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writes:Kso. I have a problem. and Im confused about it. I have this teacher. and He is always there for me. He is sweet, kind, and it seems like he focuses more on me, than anyone else. For example;1. He ALWAYS seems to make eye contact with me. Even when he is joking, or teaching. 2. He focuses on me the most; he always greets me with that warm smile of his and a simple hello, or somethimes a high five, whatever he wants. and When Im quiet; or dont participate or anything; he always asks if im okay. Or takes me outside, to talk to me. 3. When I dont get much done, he slides it off as nothing.4. Alot of times, he takes away homework for me.5. When Im all alone, he wants to be by me.6. He.. can always make me smile and laugh. He is the best person I know; the best person at cheering me up. and Well; I think im in love with him. Which is crazy. At first; I kinda made fun of him, trying to fit in. But I totally regret it now. and Then; I kinda thought of it as a teacher/student normal thing. But then it grew to a friendship. Then, when I started talking to him more. It grew to a kind of... uh... "father figure" I guess you could say. He knows I've been through alot. and I can talk to him about anything. He is sorta.. like a mentor. But; Whats driving me nuts and making me think im in love with him is;1. I started having dreams about him. It started off as a simple smiling dream of him. But its growen to sex dreams. Which I can't control.2. I often find myself gazing into his eyes. Though, I try not to. He has greenish, kinda hazal eyes. Many colors. I tried counting them once. 3. I can't help but smile when he is around.4. I glance at him alot more.I dont know why these things are happening. But I think I love him. He is, amazing. But I don't even want to think about having this whole thing on him. Its more than just a crush. Im afraid to lose him. and I dont want to be a mess on the last day of school. I want to know though, before things get out of hand. Does it seem like i'm in love with him?Please, answers would be good.12/9/2010
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reader, eagle101 +, writes (12 December 2010):
To me it sounds like your infatuated with him. So something more than "like" and a little less than "love". I have a teacher that is like that, he even took me home once. He always asks me if I'm okay if I look a little down or don't participate in class too. He's always staring at me in the halls too, so it makes me feel like I need to say "hello". I hope this helps in some way.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Yes, well you're saying you're in love. What I'm saying is you're not in love its just a crush. It is absolutely impossible to be in love with someone you don't know well. And you don't know him well, you only know him as a teacher at school.. but you don't know the real him, who he is outside of school... That's what separates a crush from true love... a crush is an infatuation based on limited information, and goes away once more information is brought to light... right now its impossible to tell if you are in love with him or not, this would require you two hanging out together outside of school, which is not recommended, because he is your teacher.
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reader, aero234 +, writes (11 December 2010):
aero234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats not what im trying to say. You guys dont understand. Im not saying he likes me. But I think i like him, more than a teacher. Wow, you guys are ridiculous. He is being friendly to me, as a nice teacher. Which is the first. Another reason why im thinking i like him more than a teacher. So stop with that shitttt. & get it straight.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (10 December 2010):
Ummm... everything you've written down are just symptoms of a typical student crush on the teacher... you'll get over it, trust me... move on... he's just being nice to you, it doesn't mean he wants to be with you in any way... the reason you think that his niceness means something more, is because you're wishing that it did, and you're making yourself believe that... it's the timeless story of the teacher crush :)
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reader, walshie93  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 What I think you should do is picture yourself as the teacher.
Just try that. Try and write down how you think your teacher feels about you.
Regardless of your feelings, you need to remember, he is an adult, in the working world and in a position of trust to teach and mentor you.
Feelings can make you act and see things in very different ways.
It is why people over think bad things in a relationship, it is why jealousy can manifest itself in the slightest gesture to another person. Every action has an opposite and equal reaction. If someone over thinks something to the extent it becomes bad then you can also over think something to make yourself BELIEVE it is there.
So again. Put yourself in your teachers shoes.
You may have a family and a wife.
What good is going to come from you hearing one of your students saying they love you?
Surely you were just trying to help her our and she comes out with some ridiculous speech about me looking at her differently? I'm sorry, is there s specific way that when you look at a person you AUTOMATICALLY MUST LOVE THEM?
All I want to do is try and teach and I have this girl who thinks she loves me. It is fairly awkward, I have children, a daughter or a son who is the same age as her, it is wrong and slightly disturbing. I am now afraid to help her out any more in case she gets the wrong idea.
If you can do that, write a question from your teachers point of view after you declare your undying love for them, then I will be very impressed.
However. In the short term, no, you cannot love him
He is a teacher to you. Do you know all the bad things about him? All that has gone on in his life? His mother and fathers names? Does he have any pets? What is his favourite food? Is he allergic to certain things?
The list goes on and on my friend. It is an infatuation with a figure you respect. Please do not ruin this man's career because you think you love him.
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