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writes:Please read everything and help me out. Much appreciated!I am a black girl who happens to be attracted to any race of male, black, white, asian, latino, doesn't matter to me. An attractive guy is an attractive guy.I am a college-age girl and have been told that I am attractive and look like and am as dark as Gabrielle Union, except with a "video model" body (I dress more conservatively than most because of this fact).The thing is that I have had plenty of white guys stare at me like they've never seen a girl before. They stare...and stare...and stare...and that's it. Admittedly, it gets unnerving how much these guys stare at me. They never approach me, though. I know that several of them have liked me because they have told my friends, but they don't talk to me about it.What's that about? Why don't they just ask me out? I do approach them to show them that I am harmless, but they stutter and stammer, then cut the conversation short. If they don't do this, they are over-friendly and do everything short of asking me out, as if they are waiting for me to ask them out (I will never do this, I know it is the 21st century).Black guys tend to be the most forward, lol. Asian guys are not into me whatsoever, they are nice and can be cute. I think white guys and latino guys are cute, but I don't date them, because they don't ask.I hope I didn't sound conceited or anything in describing myself, but it was necessary, I think. Thanks for the help and any opinions would be nice!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 A lot of guys are very intimidated by beautiful girls. If you are interested in a particular guy, try and show him that you are and he might feel more confident. Confident enough to talk to you properly, without accidentally coming off as pretentious or overtly friendly.
I hope that helps.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Yes, I want to know the answer as well! I think gorgeous girls are just intimidating, we seem too high class perhaps? I found the best way to get in touch was to actually not dress up at all, or do my hair or anything, but look like a random girl or someone you wouldn't normally look at twice, and then charm the guys when they approach. It's difficult.
Try finding a small group of people who you are 100% relaxed and comfortable with. I think when guys can relax and be themselves in your company they will see you don't bite. My problem is how to get them one on one... because if I could only do that I am sure I'd be able to convince them Im not scary.
The alternative is to stay high class, and wait for a man with the guts and courage to approach you, he will surely be worthy! But it's boring to wait...
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (7 December 2010):
 I don't think it matters if you're a guy or girl, if you're interested in someone, go for it! Ask them out! Stop focusing so much on other guys reactions or lack there of to you, whats important is how YOU feel: do you want to go on a date with him? If yes, then ask him out for goodness sake! That's the simplest answer I can give you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Sounds like your a very beautiful woman and these guys don't approach or ask because they find you intimidating. If you want to date one of these guys, why don't smile or wink at them, or do some other flirting?
I bet it would be unnerving to be stared at and not talked to. But most men are used to beautiful woman rejecting them. So they figure why ask?
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reader, krysberry +, writes (7 December 2010):
 maybe they are intimidated by you. lol maybe just try to find a way to let them know for sure you are into them. or just go for it! say something like we should go out sometime or lets get together nothing wrong with a girl making the move. trust me i never thought i would but if i hadn't stepped up i wouldn't be with who im with now and im so happy i decided to make that move even though i said i never would
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