I'm not a virgin and that bothers him, we are starting to get 'physical' but I'm concerned about the arguments.
Q. I have been with my boy friend for a year we are getting physical now but there is a problem. I am not a virgin and he is, and that bothers him so we always get in arguements for that reason. What should i do if we fight alot but still want to get ...
A. 16 December 2010: shaking my head... sometimes we get questions here from girls who are virgins and they are complaining because it is a problem to their potential partners... and in your case its a problem because you're NOT one... so here's the conclusion... ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time thinking that she's been with someone else...
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating 2 years, and are in love. I was the first guy she had sex with and she was the first one i had sex with, and this was always really special to me. Recently she told me she was raped when she was 15 and was ...
A. 15 December 2010: Why are you "jealous" of her being with someone else when she was RAPED and UNCONSCIOUS? That's just your ego really REALLY getting the better of you in a disturbing way. If anything you should feel sorry for her what she went through and want to ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I make a move?
Q. how long should i wait to have sex with my new girlfriend?... i am still a virgin and she has been with at least 2 other guys.. i know one of them she has been with for a long while, and the other i have no clue.. ...
A. 14 December 2010: you should have sex when you're both ready, this could be today, a month from now, a year from now, or never... there is no set answer to this question... it's one of those follow your heart type of deals...... (read in full...)
6 weeks no contact to the day and I get an email
Q. Long story short, she dumped me because I was studying for my medical exams and never had any time for her for 6 months. She said little things turned into big things and she couldn't take me not being there for her. She got a new job during that ...
A. 14 December 2010: Don't even bother... this is one bridge you should not regret burning... I hate people who take relationships and other people's hearts as casually and cruelly as she did you. Especially at your age, you should not tolerate something so ridiculous ... (read in full...)
Will a woman always love her special man?
Q. slight follow up to my current main serious question posted on the 13th dec. will a woman always love that 1 special person no matter what? they might have afew bfs or loads, but is there always that special 1 that she will always have feelings fo...
A. 14 December 2010: I think it depends on the nature of the relationship and it depends on the woman too... time heals many wounds though, luckily.... (read in full...)
Why can't I just believe my husband when he says that he's not concerned with my looks?
Q. Please note: Anything that you read that my husband said was in answer to questions that I asked and I told him to be honest. After a long, and sometimes loud, discussion with my husband last weekend, I am still having trouble believing someth...
A. 14 December 2010: Looks do matter to him, but not in the big deal you're making it out to be... just lose a little weight and you'll be less self-conscious around him... btw, don't hold your breath for him to give you compliments afterward though, some men just ... (read in full...)
Pointers for enjoying sex?
Q. i need some pointers to make my sex life more enjoyable. for now...i just wait until the guys finished and i don't really feel that much enjoyment. pointers anyone? :)...
A. 14 December 2010: yeah, start thinking like a guy, and start focusing more on your own pleasure, and less on how fat your thighs might be... ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my trust issues to have a healthy relationship
Q. Ever since I started dating when I was 14 years old (I'm 21 now) I have always gotten hurt in some way. I've been cheated on several times, lied to, dumped for someone else, and the list goes on. Anyways, after my longest relationship, I became a ...
A. 13 December 2010: You need to stop centering your life around other people. Put your confidence only in yourself and in the love you have for yourself, no longer in anyone else. Once you learn to do this with strength, you will have the confidence to love other ... (read in full...)
My wife has a list of rules and guidelines for sex!
Q. My wife insists on having rules for sex, no oral unless we are freshly out of the shower. No cumming on her face or in her mouth. And no matter what, I have not convinced her even once to swallow. I love her dearly but, I think this kills the s...
A. 12 December 2010: Honestly, if this is your only complaint about your wife, be happy! It is understandable, that unless you are a person with a strong stomach, you will not want to give an unfresh blowjob, or get cum on your face or swallow.
But please keep in ... (read in full...)
Women who have a Facebook account turn me off. Am I alone on this?
Q. Am I the only guy in the world that won't give a girl who has a facebook acct my time of day no matter what? I can't stomach the site. It's foolish, ridiculous, petty and childish sorta like immature teenage mentality. I can understand teenagers ...
A. 12 December 2010: @Dear Jilly
I'm well aware the Facebook is a reflection of real life, but this poster can't pick out girls based on whether or not they use Facebook, he needs to actually start using his noodle and critically evaluate the people he hangs out arou... (read in full...)
Women who have a Facebook account turn me off. Am I alone on this?
Q. Am I the only guy in the world that won't give a girl who has a facebook acct my time of day no matter what? I can't stomach the site. It's foolish, ridiculous, petty and childish sorta like immature teenage mentality. I can understand teenagers ...
