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*ebraafreak
writes:I need help,im almost 16 an my boyfriend is almost 14.We dont go to same school anymore but,we reallyyy like eachother, yet we've been a couple for only a week now.And,he wants to have sex with me badly.I'm not sure if i'm ready an if i am ready,i may not wanna do it first time with someone so much younger then me, cuz that'll wreck my reputation.I'm in highschool(freshman),he's in his last year at jr.high(8th grade).He always tells me how much he loves me an stuff,but i wonder if he just says that to get in my pants.My friends say he's using me because im older then him,that im a 'hump an dump'.I kinda believe it but i dont wanna believe it, it hurts,he's so sweet an promised me (in a text) that he would never use me.But that was in a text.Im afraid if i dont do it with him,he'll dump me an i noe people saw then hes not worth it,but im falling head over heels for him,an i try not to so i dont get hurt,I dont see him that much right now,cuz its still summer,but he rarely texts me an when he does he takes FOREVER to reply.He use to call me every night but now doesnt.is he ignoring me??or just busy on vacation?i guess there's 2 Q's to answerr.but please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): You shouldn't fall in love with someone whos almost 2 years younger than you that wants to have sex, and definitly not after only 1 week. He's obviously using you, like everyone says. Don't let him decieve you. If he really does love you, he'll wait, and not bring up sex until you're ready. Plus the legal age to have sex is 16. you're not 16 yet and neither is he. You need to wait about 2 more years for him, that is if you don't dump him soon, (I advise you do). But goodluck!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (21 August 2008):
 You've been going out for a week and he wants sex already? And you are falling him head over heels after only being with him for a week?
Sounds like he will use you. Please don't do anything. You WILL regret it.
And like others pointed out, never let anyone pressure you into something you don't want to do. Your body is your temple and it should be treated as such. No other can enter it unless you allowe them.
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reader, LonelyButNotAlone +, writes (21 August 2008):
 If he dumps you merely because you wouldn't sleep with him, he's not worth the time. If he really has strong feelings for you, he'll respect you if you tell him you aren't ready.
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reader, lilly123  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Sounds to me like he just wants sex from you, you have only been together a week and he is telling you he loves you. Put him to the test tell him you want to wait if he has a problem with it dump him he is not worth it, dont have sex till your ready and your with someone you trust and care about you only have a first time once and you will always remember it.Test him, let me no how it go's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): Sweetness this is your body, and by that it is only you who can decide whether to have sex or not. He is apparently pressing on you. Cut off with him now, and if her persisted then report him to the police. I am proud of you that you didn't allow it to happen. Best luck xx
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (21 August 2008):
 First off you should never do anything that you are are uncomfortable doing, or be pressured into doing something. By the sounds of it you are not ready to have sex at this stage, and he most certainly in not. I would reject his advances to be honest, he is way to young to be contemplating a sexual relationship, also i would listen to what your mates say, because i think that they are right.
Good luck x
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