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writes:after break , i stayed with my ex for a while , as we planned to be friends , but didn't work out, so i decided to move out , i started packing my stuff , while i was doing this i had to go out for work , so he came home and he saw that i am planing to move , he text me ( come and take your things before 10 pm plz ) i called him and i said i am working until midnight , and i am moving 10 am next day he said no , you have to move before 6 am otherwise i will through your clothes in the street so i went to home and i got my stuff and i went to hotel which was so hard to move and he said dont make noise i will be sleep i didn't say good bye or thanks or any thing now i just moved , and he text me at least say good bye or thanks , or clean the room little more , you proved me what my friends said about you , happy lifeshall i reply ( sorry but you didnt give me time to clean ) or what can i reply or leave him i feel pain cuz my true love think of me this way thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Why should you send your ex an email or text? What consideration did he show you? None.You are hurt by his actions, but you know, you really are better off without him. May seem hard to believe that right now, but once you have your own place, and get on with your life - friends, family, activities you enjoy, work, etc. and realize that if the relationship wasn't going to work out (and it evidently wasn't) its better that it ended sooner rather than later.One more thing: attempting to remain "friends" once a break up has occurred is never a good idea. Why? Because you both need to cut the ties, wish one another well, and begin to move forward separately (after a time to grieve, perhaps). Trying to stay friends only perpetuates feelings of wanting to try again (when you know deep down that it would do no good); and ultimately anger and resentment that this person no longer wants you.No, better to let the relationship go and start thinking positively of what you want to do - perhaps plan a few days away on a trip; meet a friend for lunch you might not have seen in a while; read that book, visit that museum, go to a movie you've been meaning to see.......whatever gives you pleasure to look forward to getting involved in.Good luck!
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reader, melanie0083  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 the two of you CANNOT be "friends" RIGHT after breaking up! the both of you have to heal first before doing so! He's hurt by your decision to move on...it sounds like he was still hoping on getting back together. in his text, he was really saying "i wanted you to make a move at me and come talk this out" it sounds like he was literally waiting for you to walk through his door and he kept reciting what he was going to say to you. he waited...he was ready...but ....you never came. you need to talk to him and close the book. answer all his questions and give him a chance for an understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): I am sorry you had to go through that. I think you should reply and just say "have a nice life" because he sounds really insensitive and doesnt seam to even care. The way he is just kicking you out and not respecting you at all is ridiculous. You deserve to be treated far better and if he cant even leave on good terms with you, than that just shows you are doing the right thing and leaving him. Put him behind you and move on to someone who is even better and will treat you how you deserve to be treated.
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