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writes:hi,am a gay man.36 yrs old have not hraed sex with woman but am willing bcoz i have to.i want to live a normal life.i want children.but am sacerd to have sex,i dont no if i can get it up.am african and is really important i have children.and if i cant do this i will kill my self.pls i need help and what to do about this.pls answer me fast
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): you are not serious right? this is the ultimate sick joke. do not mess another womans life. being married to a closet gay is no walk in the park. please do not stoop low and destroy another persons life.
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reader, Rose_red_09  +, writes (20 September 2009):
A child is not a commodity or something that can make life right - a child should only be brought into the world for all the right reasons and your reasons seem wholly wrong. If you are gay thats great - but why would you force yourself on some more poor unsuspecting woman just to make a child. Be truthful and honest - killing yourself - is that the answer??? If there is a woman that agrees to have a child with you - thats different....
But still - this a big decision.... think hard about what you are doing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I don't think this should have been posted....
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reader, melanie0083  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 I truly find your question a little disturbing...coming from a mother of 3, it's disturbing to hear you threaten to take your life as something as this is NOT a life or death situation. Also, I don't think a person that is suicidal is mentally healthy enough to parent children. And Accountable is right, to lead a woman on and lie to her for something life devastating will only ruin her.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (20 September 2009):
 There are many ways you could go about having a child, without holding some poor woman in a loveless marriage formed purely because you want kids. You'd also be depriving yourself of the chance to find love with a man.
I think the best idea would be to get yourself in a stable situation and then try an adoption agency - but make sure you are considering having a child because its something you truly want to commit to and love, not something your society/parents etc expect you to do (as you seem to imply in your post).
Good luck. xx
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