Should I tell my boyfriend about the rape? I'm scared I will lose him
Q. Last year i was raped at a city bus stop. My mother and father both know about it, but my new boyfriend dosent. We just started going out 3 weeks ago and i dont no if i should tell him or not. "Rob" tells me everything and i want to to, but i just ...
A. 22 September 2009: I just don't see any reason why you HAVE to tell him...Its really not any of his business...If youre not comfortable with disclosing yourself about this, you shouldnt have to. But, if you happen to catch an STD from this, you are obligated to let ... (read in full...)
Are we getting ready to head into rocky territory?
Q. I'm going to try to make this as brief as possible. I have a great female friend we've been friends for over 10 years. She and my husband are also great friends. They are very much like brother/ sister, always have been, long before I was ever ...
A. 22 September 2009: It sounds like he is somewhat interested in you...but trust me, you dont WANT that type of drama...It makes everything worse that your husband KNOWS her. It's like, double the risk...I dont think it's worth your marriage. I have a lot of male ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and want to marry a woman so I can have children. How do I go about this?
Q. hi,am a gay man.36 yrs old have not hraed sex with woman but am willing bcoz i have to.i want to live a normal life.i want children.but am sacerd to have sex,i dont no if i can get it up.am african and is really important i have children.and if i ...
A. 20 September 2009: I truly find your question a little disturbing...coming from a mother of 3, it's disturbing to hear you threaten to take your life as something as this is NOT a life or death situation. Also, I don't think a person that is suicidal is mentally ... (read in full...)
Are we falling out of love?
Q. Okay, so I'm going to start this question by saying this... I'm 21, and this is only my second serious relationship ever. Anyway, I started dating a woman (I'm also a woman) in April. We hit it off right away. We were madly in love with each other ...
A. 20 September 2009: I have the tendency to do that to my boyfriend...but I'm not cheating and I love him the same as I always have. I guess for me it came from him putting me on a "pedal stool" and basically spoiling me. Then later I started taking advantage of it and ... (read in full...)
B/f is battling depression so we talk rarely, what can I do for us?
Q. My boyfriend has stopped talking to me, it has been 2 weeks. He talks to me one day and then the next he dissapears. I asked him what was going on, why was he ignoring me all these days and he said it's because he is battling depression. I know that ...
A. 20 September 2009: being addicted to RX is more than likely to effect his personality. It makes you feel more distant from the world and make you not want to do things like normal everyday people. ... (read in full...)
Do I need to take the morning after pill?
Q. Hi I need help, i had unprotected sex last night with my bf and my period is due today/tomoorrow, is it likely that i could get pregnant? I had heard that this time (just before period is due) is safer because I am not ovulating? if not then i will ...
A. 19 September 2009: it's not worth the risk... you have up to 72 hours to take the morning after pill...I would take it.... (read in full...)
Any ways to do oral sex without gagging?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend he really enjoys blow jobs but he is wanting to cum in mouth and I'm worried about if theres a way to do it without gagging. The taste doesn't bother me but theres so much. How do i keep up? ...
A. 19 September 2009: spit it out...don't swallow...swallowing makes you gag.... (read in full...)
B/f is battling depression so we talk rarely, what can I do for us?
Q. My boyfriend has stopped talking to me, it has been 2 weeks. He talks to me one day and then the next he dissapears. I asked him what was going on, why was he ignoring me all these days and he said it's because he is battling depression. I know that ...
A. 19 September 2009: i was diagnosed depression and put on lexapro (anti-depressant) the medicine helped, but you need to "talk" your problems out...It will do more damage keeping them inside you. "space" for me only feed to the depression. He needs to talk to a doctor ... (read in full...)
Gift ideas for my boyfriend as we are dating for a year!
Q. i need help getting a gift for my boyfriend for our one year and /or christmas. we will be dating for a year in the very beginning of december. we're both 16, but we've been friends since we were about 13 and i've helped him through other ...
A. 19 September 2009: when i was 16 i had the most memorable times going to concerts...he should love that...and you as well. but that should be a birthday gift...christmas, get him an outfit you KNOW he would like. At 16 clothes mean a lot...... (read in full...)
