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writes:I haven't seen this certain question asked here, so I am going ahead and ask. If your p artner wants you to give him a bj, but in turn he won't return the favor, with no explanation what so ever. Should there be cause for concern, or not? I want some help on this. Thank-you, and everyone have a wonderful NEW YEAR....2007 May this year be much better than the year before!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (1 January 2007):
 Has this changed from the past?
The only way to find out if by asking him why did he stop.
He may prefer to receive than to give and if you do not ask you do not get.
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (1 January 2007):
 I think he might just be shy and not know what exactly what to do in pleasuring you. So talk to him and find out, he might just need a little nudge and a confidence boost.
I know when I first did it, it was like a bit of an adventure and my girlfriend then showed me the ropes [bless her little heart - I think all my girlfriends since would agree...].
The only way to sort this out is to speak to him.
Happy new year sweety.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Cause for concern? No. There's nothing WRONG with your boyfriend... some dudes just don't like doing it. Just like some girls don't really like going down on guys.
What I'm really wondering here, is do you want it? Is it something you miss and/or crave? If it's something you can do without, then I'd say it's all good with you and your man. However, if you do miss it and you do want it in your sex life then I think it is a problem.
Partners should meet each other halfway. You really need to talk to your partner about what's going on. However, I'm not suggesting that you force it on him if you really don't like it. How would YOU like it if he made you do something you reeeaaalllyyy didn't want to? But sex should be fun and open. Maybe take a bath before you "get down" so then you'll be nice and fresh for him.
Tell him that you are really missing oral sex and that it'd be nice to get that back into your sex life. Ask him if there's something you could do to make it fun for him. I don't know...
Well, good luck sweetness.
Happy sex romps!
xxIndia
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reader, eddie  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 It's just a personal thing. If this was a guy who was saying his wife wouldn't agree to do a certain sexual act we'd be saying...you can't make someone do something they're not willing to try. I guess it should be the same here.
Personally, I think if you're in a good relationship, you should try anything once. Well, almost anything. Some people don't like the sound of something because they've been taught it's shameful to desire a particular sexual act. Open minded people live and learn.
If you enjoy giving your guy oral sex, what would be the intent of cutting him off. Would that be a form of punishmentfor him? Punishing a person by withholding sex is never a good idea.
I think oral sex is great. I don't know any guys that won't do it. There are probably man though. Many women don't swallow when giving oral sex. Some do. It's all about personal preference. I think it's best to satisfy your partner. After all, sex is usually physically pleasing, it's more about what's going on in your mind that makes it great.
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reader, shania +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Ha ha ha!..that was wonderful advice Martini,i totally agree.Happy New Year btw.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): That's the thing, this may be a sign of selfishness, but giving and receiving in this manner in my opinion is different from man and woman. I'm sure there will be those who will utterly and disgustingly disagree with me, but oh well, it's not like I am very agreeable person to begin with. [laughs devilishly and winks]
Here are a few perspectives:
1) Guy's penis protrudes outwards. It's easy to clean and easy to suck and lick. On the other hand, a woman's vagina is a cavern of strange looking fleshy things. It's a lot harder to clean and looks like the mouths of Space Slugs in Star Wars. Plus sucking and licking the forehead of the penis is a lot farther from licking and eating out a vagina which is closer to the anus.
2) Though it might be cause for selfishness, if you are willing to suck him off but he isn't willing to eat you out, then that's the non-verbal 'agreement' you have with him. However, if you feel that he is an ass for not giving you oral and you feel hurt because he only likes to receive, then the next most obvious thing you are allowed to do is NOT give him oral.
3) I just suddenly had an imagery bulldozers in my head.
4) Like AphexInfinite has mentioned, as with women of course, there are a few reasons why guys don't like to give oral back. Eg: I LOVE licking, fingering, eating, doing all sorts of naughty things to my intimate partner(s) in any way humanly and alien-possible, so long as their juices don't blind me. However, I had one girlfriend who thought it was dirty for me and her. Then I had another who LOVED sucking me off with all sorts of food elements including, but not limited to flavored lube, but she didn't care whether she received oral or not. She enjoyed riding and grinding and fingering a lot more.
5) I have a headache now. Must be the lack of blood in my brain... 8/
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): I think when it comes to matters of sex with your partner the person you need to be asking this question needs to be him....maybe offer to take a shower together before so that you are squeky clean, and offer some kind instruction and see where things might lead.....
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Right erm well my friends and i speak freely about sex and stuff a bit like sex in the city but not so full on lol. one of my female friends doesnt like to be given oral but she cant explain why she just cant stand the thought of it..so i guess guys can feel the same, some dont like to do it because of many reasons, where as some guys love it .. and thank you i need a good year :d all the best hun 2007 xx
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