A. 11 December 2010: I'm sorry but you must be hanging around the wrong girls if you think tht every girl with a Facebook account is immature. Facebook has been an awesome way for people worldwide to reconnet and better connect with people in their life who live at a ... (read in full...)
Am I in love with my teacher?
Q. Kso. I have a problem. and Im confused about it. I have this teacher. and He is always there for me. He is sweet, kind, and it seems like he focuses more on me, than anyone else. For example; 1. He ALWAYS seems to make eye contact with me....
A. 11 December 2010: Yes, well you're saying you're in love. What I'm saying is you're not in love its just a crush. It is absolutely impossible to be in love with someone you don't know well. And you don't know him well, you only know him as a teacher at school.. ... (read in full...)
Is it a turnoff to look older than you really are?
Q. I was out the other night with a group of friends, we went to a restaurant to eat. Our waitress looked about my age and was fairly attractive, and I made a comment to my friends saying as much. My friend's girlfriend looked at me funny and made a ...
A. 10 December 2010: Well, if you do look that much older than your age, then yes unfortunately this can be a cause for why you may have been turned down... luckily there are plenty of things you can do to look younger including, the way you dress, cut your hair, act, ... (read in full...)
Should I work on my marriage?
Q. About a year ago my husband confessed he cheated on me while I was pregnant with our now four year old. I was so hurt by the betrayal. Anyway we ended up separating and our marriage was over. I ran into a friend of a friend who I was always VERY ...
A. 10 December 2010: My god I can't believe you're the one being made to feel guilty for the way you feel in this situation... don't let anyone convince you that you should try to work it out with your husband, I would never let anyone convince me of that if my husband ... (read in full...)
I'm always talking about trust and now I've gone and kissed another girl. What do I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years with my girl. Things have been really rocky over the last few months and we've talked about knocking it on the head at least once but then worked it out somehow. I'm totaly confused, do I love her and ...
A. 10 December 2010: You need to 'fess up, if you want to keep this relationship honest. Whether or not the relationship survives, that's up to her. It's that simple... if you want to do the absolute right thing, this is what you must do.... (read in full...)
Is it too late for me? To have a boyfriend?
Q. I`ve been feeling really sad lately and could use some advice. I can accept an honest answer, although I really had to get my courage up to ask this. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I`m really scared that at my age it`s too late. I`m worrie...
A. 10 December 2010: You're never too old at any age to have a boyfriend in your own age range... I think the only thing keeping you back is lack of self-esteem and initiative to find your mate. You need to aggressively seek him out, with confidence and determination. ... (read in full...)
Am I in love with my teacher?
Q. Kso. I have a problem. and Im confused about it. I have this teacher. and He is always there for me. He is sweet, kind, and it seems like he focuses more on me, than anyone else. For example; 1. He ALWAYS seems to make eye contact with me....
A. 10 December 2010: Ummm... everything you've written down are just symptoms of a typical student crush on the teacher... you'll get over it, trust me... move on... he's just being nice to you, it doesn't mean he wants to be with you in any way... the reason you think ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm in love with my brother-in-law
Q. Please let me explain in detail. I have been with my husband for 8 years, we have only been married for 3 years. We have two kids under 5. Our marriage has been on the rocks for about as long as we have been married because we had kids right away ...
A. 10 December 2010: You need to use all the energy you spend thinking of the brother in law, to think of ways to improve the marriage... the marriage just needs to be 50/50 equal... if you both work you both need to share in housework and childrearing, and if only he ... (read in full...)
All I want is the keys back, why the silence from my ex?
Q. Hi everyone hope someone can help me with this. My ex girlfriend of 5 years dumped me with no specific reason no fighting arguing cheating etc... We were living 2 and half years together and when she left she forgot to leave spare keys for the hou...
A. 10 December 2010: it means that she is done with the relationship, and that if you want the spare key that much, you might as well change the lock instead...... (read in full...)
Will the size of my boobs even out?
Q. Girls... I need your advice. So im 15, and I am size 36C. The thing is, one boob is bigger than the other. Will they even out eventually, and if so, when? And like during sex (im not having it) do guys find that unattractive? Also, is it normal for ...
A. 10 December 2010: When I was developing I had that size difference in my boobs too... to be honest I haven't checked in years whether or not the difference is still there... so obviously it has not been an issue... I'm 28 and married...... (read in full...)
Why do guys like anal sex with women?
Q. Why do guys like anal sex with women? Is it because it feels different or a bit "dirty?"...
A. 9 December 2010: I believe that also it could be because the anal hole is tighter... but this also means that it is very painful for the female. Does not feel natural. It feels painful. I know there are some women who can put up with it, and even enjoy it. Not ... (read in full...)
