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writes:I have been married since 1967 to my wife,we have 3 children all married and 7 grand children.I was a drinker and a flirt almost all our life,I quit drinking without any help 12 years ago,I only wish I had done it 39 years ago.My wife and I had good sexual relations,and we talked about everything.About 10 years ago she began dressing sexy,and had a whole new personality, mostly caused by me. I never ever cheated on her, not once but even I would have trouble buying that but its true. BUT I dont think she has cheated either, since we are never apart,and the only time she has is 45 minute lunch breaks at work. She is a huge flirt too and looks great,she is 63 and you would guess 43 or younger, but lets get to the problem......we stopped having sex 5-6 years now, We had sex 2 times in 5 years,and we rarely talk,its like we are strangers, yet either one of us would defend the other, or be there for each other in a flash should something go wrong......heres my question.......HOW DO YOU START A RELATIONSHIP UP AGAIN
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (7 December 2010):
 YAY! good for you. I hope everything works out. Keep us updated!
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reader, nanbob1 +, writes (7 December 2010):
nanbob1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat responces and I see a general theme in the answers,much of which Ia had considered,but now I will give it a try.I believe dating her is the answer,doing it from love will help,as for jewlrey,she hates it,but loves yellow roses,and getting,hair,nail,tan and massage days,I will have to go to school for the later :),thanks folks,you definitly gave me ideas............bob
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Maybe try spiffing yourself up, get a makeover, new clothes, and do romantic things for her. Ask her on a date,take her away somewhere, set the mood. Buy her a beautiful piece of jewelry to commemorate your love. good luck.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
Take her on a date. Its the same as when you first started dating. Have you told her she looks beautiful when she wakes up. You say she dresses sexy(which i bet is a turn on) have you told her that. Given womens sex drive decreases as they get older, you can revive it. You have to give to get. Have you tried talking to her. Finding out what her fav flowers are, share things, go to the movies. SHOW INTEREST IN HER. After how ever many years of marriage saying i love you and simple kisses wont turn her on. Dont make it just sex. Be romantic I know it sound cheesy and it is! But if it works who cares?? Show her that nothing has changed.(besides what has drinking) You most likely stopped drinking for her(some part of you) Have you told her/thanked her for that? You prolly put her through a difficult time. So shes pulled back. You are going to have to put a ton of effort into it. She may misread you intentions(random change in you mood) but if you try hard enough, long enough you'll get it!
Good Luck!
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (6 December 2010):
 well, in theory she is the closest person in your life, your heart and soul, so you should just be able to, in theory, walk up to her and ask her to help you work on reviving your sex life... in reality, it might be a little awkward given the 5 year gap with no sex... however since with old age this is not necessarily strange, so it'll just be a matter of improving and reviving the true love you have together... think of it as an improvement on something already good, not a fix on something faulty... don't focus on the 5 years no sex when you ask her, focus on the love you have for each other, and be PATIENT, she may have a lot of questions when you bring it up, like maybe be confused, like "What gives, why now?" or she might be completely enthusiastic... just be prepared for any reaction, and be prepared to be patient, persistent gentle and loving in your approach of this... not sure what else to say... good luck
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