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writes:Im so confused, i need help. Im 15, gay, and Im in love with my best friend, have been now for about 9 months. She used to say she was bi, then straight, then she didnt know and just yesterday she said she was bi again. My friends reckon she likes likes me too, but it wouldnt be for the first time, she used to like me (when she was bi the first time). I really love her, and it hurts me to be away from her and i really miss her when she goes away, but now all my friends are saying she likes me. She'll probably never admit to it and i dont want to ask her because it would all go awkward (again) so yea i dont know what to do, any help? Id really like to go out with her, and if she likes me then thats perfect right? i just dont know how to go about it, any ideas? I realise its kinda a difficult question, but all replys will be very very welcome! thank you! xx
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reader, lilly123 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 just tell her it may make it awkward but on the other hand you may end up getting everything you wont, is it worth the risk?
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reader, Georgia13  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 when u and your friends are hanging out in a group and its time for everyone to leave let her walk awy then run up to her grab her arm (gently) and kiss her the pull away, smile and wink at her then when when shes w/ ur other friends and ur not there theyle probly talk about it and someone will most likeley spill the beans that u like her she wont be able to get u off her mind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): I am also bi. It can be quite confusing at times.
But I am in a relationship with my best friend also- I am completely in love with her and telling her I liked her was the best thing I had ever did. I think that to start off with, I think you need to find out for sure if she is bi. After that, maybe ask her if she likes you or just write on a piece of paper that you have a tiny crush on her and see what she says. [which is what I did] Hopefully she will be honest with you and admit she does like you. But I according to wat you said about ur friends saying that she like likes you, then hopefully you have a chance. Hope I helped :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): hi, this is anon aunt again.
so she knows u are gay, thats good.
i now its a scary thing to do but do u really want to rely on yr freinds telling her how u feel for you cos u dont want to? better to be upfront and talk or show her you care..
you could drop a big hint that u like her, like a compliment.. or sit really close to her so yr legs touch, and see if she reacts, if she pulls away, she feels weird, u have yr answer.
maybe u could hold her hand when u are alone, like in a movie? or walking somwhere..slowly does it, no rush..
or brush the hair from her face or put a hand on her knee/thigh or around her shoulder, leave it there longer than needed - be subtle and she'll get the hint, she hpow she reacts.
if u dont want to make the move she might not - then u will never know.. unless u want to forget it all and move on?
take care
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or maybe ask her "what she is doing fri night?"
"why" she asks?
"cos i want to ask u out"
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reader, jodaii +, writes (9 July 2009):
jodaii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh she knows im gay, she helped me come out, cant reply properly now and she knows i like her, anyway off to school but thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): she sounds a bit confused about her sexuality, which is Ok at yr ages, its normal. If she genuinely likes yu then yes thats good,yes but she sounds like she is going hot and cold, like she cant make up her mind, wont admit it as u say and is confused.
dontact on yr feelings until u know for sure she like you and isnt leading u on or saying what u want to hear - its hard for her, she isnt sure of who she is and yu are..
u will only end up getting hurt if u do date adn it tunrs out she doesnt really have feelings for u.
You have real feelings for her and all I can say is be very sure that she has genuine feelings for you before the two of you date.
Does she know you are gay and not bi or experimenting? if she does
talk to her! how do u know if u dont talk to her? yes it might awkward but it has to be done or u will never know and there will be tension there between yu both anyway. u could be very honest, much better in the end and strat with giving her a compliment maybe?
"you look really nice today, I like you outfit, top, pants whatever....you look so nice today, u look so hot/nice/attractive whatever.. and/or then maybe say ...i really like you you know, I think I like yu as more than a freind, would you like to go on a date with me"
good luck and take care
tell a freind to tell her that u really l
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