My wife has feelings for a much younger "friend".
Q. Dear Cupid, how is everyone doing. I am a happily married man with a sitaution. My wife has admitted to me that she had an affair with a younger man and said that she was falling in love with him. But the whole time, she said that she never fell ...
A. 9 December 2010: Let me get this straight... she cheated on you with another man, and you're asking yourself if YOU are "wrong"? If I was in your place I would have filed for divorce the second she told me she cheated. I don't understand people who, upon finding ... (read in full...)
I'm a widower who has fallen in love with my divorced sister-in-law!
Q. help me.i have fallen in love with my sister in law.i am a widower and she is the sister of my now deceased wife.she is divorced and we both have grown up children. i know that she also has feelings for me but feels that our love is wrong and will...
A. 9 December 2010: There is absolutely nothing wrong with this! Just as an aside, did you know that there are even passages in the Bible that say if a man dies, his brother should take his wife? Well, that's not the reason why. :) The point is that your wife is ... (read in full...)
Why do men cheat with nasty females?
Q. I have been in two serious realationships both ended with them cheating on me. The problem is the female they choose to cheat with are nasty girls who don't care what they do or who they do it with. So my question is why men cheat with nasty girls...
A. 9 December 2010: Men who would cheat, would cheat with anyone. Whatever is convenient, whatever throws itself at them, whatever they can throw themselves at.... Women who would cheat, would also cheat with anyone. Anyone who has any standards at all, *wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what do you think of a 40 year old virgin? No, not the movie.
Q. OK, here is a simple and straight-forward question for the ladies. I am going to be honest, and I want the HONEST truth, as you see it. I am a male, 39, going to be 40 in 3 months. I am a virgin. Mostly I am a virgin because I believe sex sho...
A. 9 December 2010: Well, part of me would wonder why you're still a virgin cause most people don't wait that long, but then also part of me would like it because its definitely a sign that you're a lover not a user... overall, if I were single, I would totally want to ... (read in full...)
Can't afford a divorce, which is only harming my kids and myself in this marriage!
Q. I am 44 years old, have been married for 20 years, and have two children. A boy 14, and a 5 year old daughter. My relationship with my wife has been "ok" up until about 7 years ago. We went to counseling (had to fight her tooth and nail to make her ...
A. 9 December 2010: What a bunch of crock whoever told you sex is not required for a true and spiritual marriage! We're living on earth, not the afterlife! I have found at least one website that disagrees, thank God. Keep trying to find a Catholic authority that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an alcohol problem and broke my nose.
Q. Hi I am 20 years old liveing with my boyfriend who is 35. Everthing was just fine until he started drinking realy bad! I have left him becasu of him hitting me on two different occasions but I took him back! About a week ago he broke my nose. ...
A. 9 December 2010: He broke your nose???? And you're still contemplating getting back together with him????? Are you sure you have a tiny shred of self-esteem left????? ... (read in full...)
How can I conceal these stretch marks before prom?
Q. Hi! :) Ok I feel really paranoid because my prom is in 2 weeks and I have stretch marks on my legs, the thing is, I'm wearing a knee length dress because I'm not actually overweight, (size 8/10) so I have no idea why I have these stretchmarks and...
A. 9 December 2010: It is actually pretty common for teenagers to get stretch marks due to quick growths spurts during this age. Look it up online, it's true! I've hard stretch marks on my butt ever since I was a teen, and I was a slim looking teen! I don't give ... (read in full...)
Why do women play hard to get?
Q. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, but I get extremely angry when a woman is interested in me but she plays hard to get. Why do women do that? Why can't they just throw themselves at you if they are genuinely interested. It w...
A. 8 December 2010: Well, personally I too hate the hard to get game, and I am a woman. But remember guys play this game too. It's human nature, to want the other person to chase you, in order to secure in your mind the depth of their interest. Again, remember that ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about cheating on my girlfriend, but I don't intend on leaving her for this other girl!
Q. i am cheating on my girl friend and i am feeling really bad about it.My other girl friend broke up with her guy for me and she is in love with me as well.And just to make her feel better,i ended up saying that she is the one for me and because of ...
A. 8 December 2010: I would hate to be either one of these girls, but most of all I would hate to be you. You're hurting hearts big time. Is this the person you want to be? Either make good on your promise to this new girl to be with her, or else come clean to both ... (read in full...)
Thinking of marriage but want to experience other men first!
Q. Im 16 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. I'm completely in love and my mom has given him her permission to marry me when we graduate. The thing is, is that ive been wanting to experience sex with someone ...