What is this behaviour should I just forget about him?
Q. My brother had a roommate over the summer who I met the night before we left to go home. We had a good connection while at dinner, and he made an effort to understand more about what I was saying and the like. Nothing conclusive, but I felt this ...
A. 17 September 2009: You need to find ways to build your confidence. Try to practice introducing yourself to strangers and try and hold their attention with interesting conversations It will help boost your confidence level and make it easier to be able to strike up a ... (read in full...)
My mother broke her promise to me and really let me down. Should she apologize?
Q. I have been living on my own for some time now few years, and done actual very well, but my car broke down and so I have no way to get around I am in a very tiny rural town and without a car you cant get around. I told my mother this but never asked ...
A. 16 September 2009: that's pretty messed up... regardless, she's your mom...you'll always love her. It's not something to break everything off with her, but I would def be sore about it. You should talk to her, express how you feel. Get a chance to hear it come from ... (read in full...)
My LONG story and current situation!
Q. Right this is a VERY long one.. Back in October last year i was seeing another girl casually, i had been single for a long time and well we began talking and a few things lead to another we never slept together though i told her i didn't want sex,...
A. 16 September 2009: i can almost be certain that once it is over with her and this other guy, she will no doubt come back to you. The question here, is what will you do when she comes crawling back? It just seems as though she is using you. You need to think about ... (read in full...)
I'm in so much pain after sex but I've had sex before!
Q. right - sorry if this question shouldnt be asked on here, im just gettin a bit annoyed now, im seventeen and im single, but for the past few months (ish) ive been meeting this guy, (age 23 for if it matters) we met at a party in july and since then ...
A. 15 September 2009: you may have torn your tissues a bit...they will either heal on their own, but if you don't feel better in a few days or the pain gets worse, you should go to the doctor's...you may need stitches or something...... (read in full...)
Haven't been attracted to my husband since the baby arrived. But I really like his friend!
Q. Hi there I have been married for 3 years my husband and I have known each other as friends for 11 years when we decided to get together in 2005 we moved in together in 1 month got pregnant in 4 months and married in 9 months. Sex was great the best ...
A. 15 September 2009: They actually have done studies on this b/c 60% of women lose their sex drive after having a baby...And I mean some of them for lose it for years...but it does come back. But whatever you decide, treat your husband with a lil respect...don't cheat ... (read in full...)
My LONG story and current situation!
Q. Right this is a VERY long one.. Back in October last year i was seeing another girl casually, i had been single for a long time and well we began talking and a few things lead to another we never slept together though i told her i didn't want sex,...
A. 15 September 2009: okay...your putting yourself as the "back-up" guy. Don't accept her behavior! She is really at the wrong and your almost condoning it. She cheated, plus has moved on. you should too. You are not her #1. Any woman would love to have a man like you ... (read in full...)
How can I reach orgasm more easily during sex?
Q. I'm having trouble reaching orgasm during sex. I am a 21 year old male and have been dating my girlfriend for a while. We've been having sex regularly, and my girlfriend has told me repeatedly that she's enjoyed the sex very much. The problem is, I ...
A. 15 September 2009: it's all in your head. I think you may be thinking about it "too-hard". soft touch said it all...foreplay should REALLY help.
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How to initiate a threesome if your shy?
Q. I am a 20 year female old college student. Ive been dating my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and think its time I bring another woman into our bedroom to spice things up. Thing is, Im completely antisocial. Im a computer programming student, shy, and ...
A. 15 September 2009: My friend was in a 10 year relationship and she brought in another woman...it wound up wrecking their relationship. she regretted it, so be careful. Maybe experience this with someone you dated "shortly" that wont go anywhere...just for fun...but a ... (read in full...)
Is it true that anal sex is illegal?
Q. Is it aganst the law 4 a man 2 screw a woman in the butt? ...
A. 15 September 2009: In Maryland it is against the law to do anything but the missionary position. Its actually a very old law...that no one cares to ratify..lol... (read in full...)
Am I really doing anything wrong by having a relationship with my employee?
