice but no matter how upset or ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I may be depressed...any ideas to cheer up and be happy all day?
Q. Lately I feel very tired and I always think I can do things better and that everything I do or buy or wear or do at work is never good enough, I try to relax I also have negative thoughts about my social life as I do not quite enjoy it very much I ...
A. 9 February 2007: Hello Astrid, Have you ever been to the Doctor for depression? It could very well be a chemical imbalance. It could also be a lack of moral support. It's hard to be happy when you're the only person trying to make yourself happy. I'm sorry th... (read in full...)
My mum died, at first my GF was great, but now shes asked me not to talk, now I have no one to talk to about it!!!
Q. This is a strange question. My mum died and at first my girlfriend was amazing help. Then she went on holiday, whilst she was away i was having trouble dealing with the lose of my mum and i shared my feelings with her. When she returned from her ...
A. 6 February 2007: First I would like to extend my condolences for your loss. Losing a parent and/or child has got to be one of the hardest experiences a person must go through in life. This question is very important to me as my husbands mother just passed away 1 ... (read in full...)
Both of us are afraid to say "I love you"...What should we do?
Q. If your in love with a boy and that boy is in love with you and he is afraid to tell you and your afraid to what should we do?...
A. 5 February 2007: Just say it already. If you both love eachother and you both know that you love eachother, then why is it so hard to say it? The only reason you should be afraid to say it is if you're not sure that you do love eachother. Some people don't say it ... (read in full...)
My bf has been secretly visiting 'swing' clubs and cheating on me! What should I do?
Q. Hi i recently found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been frequenting swinging clubs for the past few months and having casual sex. Im heartbroken, but I feel like an idiot as i thought he loved me. When i confronted him he said it was a once off...
A. 5 February 2007: Leave him girl!!! I think that the #1 rule breaker for any relationship is cheating. Once a person cheats I don't see any way of ever being able to trust that person fully ever again. I know it's painful but you have to move on. Believe it or ... (read in full...)
I only found out my fiance cheated b/c her friend and mom told me! I split, she wants to get back together but shows no remorse!
Q. Hi, I recently broke up with my fiance. She went to visit a man that she had previously slept with before when we were in an open relationship. She is 20 and I am 25. I confronted her when I found out (her best friend told me) and she denied a...
A. 29 January 2007: Well sweetie, unfortunately it sound like you need to suck it up and move on. I know it's not easy, especially when you've had your heart broken, but as you said, she has cheated on you once already, and married or not I believe that it's ... (read in full...)
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