Which path to follow.....your head or your heart?
Q. How do you know whether to follow your head or your heart? I'm a 23 year old gal, I like this girl I met a few weeks ago she seems cool, don't know much about her but my head tells me she seems nice, we joke together and flirt a bit and she's ho...
A. 11 July 2013: As a newly single 23 year old bi woman (was with a woman for 2 years last) i am finding that i am dipping my toes in the lesbian and straight pool at the moment and now i am sinlge all these older people seem to be acctracted to me so the age thing ... (read in full...)
Every guy I date treats me like they don't care about me?
Q. Last year I started dating and I've been through crap every since. Every guy treats me like I dont even matter. Being a gay male it's hard to find someone. So i turned to a dating app and I have met 10 guys on there and they all do me the same. Make ...
A. 22 June 2013: i dont want to sound harsh here but how can you get angry that they are clearly seeing other people when your doing it too? you sound really desperate to get attention and thats all wrong, you need to learn to be happy by yourself so you dont come ... (read in full...)
Lesbian LDR and I need help. Is our relationship going no where?
Q. Guys I need help My girlfriend says she is not gay or bi but not 100% straight neither… I am sooooo confused …Although I understand that we shouldn't be putting labels on ourselves but I just don't feel our relationship is secure. Almost all my f...
A. 11 June 2013: i myself have been in a relationship with factors like yours and i officially put an end to it afew days ago after being on and off for the past year ( 2 and a half years in totoal we were together) as hard as it is and believe me i understand how ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her no without hurting her feelings?
Q. i've known this girl for @ least more than a year now and we've been friends, im 18 n she's 24. I like her so much and appreciates the friendship. I hav a bf, a guy i so much love n will not like to loose. To the story, the way she behaves wen im ...
A. 11 June 2013: first of all i'd like to know if you were turned on or it because of her reaction you let her do it??? that part doesnt make sense and you cant answer this properly without knowing... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend if shes involved with a female?
Q. I'm starting to think my best female friend might be in a relationship with another girl, and I don't know if I should ask her about it or not? Ever since I have known her (nursery school), she has been desperate for a boyfriend. She has no problem ...
A. 8 November 2012: i think these previous answers are alittle harsh, yes everyone has the right to privacy but atleast she has someone who cares enough to admit they miss their friend and seek advice about whether to ask her or not. to the op i think its possible that ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my female ex-teacher, but I've never had a relationship with a woman before!
Q. Im 21years old now when i was 14 at primary i had a crush on my female teacher it was deep and strong,then i went to high school eventualy i forgot all about her and enjoyed my high school life and had a boyfriend we dated for over 7 years. but ...
A. 8 November 2012: i think you should find out if she feels anything for you and if she does then just go for it and enjoy eachother, we all worry too much and over think things when its not always needed. the bottom line is you have someone in your life that you feel ... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm telling lies. So many misunderstandings. How do I convince her that I am the one telling the truth?
Q. i posted a question a couple weeks back and got some good feedback. i wanted to see if i couldn't get a few more opinions and elaborate on the most recent happenings. about six weeks ago, my girlfriend had asked to use my phone to look something u...
A. 8 November 2012: i broke up with my girlfriend yesterday (well we havent actually been official for the last few months but we have been trying to fix it) due to trust issues and ok mine were much more serious than the ones she has with you but at the end of the day ... (read in full...)
During break-up, lesbian wife slept with a man.....eww!
Q. Due to major unresolved problems in our relationship, I chose to leave my partner of nine years on July 4, 2010. We had been having problems since Feburary, but on that day I could take no more. Yes. I am the one the left, but I didn't leave with ...
A. 12 December 2010: in all honesty you have no right to be mad to her for sleeping with anyone (man or woman) when your the one who started seeing someone first because after all that time of being with someone and then seeing them moving on is crushing and hurts so we ... (read in full...)
Should I risk losing our friendship, or hold my feelings in?
Q. Hi, im 24 years old and I'm in a relationship with a guy for 4 years now. I love him and can't see my life without him, but I've fallen for my best friend who is a girl. She is my life, I love her so much, and we cant go a day without talking to ...
A. 7 November 2010: you should follow your heart and tell her how you feel
feelings like that shouldnt be hidden and it sounds like she feels the same but maybe she's just affraid of what it will mean for her life which is why she said it shouldnt happen again but you ... (read in full...)
Is my wife a lesbian?
