A
male
age
30-35,
*vlogia
writes:So, I started to become interested in this girl in my class.We got on really well for a few months, and she became the person I texted the most at that point in time. Then the rumors started, and though I am not much of a well-known person in our school, she is. Because I wasn't so popular, the rumor was mostly confined to class, and she didn't really seem to care much at all. We could talk to each other, joke around, and things were going pretty well.Then, suddenly, she just became cold to me. She stopped texting me, or chatting on MSN, and the worst was that she would walk away when I came close, or if I did manage to get to her to try to talk, she would just say "Whatever, whatever" to what I was saying, or reply in a very cold way. Those kind of one-line answer, like "Yes" or "No". Yet, she would talk to all our other classmates perfectly, having proper conversations, joking and laughing with them while I was forced to sit at the side and just remain silent.The thing was that it was so sudden. We were talking fine just 2 days ago, then suddenly she became this stranger that I couldn't even start a decent conversation with. I'm speculating that she finally took the rumors to heart, and doesn't want me to bug her. But this is the first time I have ever felt like this, so should I really give up?
View related questions:
msn, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Blod  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 Don't give up on her. I don't think you should.
There's a reason why she's behaving this way. It could be a lot of things - to do with you or something else completely.
I reckon you should try to talk to her, just you two. Over msn or by text if it's easier, you could even write her a note. Be sensitive about it but just try to get her to open up. It might not be easy but explain how you feel - that you like her and enjoy her company type of thing. And be open towards her, so that she doesn't feel that you're attacking her. Be friendly without going overboard.
If she does open up to you, then I'm sure you'll agree that that would be a great help. Take it from there.
Just be senstive and reasonable about it. It could just be the time of the month.
Good Luck. X
A
female
reader, melanie0083  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 okay here the deal, us girls are a bit confusing. We do things "spontaneously" based off any reason. It could be someone else's opinion about you that turned her off you. Or maybe she was in for the "fun" of it, rather than something serious and she's moved on. Whatever her reasons are, she is wrong for treating you that way. I was a pretty popular girl back in high school and I had most the guys drool over me. But I never treated anyone with "disrespect" as she has done to you. Basically, she has def made it "obvious" that she's not into you anymore but I would suggest trying to let her know how you feel so YOU can get the last word in (but make sure it's private to where she feel's comfortable...email, text, whatever) Let her know how "fake" she has portray herself and that you DID like her (notice how i used PAST tense) cuz she lead you on and you don't appreciate how she is acting. whatever you do, NEVER let her know that it hurt you and your "crushed" by this. For some reason its a big turn off to us girls when a guy goes "soft". Rather, act as though you brushed it off already and its no big deal to you. Never the less, take this advice for not looking like you just got "played". But after you let her know how you feel, walk the other way and don't look back. Trust me, she isn't the only girl around and by doing this, it should gain her respect for you.
...............................
|