Q. My parents and I own our own company as partners. We run a little restaraunt. A long time ago I dated one of our employees and my parents flipped out and suspended me and my ex wound up quitting over the whole thing. Recently, I have become sort of ...
A. 15 September 2009: ok...I dated one of my cooks, and we are still happy today. We have been together for almost 2 years and have a baby together. But here IS the problem. By us getting involve with our employees, we open up a HUGE risk of being sued! If I was in your ... (read in full...)
I don't want an abortion but I don't want to risk my sisters health!
Q. I'm 19 years old and 6 weeks pregnant. My uni course starts in 2 weeks where i will be studying Law. So my boyfriend of a year has me all focused on having an abortion, when it will break my heart to do so, and even worse my family has a history of ...
A. 15 September 2009: think of what your saying....you DON'T want an abortion (you state your against it) but you are willing to terminate your baby, to save your sister? If your sister DID commit suicide, I don't think you can take the blame for it. What she has is a ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel lonely
Q. I been with a married man for almost six years. He said he loves me but when we had a chance of being in the same place , i feel invisible ...i tell him what i dont like and he keep doing it , he said i fight too much , but i just want him to ...
A. 15 September 2009: that's b/c you ARE alone! He get's to have his family and you have no one to share your home or life with! Why settle for someone that cant give you 100% of him? There is nothing more satisfying than 2 people giving each other 100% of themselves to ... (read in full...)
What is this behaviour should I just forget about him?
Q. My brother had a roommate over the summer who I met the night before we left to go home. We had a good connection while at dinner, and he made an effort to understand more about what I was saying and the like. Nothing conclusive, but I felt this ...
A. 15 September 2009: it sounds like he is really nervous...I have done that to people i liked and got me nervous. i didn't want to "blow-it" or seem too "obvious" and I would totally ignore that they are there. He doesn't seem like the confident type. Try testing him ... (read in full...)
I'm in pain because my true love treats me this way
Q. after break , i stayed with my ex for a while , as we planned to be friends , but didn't work out, so i decided to move out , i started packing my stuff , while i was doing this i had to go out for work , so he came home and he saw that i am planing ...
A. 15 September 2009: the two of you CANNOT be "friends" RIGHT after breaking up! the both of you have to heal first before doing so! He's hurt by your decision to move on...it sounds like he was still hoping on getting back together. in his text, he was really saying "i ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of these good for nothing mother feelings
Q. I'm a SAHM since my son was born. He is 4 yrs old now.Every time someone asks me (what do I do all day or what I'm doing these days) I feel bad. I feel sort of guilty of not working. Its hard to maintain a good life style on 1 person's income(...
A. 15 September 2009: Just b/c it's states "stay at home" mom, doesn't mean you have to! It will make you feel better if you and your son get out the house EVERYDAY for an outing and maybe a learning lesson instead of cooped up in the house. But it seems that you know ... (read in full...)
Should I say hi to him?
Q. okay, i'm crazy about this guy. last year, i had a class with him and we would talk and joke and i'd be so nervous talking to him. then summer came and we didn't talk anymore. i saw him driving all the time and i know he saw me too. but he doesnt k...
A. 15 September 2009: if you catch his eye contact when you walk by then yes! waive at him and let him know you think he is still alive! but please! don't over do yourself walking by his class too much....you don't want to seem "obvious" or "stalker-ish" lol... (read in full...)
Does he still like or is he just using me as arm candy?
Q. So all summer me and this guy have been talking nonstop and we knew we liked eachother so we started dating....about a week later he broke up with me and said things were moving too fast (even though all we did was kiss and i was definately NOT ...
A. 15 September 2009: but why would he "break-up" with you b/c things were "moving fast"? why wouldn't he just tell you that y'all needed to slow down? his reason doesn't make any sense?... (read in full...)
We both cheated I don't know wether to forgive him or forget him
Q. Well I recently found out my bf had been cheating on me a couple times with another girl. They never had sex but got close to it. I found out and broke up with him. But I also cheated on him once, only I just kissed the other guy. But I feel its ...
A. 15 September 2009: if he cheated on you and you two only dated 4 months, end it! A guy isn't worth it if he cant stay faithful for 4 months! ... (read in full...)