Q. my wife of 30th years did have a lesbian,love relationship, with woman, five years ago, when i found out, i was devastated, the woman,live across the st.before,me and my wife did have a great sex life, after, the lesbian affiar she hates, oral sex, ...
A. 7 November 2010: letting go of someone we love is the hardest thing we will ever do but sometimes we have to walk away from the people we love in order to let them be happy.you need sit down with your wife and ask her all the questions you want answers to otherwise ... (read in full...)
How do I find out in a subtle way what my chances are with her?
Q. Hi everyone I would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next. I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love wi...
A. 7 November 2010: and please feel free to message me if you would like to talk somemore ... (read in full...)
In love with my hubby and a woman friend.
Q. I am miserable and need to find a way to resolve something that I brought on myself. I'm married and have 3 teenage kids but I'm bisexual and my hubby knows. I've been married 22 years and I'm not divorced but my hubby and I don't live together but ...
A. 6 November 2010: your being selfish here and you have to decide who you want once and for all! its unfair of you to ask her that and its unfair to hurt her like you have so you have to tell her the truth,if you love her like you say you do then you would have enough ... (read in full...)
How do I find out in a subtle way what my chances are with her?
Q. Hi everyone I would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next. I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love wi...
A. 6 November 2010: Sounds like this could have been written about me,i was your friend and my now...well we are just going with the flow and seeing how things go but they are great so far and she had the same problem as you she didnt want to risk loseing me and was ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my best friend and she's a female!
Q. Hey everybody ? I need some help plz! Sorry for the length btw, but ther was a lot to say!!! Ok I'm not entirely sure where to start, but here it goes... About 6 months ago i noticed i was really attracted to one of my closest friends. I hav...
A. 20 September 2009: I dont think i agree with mossy although she could be rite like the fact that you have made out loads of times,she talks about having sex with you,being attracted to girls,being jealous of you hooking up with someone else,the looks and the little ... (read in full...)
He gives me pleasure but doesn't seem to want it from me! What's happening?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and i hope its true when he tells me lovely things. yesterday he told me that hes fallen for me, and hes not the sort of boy who likes saying i love you etc. But there is one problem... whenever we do ...
A. 20 September 2009: You should just ask him sex is supposed to be fun for both of you if he is not enjoying it then you should talk about why he isn't.... (read in full...)
I am 18, she is 13, can we get engaged?
Q. i like a girl in Mansfield but she love me will it be ok to get engaged to her, they are 13 years and i am 18 years old ? ...
A. 25 August 2009: she is a child no its not ok and i hope to god your are not having sex with her.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my friend and I think she likes me too, how should I go about this?
Q. Im so confused, i need help. Im 15, gay, and Im in love with my best friend, have been now for about 9 months. She used to say she was bi, then straight, then she didnt know and just yesterday she said she was bi again. My friends reckon she likes ...
A. 17 July 2009: just tell her it may make it awkward but on the other hand you may end up getting everything you wont, is it worth the risk?... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I don't think I'm ready yet?
Q. My girlfriend who I have been going out with for over a year and a half. I love her so much and would do anything for her. Now lately, we have been messing around saying sex stuff. But obviously cos we r both gay. (im bi and she is a lesbian), but ...
A. 17 July 2009: it will panic you thinking about it but its like the others said you will know when your ready and its true you do know. Just talk to her if she loves you how much you love her she will wait as long as it takes just dont do it if it not what you ... (read in full...)
I like guys who look more feminine. Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for a girl like me to be attracted to androgynous guys? (Like Johnny Depp or David Bowie) I'm 100% straight, but I just have this fetish for guys that are kind of feminine. Is that normal for a woman?...
A. 17 July 2009: i think people stress too much about trying to be "normal" whatever normal is. As long as your happy what does it matter.... (read in full...)
What can I do to make boys like me?
Q. Hey xx Im a typical teenage girl. And ever since I started secondary school I have been reallly open about everything and sometimes I feel I am too open about things and make boys feel uncomfortable. I laugh a lot and always talk to boys. I like a...
A. 11 June 2009: you carnt do anything and you should not change who you are for a guy so just be yourself and eventually you will meet somone who loves for who you are.This boy who you are talking about just tell him how you feel that way you will know how he ... (read in full...)
Do you think dating other girls can make her jealous or do you think my hope is lost?
Q. I dated this girl for about a year, pretty much all throughout our senior year of high school. we took things very slow and over the course of the rest of the school year and into summer we fell in love. We were each other's best friend and told ...
