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writes:I been with a married man for almost six years. He said he loves me but when we had a chance of being in the same place , i feel invisible ...i tell him what i dont like and he keep doing it , he said i fight too much , but i just want him to understand that his attitude affect me somehow, the only time we have to spend together he avoid me, he said sex is great , but i dont think is all about sex , i am single and i feel lonely , what can i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): How can anyone "be with a married" man? If he's married he's NOT with you- he may be sleeping with you, but he's WITH his wife. You're the second, the play thing... the disposable freind. Your second choice, since he's got to keep the wife happy and from dumping him. If this wasn't the case, he'd have left her, so there's something keeping him there (money, shame/fear, saftey, love... something).
You're lonely because he's not able to fully connect with you, but he's having great sex, so WHO CARES? He's getting what HE wants... you're not.
Cut this guy loose, and go find someone who you can be in a relationship with. Life's too short to be second chair.
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reader, melanie0083 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 that's b/c you ARE alone! He get's to have his family and you have no one to share your home or life with! Why settle for someone that cant give you 100% of him? There is nothing more satisfying than 2 people giving each other 100% of themselves to each other...To wake up next to each other EVERY morning. To not hold ANYTHING back! There are so many others out there that are willing, you just have to let go of this one before you can move on and attach your feeling to someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Leave him the dust and don't look back! That's what you can do!
Look: if he REALLY loved you and wanted to be with you, don't you think he would have at the very least separated from his wife, if not divorced her so that you and he could have a real relationship?
Not only that, but you have told him how you feel about certain things and he refuses to change his behavior. What does that tell you?
Why have you wasted six years of your life on this man who is married (belongs to) another woman, and who obviously has no intention of leaving her, and who has no consideration for you?
It may be hard to give him up, but you deserve a better life than this. Dumping him is the best thing you can do for yourself - give you a chance to move on and perhaps meet someone who is free to love and value you for yourself, eventually, and, equally important, you will no longer be part of his cheating - betrayal - of his wife. If he tells you he's unhappy with her, I strongly advise you not to believe a word of it! Actions talk louder than words, you know. His actions clearly say he does NOT love you.
Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Leave him the dust and don't look back! That's what you can do!Look: if he REALLY loved you and wanted to be with you, don't you think he would have at the very least separated from his wife, if not divorced her so that you and he could have a real relationship?Not only that, but you have told him how you feel about certain things and he refuses to change his behavior. What does that tell you?Why have you wasted six years of your life on this man who is married (belongs to) another woman, and who obviously has no intention of leaving her, and who has no consideration for you?It may be hard to give him up, but you deserve a better life than this. Dumping him is the best thing you can do for yourself - give you a chance to be free to move on and perhaps meet someone who is free to love and value you for yourself, eventually, and, equally important, you will no longer be part of his cheating - betrayal - of his wife - and if he tells you he's unhappy with her, I strongly advise you not to believe a word of it! Actions talk louder than words, you know. His actions clearly say he does NOT love you.Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): What can you do? Run away. Married men who play around with other women but dont want to leave their wives are very, very creepy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): I think the biggest problem is you are with a man who is married and his heart belongs to someone else. Of course its just about sex and of course you are going to feel lonely. Whatever he tells you he is just saying so you will stay with him and keep having sex. You think a guy who cheats on his wife is really going to be dependable and always be there for you? He doesnt care and you need to move on and find a man, who is single, and who will treat you right and give you all that you give them.
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Find a single man.
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