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writes:I'm having trouble reaching orgasm during sex. I am a 21 year old male and have been dating my girlfriend for a while. We've been having sex regularly, and my girlfriend has told me repeatedly that she's enjoyed the sex very much. The problem is, I have some difficulty reaching orgasm. It often takes me 5 minutes of vigourous thrusting to reach it, after which I'm completely exhausted. I should also say that because we're not a very good 'fit,' and I come out by mistake, we usually only use the missionary position which can get dull after a while. On top of this, my girlfriend is often quite sore after such an episode. She knows that I don't always reach orgasm, and is very anxious about it; she thinks that because I don't always reach organsm that she is sexually inadequate and that I might cheat on her. I always try to tell her that I won't as I care for her very much, but she still finds it very upsetting and I'm not sure she believes me. I think she feels guilty for enjoying the sex more than me; she wants me to enjoy it as much. Any suggestions as to good sex positions (for a guy) that might help or any other ways which will help me come and enjoy sex more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice people. It worked!
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reader, melanie0083  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 it's all in your head. I think you may be thinking about it "too-hard". soft touch said it all...foreplay should REALLY help.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Slow down, take your time! Five minutes is not that long. Moreover, if you go slow and sensual, it might feel a little better.
She also needs to be able to keep lubricating to handle all of that friction. You may have to get extra lubricant so she doesn't get hurt.
There's all sorts of moves you can make inside, like instead of just thrusting violently, try moving it around a little bit in a circle and go very slow and controlled.
The two of you need to take your time. Spend more time on her instead of just jamming it in and making her sore!
If anything, you want her very aroused, and if possible right up to the point of orgasm herself. So think of her first, and take your time before doing the nasty. Lots of foreplay, pay attention to the rest of her body, her skin and such and find little spots to keep her aroused.
The actual deed should be the last thing on the menu and by then she's going to be excited that you can last 5 minutes.
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