A. 11 March 2009: i think you should follow what your heart is telling you you seem to have thought this through so go for it. you are rite it is not doing you any good so it has to stop being the way it is. i hope it works out for you.... (read in full...)
He raped me, and is now dating my sister! What should I do?
Q. About 4 years ago, I was raped. I was 15 at the time, I am 19 now. I never told anyone but my sister. And I told her to never tell anyone. She gave me her promise. (She is 24 now) it all happend on april 4th 2004. I was coming home from visiting my ...
A. 28 February 2009: You need to tell them, wot you did was amazing but do you really wont your sister with a rapist he could end up being abusive to her and he could still be raping people because if he doesnt remember you it carnt have been the first time he has done ... (read in full...)
Do you think dating other girls can make her jealous or do you think my hope is lost?
Q. I dated this girl for about a year, pretty much all throughout our senior year of high school. we took things very slow and over the course of the rest of the school year and into summer we fell in love. We were each other's best friend and told ...
A. 28 February 2009: Wow you really love this girl dont you, you're right, feelings don't just turn off over night, of course she still loves you but being in a long distance relationship is really hard and a lot of the time it don't work because you need to be with ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to fall in love with your own aunt?
Q. Please HELP, I am a young guy and I fell in love with my mom's sister and we both are in love for 2 years, we did everything (kissing, licking, pressing) but not sexual intercourse, is this bad to fall in love or to marry own aunt? This is not a ...
A. 28 February 2009: if you dont be together you are both going to be unhappy but you have to ask yourself is it worth looseing your family because it could happen. if you decide to be together its always guna be hard because alot of people dont think its right but we ... (read in full...)
I need help choosing between them, advice would be appreciated?
Q. alright, to set it off, im bi, currently liking girls. problem is choosing between two of them. alright, heres the scenerio, basically, im torn between two ladies. when we start to look for significant others, we have certain "ideals" right? ...
A. 22 February 2009: The fact that you call C your safety says it all and from the way you talk about Z i would say you are more into her. Everyone does have a certain type of person that they think they should be with but when you meet someone that makes your life more ... (read in full...)
I think there is something between us..how do I tell her?
Q. Well, Im 15, bi and recently came out to my friends. One of my friends I am really close to (lets call her X), and I really fancy her and months ago she said she was bi, but then told our other friend that she was not. Then, a few minutes after I ...
A. 21 February 2009: she could like you if she is bi but she could just be playing games with you or the things that you have described could not mean anything. you should just ask her otherwise you may never no she could be afraid to make the first move so go for it! ... (read in full...)
Affair with a married man - why is it so hard to choose?
Q. I am having an affair with a married man whom i met 16 years ago and then he suddenly appeared again in my life at my grandma funeral. He is married and they have 3 kids. They are not getting along very well and been not sharing the same room fo...
A. 21 February 2009: BECAUSE YOU ARE HIS BIT ON THE SIDE! he wont leave his family and he will put them first. What youre doing is wrong so many people are going to end up hurt if this comes out think about how you feel and then think about how his wife and kids will ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with one of my best friends but she also has a boyfriend.
Q. Hey Guys, I'm in a really depressing situation at the moment. About 2 years ago, I met a girl at work who pretty much made these last 2 years the best of my life. When I first met her, I was automatically attracted to her. She was the girl I h...
A. 21 February 2009: you have to talk to her about this, tell her how you feel that way if she likes you great, if not it will make it easier for you to move on although there are some people we never really get over you can move on. tell her everything you have told ... (read in full...)
I offered to have sex with my gay friend to "turn him straight"! What now?
Q. I'm going to be 16 soon. I've known this gay friend for years now and we're really good friends. I tell him everything and vice versa. A while ago, he was really depressed because the guy he likes for a long time finally decided to tell him the ...
A. 31 January 2009: I think he wonts to use you to fit in and who better to do that with than your best friend. You need to sit him down and have a serious talk and help him understand that there is nothing wrong with being gay and yes there are somepeople that will ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend to bits.... but he's really bad in bed!
Q. Ok I posted a question a couple of days ago about my boyfriend. Basically he's the nicest guy in the world and we really get on, he's really snuggly and everything but theres a catch, he's really bad in bed. It started off me just thinking he was ...
A. 17 January 2009: Sex is a major part of a relationship and if things arnt good in the bedroom it effects the relationship you may not wont it to but it will. I think you should talk to him about it tell him how much you like him and enjoy being with him but tell him ... (read in full...)