A. 8 December 2010: "When we get married Im not going to cheat. I would much rather do it now before im completely tied down."
Ahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!!! That right there says it all right there!!! Are you actually on this website looking ... (read in full...)
Why is dating her so wrong!?
Q. My girlfriend is 15 and I am 19. We are not sexually active. Everyone is telling me it is wrong, but I don't know why. The only answers I have received so far are: -She is in a different part of life and we should have nothing in common. -I have t...
A. 8 December 2010: Personally, I don't think dating her is wrong. Please do remember however that it is considered illegal for you to have sexual relations with her until she is 18 or whatever is the age of consent for the state you are in.... (read in full...)
Worried about what my family will say about me dating a 40 year old....
Q. hey i am 22 almost 23. I have a friend that is 40 and i know he has strong feelings for me. I'm starting to have feelings for him too. Would it be out of the question to start a relationship with him? He's seperated with an 18 and an 11 year old ...
A. 7 December 2010: The age difference is too much for a lifetime relationship. If you're looking for short-term fling that's different, but not good for long-term. YOu're in completely different phases of you life, (he already has children!) and if you married this ... (read in full...)
Can't afford a divorce, which is only harming my kids and myself in this marriage!
Q. I am 44 years old, have been married for 20 years, and have two children. A boy 14, and a 5 year old daughter. My relationship with my wife has been "ok" up until about 7 years ago. We went to counseling (had to fight her tooth and nail to make her ...
A. 7 December 2010: Did you know about this attitude with sex when you married her? Is there no way that you can have couple counseling at the Catholic church? Get a Catholic "authority figure" to tell her its ok to have sex. People like her are raised to not think ... (read in full...)
Can't afford a divorce, which is only harming my kids and myself in this marriage!
Q. I am 44 years old, have been married for 20 years, and have two children. A boy 14, and a 5 year old daughter. My relationship with my wife has been "ok" up until about 7 years ago. We went to counseling (had to fight her tooth and nail to make her ...
A. 7 December 2010: staying for the kids in my opinion is not a good thing, but are you sure there is nothing else that can be done for your marriage? whenever I hear people say their love life is nonexistent in a marriage, I think "What gives?" I mean, everyone likes ... (read in full...)
Stop and stare!
Q. Please read everything and help me out. Much appreciated! I am a black girl who happens to be attracted to any race of male, black, white, asian, latino, doesn't matter to me. An attractive guy is an attractive guy. I am a college-age girl a...
A. 7 December 2010: I don't think it matters if you're a guy or girl, if you're interested in someone, go for it! Ask them out! Stop focusing so much on other guys reactions or lack there of to you, whats important is how YOU feel: do you want to go on a date with ... (read in full...)
He only seems interested in computer games and compost pile!
Q. I have been with my husband for 5 years and married 2. We have two children. We are having a problem in our marriage. We have been fighting for 3 years. We have some major cracks in our marriage. From money, to his parents, to the house we live in, ...
A. 6 December 2010: No, its not ok! A marriage is a commitment you continuously work on and only abandon as a last resort! People expect their relationships to work without putting any work into them. I keep saying a relationship is like a car it needs constant ... (read in full...)
She's leaving for Thailand in 1 month for 3 months, should I wait??
Q. hi ... so ive met this girl on the internet about 3 months ago, we have met up about 5 times as she lives 2hours drive away. weve had sex which was amazing and like each others company very much. but theres one problem.... shes going a...
A. 6 December 2010: "If it happens it happens" means that she is not feeling committed to you in the same way you feel for her. Don't set your heart on her, go out there and have fun yourself. You're still plenty young and have your whole life ahead of you. Those ... (read in full...)
If 6 years of not talking hasn't worked, what will stop these feelings?
Q. This is going to be a long one. I met this guy online years ago and we clicked, We were great friends, but then we started falling for each other. Because he lives in another country I pushed him away and we stopped talking. We haven't been in ...
A. 6 December 2010: Sounds to me, at this point, like a case of "find out, or always wonder what could've been" if you're both legitimately single, why not give it a shot? Life is too short, to not take a few crazy chances, girl :) ... (read in full...)
How do I revive my marriage
Q. I have been married since 1967 to my wife,we have 3 children all married and 7 grand children.I was a drinker and a flirt almost all our life,I quit drinking without any help 12 years ago,I only wish I had done it 39 years ago.My wife and I had good ...
A. 6 December 2010: well, in theory she is the closest person in your life, your heart and soul, so you should just be able to, in theory, walk up to her and ask her to help you work on reviving your sex life... in reality, it might be a little awkward given the 5 year ... (read in full...)
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