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writes:I need some advice. I recently did a silly thing while my boyfriend was in the shower - pressed the green button on his mobile (recent calls)He has given me reason to be suspicious in the past as before that id never touched his phone. There were alot of mobile numbers in the list without names but then there was one that said Escort. I was quite shocked because Escort isn't a persons name and couldnt possibly be a legitimate company. I made a note of these numbers and deleted them from his phone and said nothing. A week later I did the same thing and now there was one saved as "E" but a different number. Again i made a note but this upset me all weekend. I typed some of these numbers into Google and it brought up Escorts and Massage Parlours. Whether he has been to any is another question its just calls at the moment. Question is, how do I ask him about it bearing in mind I did wrong by touching his phone? And why would he do this when he tells me how much he loves me and that im "the one" Im so confused.
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reader, Patient1  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 I agree with eddie. I would definitely confront him with this. If he gets pissed, then he gets pissed. If he loves you and you are in a committed relationship, then he should have nothing to hide. My husband is a bit insecure and feels the need to check my mobile now and then, and you know what, I don't care because I have nothing to hide. Only guilty people have to hide things. So, this being said, I think he gave you probable cause to check his phone just by trying to hide it. And if he's calling escort services what do you care if he gets pissed. Look how this makes you feel! You need to think about long term here. Do you really want to live the rest of your life with a man who is calling escort services and doing only God knows what! I know it hurts to even imagine, but you need to seek the truth. If he's calling escort services, I would recommend that you move one. He could love you like he says, but some people are addicted to worthless intercourse with strange people, and I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to live my life with someone who wasn't 100% committed to me. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): You've got every right to confront him about it.
As I did with my girlfriend in a similar situation I told her that at the time I thought myself really dishonest and distrusting to be checking her messages but with what I found I soon stopped caring about any of that, that what I found I thought to be far more dishonest than what I'd done. Especially as I gave her an opportunity to confess before I told her I knew and she lied.
If he gets upset or mad about you snooping it's only him trying to weasel our of what he's done. Don't let him turn this back on you, he's got no right to. He's got no one else to blame but himself and if he gets mad he's probably, or should be, mostly mad at himself for being so stupid.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 Well, you snooped. He might be angry but I'd say he doesn't have much of a leg to stand on. You're totally in the clear to confront him, at least in my opinion. Is it possibble he picked up an STD??? Sure it is, afterall, he wasn't calling to order a pizza!!
You have to take care of yourself at this point. What would he do if you were calling places where women went to purchase a man so they could fondle eachother? I bet he'd be angry.
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