Fighting a lot... Honestly I rather sleep on the lumpy couch than be in the same bed as her.
Q. Me and my wife have been fighting a lot lately. We normally fight about my work hours. She says I'm not spreading enough with her. I usually get up at 5:00am and won't get home until 8:00pm (I actually get off at 5:00 but I like to work over time) ...
A. 17 January 2009: ok i'd be mad at you aswell if i never saw you because you would rather be out drinking than spending time with me, i mean come on you go to work at 5.00 am then you dont come home till 3 then in the morning. Everyone needs some time with friends to ... (read in full...)
Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 31 December 2008: You no me an my brother were talking about this the other day and we just went round in circles. I dont believe in god i dont belive he made us and this world because if he did why is he letting it be destroyed. why does he let all the killers and ... (read in full...)
My mom's boyfriend cheated on her with me. I don't know what to do in this situation but I don't want her to be with a guy like him!
Q. I have this problem and I'm not sure how to handle it. I'm gay. I came out years ago and my family have always been cool about it since they saw it coming. My mother especially as I always stood by her and helped her through a divorce to my father. ...
A. 7 September 2008: i agree with lance you should stop acting like the innocent party i mean how could you do that to your mother, she is going to be crushed but you have to tell her if you love her at all you cannot let her stay with a guy that would have sex with her ... (read in full...)
In love with my sister's best friend who is straight. Do you think she is playing with me? Also, could my bi colleague like me?
Q. ok so here it goes. it started 2 years ago. i'm a girl and i fell in love with my sisters best friend. i had a boyfriend back there and it was the first time i actually had feelings for another girl. first it was just a crush u know i thought ...
A. 7 September 2008: it sounds like your sisters friend is just toying with you because she knows you like her if she has always had every boys attention then she will love having attention from a girl also, I know its hard to get over someone when you are crazy about ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but I'm afraid I might be pregnant. Am I?
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend had sexual intercourse on Monday. we did not use protection and he came inside me. i have been taking the pill for 6 weeks now and not missed one out or anything and i am still taking them. the only trouble is i fee...
A. 7 September 2008: you should go to your doctors they will do a test for you and then can talk with you about all your worries and what you are going to do about the situation, don't be scared to because you need to know either way don't you and thats what doctors are ... (read in full...)
Double whammy...I need advice!
Q. I need help,im almost 16 an my boyfriend is almost 14.We dont go to same school anymore but,we reallyyy like eachother, yet we've been a couple for only a week now.And,he wants to have sex with me badly.I'm not sure if i'm ready an if i am ready,i ...
A. 21 August 2008: Sounds to me like he just wants sex from you, you have only been together a week and he is telling you he loves you. Put him to the test tell him you want to wait if he has a problem with it dump him he is not worth it, dont have sex till your ready ... (read in full...)
Are we going out or just friends - Sorry its long, but please help.
Q. I have a very serious question and need your advise. 8 months ago i met this awesome girl through a friend and we hit it off from the start and ended making out the night we met. But as i said i wasnt looking for anything serious so i told her fr...
A. 7 August 2008: friends with benifits dont work!someone always ends up getting hurt.Maybe while you were away somthing happend with another guy or she realised that she wants more than just friends with benifits and just does not think you can give that to her, so ... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 3 August 2008: Get rid of him,you are not comfortable with him and if he is pressuring you now he want stop until he gets what he wants, so get rid of him.... (read in full...)
I feel like everything is going downhill at the moment...
Q. i feel like everything is going downhill for me at the moment. me and my mum keep falling out, and i mean proper massive arguments about stupid things that i have or havent done. and my love life is even worse. if i'm honest, i'm lonely. i h...
A. 3 August 2008: Everyone goes through this its all part of growing i went through the exact same thing you are going through now and it will get better eventually things just seem a lot worse than they really are right now. Message me if you want to talk.... (read in full...)
We met once in person, became long distance friends, we flirt, and kid, he has never inquired about my marital status or anything, why not, what do you think he is looking for and is it worth my time?
Q. I've being friends with this guy since a year and 1/2. We met in person b/c of business but we never talked about marital status. He had to split due other businesses far away, but I manage to contacted him short after that.He replied and we started ...
A. 3 August 2008: Sorry to say this but i dont think he wants a relationship from you with you living far apart and you only taking once or twice a month. i aggree with you i think he will probably will be with somone.you should just remain friends and you should ... (read in full...)
| *illy123's friends
These are mutual friends, so *illy123 has
added them and they have added *illy123!
|
