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writes:Hi everyoneI would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next.I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love with a woman friend. We have known each other for barely a year now and still I feel related to her in a way I have never related to anyone else. We know each other really well since we are able to talk about absolutely everything. I know that up until know she has only had relationships with men. I have once asked her that if she was to meet the love of her life would she be scared if it was a woman and she said that if it happened to be a woman that would be no reason for her to not be with that person.Of course if someone asks you that it’s always just theory and an answer is easily found but I would like to know now in a more reliable way now how exactly my chances with her are.However it is VERY important to do this in a subtle way and not put my cards on the table. I know that it could scare her to know how I feel for her in case she does not reciprocate the feelings and in no way I would want to jeopardize this friendship. Again asking directly is NOT an option so your creativity is needed now.I appreciate any feedback and contribution of ideas and I would like you for taking the time to read and reply. Reply to this Question
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reader, lilly123  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 and please feel free to message me if you would like to talk somemore
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reader, lilly123 +, writes (6 November 2010):
Sounds like this could have been written about me,i was your friend and my now...well we are just going with the flow and seeing how things go but they are great so far and she had the same problem as you she didnt want to risk loseing me and was worried i might freak out but when you connect with someone it doesnt matter what sex they are.you have to make it clear how you feel without being too full on,subtle things like unnecessary touches and looking at her alittle longer,compliments and things like that because the small things really count and after you could try the hypothetical question of a girl friend of yours has really strong feeling for her bestfriend but her bestfriend has only ever been with men so she isn't shore her feeling are reciprocated...does she risk telling her or block out these feeling because she really doesnt loose her friendship?This is a tricky situation and all you can do is follow your instincts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): You could take her out (as friends) and talk about things that she would only talk to you about. As you two grow together, she might express feelings towards you. She told you if she found the love of her life, she wouldn't care if it's a women or man...so try to be there for her when she needs you most. Be her safety net and maybe she will relize you are the one for her.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Oh and another thing. Incase she may give a negate response when you scope out other women be sure not to confuse a negative response with jealousy. Jealousy is another sign she likes you more than just a friend in this example.
But you seem like a smart person to figure all that out.
Good luck.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (6 November 2010):
I think the best subtle way would simply to first let her know you are bisexual if she doesn't know then when you tell her she'll drop a positive or negative line and say things like: I'm not interested in women Or if she is interested she'll talk about exploring that more for herself and ask open ended questions out of curiosity.
But if she already knows then you can scope out another woman in a bar or a public place and say to your friend " wow! she's sexy!" or something along those lines in order to get a response from your love interest (your friend). Again she'll drop off lines in either a positive or negative way. Positive being the signal you'll need to make your next move which could be simply a conversation about bisexuality and the sexual desires you like. At this point if she's still interested and she's courious then you could make your direct move such as a kiss ...
I hope this helps from a blokes point of view.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Does she know that you are Bi-sexual?. How does that affect your friendship. You could try asking subtle questions about the topic over a period of time, you surely would get some answers one way or another if she would like you two to be an item. Tread carefully because you could also end up making her turn away from you which would be a shame because you like her company and obviously she likes yours. Good Luck!
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