I'm shy does anyone have tips on talking to guys?
Q. I am 20 years old and am always getting lots of random guys smile at me and even say hi when I just walk past them. This could happen at lots of places whether it be at work, uni, the shops, supermarket, cafe, beach etc... The thing is though ...
A. 15 September 2009: when you talk to them, tell yourself that you don't like them and picture yourself talking with one of your friends....that will help you not get nervous...and just be yourself...how else would you find the most compatible guy to you?... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair -- shouldn't I be putting some distance between us while I sort out my feelings?
Q. We've been married 17 years. My husband had an on/off again affair with a married woman for 3 years. I found out about it. He told had already decided to break it off because it was hurting him. I was in shock at first, screamed, cried, wanted ...
A. 15 September 2009: strawberry pops is right! plus, if the two of you make it through this, it will only make the ties between the both of you stronger!... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair -- shouldn't I be putting some distance between us while I sort out my feelings?
Q. We've been married 17 years. My husband had an on/off again affair with a married woman for 3 years. I found out about it. He told had already decided to break it off because it was hurting him. I was in shock at first, screamed, cried, wanted ...
A. 9 September 2009: everyone changes as they go through life. When I got married, the one advice my dad gave me...the hardest thing in a marriage is to learn to adapt to your partner as the years go by. Because every year the both of you will change and you need to ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair -- shouldn't I be putting some distance between us while I sort out my feelings?
Q. We've been married 17 years. My husband had an on/off again affair with a married woman for 3 years. I found out about it. He told had already decided to break it off because it was hurting him. I was in shock at first, screamed, cried, wanted ...
A. 9 September 2009: you need time to heal and to re-gain trust for him. In that sense, he shouldn't over step his boundaries when it comes to time management to let you know where he is at all times. (i.e. "over time" at work, going out without you) At least until you ... (read in full...)
I need advice help with my long distance relationship.
Q. Hi, I have been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for a year and a month, now. We were together in Arcata, CA for my sophomore year (her freshman year) in high school; but my father's in the Army, so I got transferred to A...
A. 9 September 2009: i was in the army and had seen a lot of "long distance" go down. Me personally, I don't believe in them. people change after a while...especially a year. you and her will be totally different when you re-unite. I'm not saying that hey don't work ... (read in full...)
Spotty skin! Please help!
Q. Hi there, I'd like some advice about my skin please. I used to have very clear skin when I was younger, I didn't really need to take care of it, it just stayed spot-free all the time. But about 4 years ago I started having the contraceptive in...
A. 9 September 2009: you say having the shot helped them? then maybe you can find out why it did, (maybe the hormones in the shot) and supplement it with something else like hormone pills or something of that nature.... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend watch porn?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for 3 and a half years and have recently moved in together. We found it difficult at first but now we are getting back to how we used to be. But there's one thing that really bothers me about him - he watches ...
A. 9 September 2009: i found out my boyfriend of 2 years watches porn but didn't let him know i knew for a while. I Just spied on what turns him on and what he likes to watch to get to know him better. (when it comes to his fantasy, he likes to keep it a secret, even ... (read in full...)
How can I be strong about this and move on?
Q. did i do wrong in looking in my boyfriends phone? i looked at his text messages.. he texted this one chick i always thought he was screwing around with. told her to get some rubbers, im speechless. i dont wanna think about it. im the saddest girl on ...
A. 9 September 2009: I am so sorry that you have to put up with this! Not only do you "know" hes cheated, but you have no "escape". And it sounds like he doesn't even regret it or feels guilty about it! My suggestion to you is to play "HIM" for a fool. Not so much cheat ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on her? We were getting on so well but suddenly she has gone cold on me!
Q. So, I started to become interested in this girl in my class. We got on really well for a few months, and she became the person I texted the most at that point in time. Then the rumors started, and though I am not much of a well-known perso...
A. 9 September 2009: okay here the deal, us girls are a bit confusing. We do things "spontaneously" based off any reason. It could be someone else's opinion about you that turned her off you. Or maybe she was in for the "fun" of it, rather than something serious and ... (read in full...)
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