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writes: I'm worthless..i don't do anything..i just cause more people pain. my parents want me 2 get emancipated so i don't have 2 live off of them. i literaly don't have any friends.. i have been homeschooled all my life. i don't go anywhere. i don't have any aunts no uncles no grand parents..it would be so much esier i would have to feel any pain any more..cus they won't let me eat the food they cook . my parents literally don't ever talk 2 me and when it is it's to hit me or yell at me or 2 tell me that i have almost reached the age that i can move out. i don't want 2 live like this i don't have any where to go. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): your situation is tough, but i understand exactly what you mean. i live in nyc and go to school here and let me just say..with all the drama in hs i would rather be home schooled. i have a scar on the side of my neck from a girl who tried to slice my face for being to preety..trust me, some of the bs is not worth it. as far as your parents..i 100% understand what you mean..my parents are old school and strict & i go through your same deal..the way i deal with it....by smoking weed and doing fun things in the city. im not saying to smoke lol im saying to find your own thing to do that makes the time go by. one thing you always need to remember though...is not to let a bad aura get to you, because once you have that 'dont even bother with me' look & not even realize you have it, your done..preety much like myself..always stay positive
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reader, abetterlife +, writes (31 December 2006):
I think the hardest thing to believe is that there is hope.
When all seems lost, a person can begin to believe that all hope is lost.
One of my favorite phrases is from the movie Galaxy Quest. "Never give up, never surrender."
When all you want to do it give up, this seems to be more than you have, to keep trying seems unbearable. I know, I have been there before.
You need others to help you, and there are plenty who are willing. Don't go this alone, never try to defeat the monsters of life alone, you are really never alone. Just reach out.
Hey, I dont have all the answers, I dont know how things will turn out for you. I just want to help you if I can.
I care, many people will truly care about you. Yes people care about you, your life. But you have to reach out for help.
email me: [email address blocked]
Pastor Tim
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Hey im 16 also and homeschooled and i found the isolation from school a bit...horrible, i spend most days by myself, the only other person home with me is my father and he has depression, and now even i fell into a depression and i know how you feel, i say the best thing for you to do right now is to somehow get yourself ingaged in some activities, sports, or clubs..whatever, maybe the church has a Youth Group you can join, surround yourself by people who share similiar intrests, you will make friends and it will take you mind off of home life for a little while. Maybe even get a job just get yourself out of the house as much as possible. I found that staying home was the worst thing for me (i home school over the computer) never think you are alone, now i know im not alone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Hey im 16 also and homeschooled and i found the isolation from school a bit...horrible, i spend most days by myself, the only other person home with me is my father and he has depression, and now even i fell into a depression and i know how you feel, i say the best thing for you to do right now is to somehow get yourself ingaged in some activities, sports, or clubs..whatever, maybe the church has a Youth Group you can join, surround yourself by people who share similiar intrests, you will make friends and it will take you mind off of home life for a little while. Maybe even get a job just get yourself out of the house as much as possible. I found that staying home was the worst thing for me (i home school over the computer) never think you are alone, now i know im not alone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): Hi, I don't know where you live in the UK or the US, but I think it would be wise to go to a church that you like and talk to your priest or pastor there and tell them honestly what you are going through....also, if you have a teacher that you feel close to, be honest and tell them how you are feeling and what your parents are saying and doing to you.
It is not right to hit you and yell at you all of the time, you are not worthless and I don't understand what you mean by you causing other people pain.
If your parents fight alot with each other, and they blame you as the source of their problem, know this, you are just a scapegoat and a third party of sorts that they can fight with each other about instead of dealing with the problems that they have between the two of them....in no way is this your fault and it is very unkind of them to do this to you, but they don't know any better and possibly they are scared too, of losing their marriage, or maybe they are havingt finacial difficulties and are feeling overwhelmed.
I understand that you may not be able to talk to them and get through to them and their response may be to just get angrier and to yell, but hang on and find someone else to talk too.....try to join a club or get involved in an outside activity like music or sports and make some friends. Do you have any neighbor kids that you have become friends wtih? Try to talk to one of their parents and ask for help or advice.
Tell your family doctor, anyone, and ask for some help, I think you will find that people are willing to listen and to help you....I can't offer you much as I am on-line and do not know about the resources in your area where you live, but if you start talking, someone can help you find those resources, but you have to open up and let someone help you.
Take care and know that things can change and they will if you just start the process.
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (26 December 2006):
 You just have to make one change at a time (per day/week/month) to change your life.
First thing, you're not alone, you're awesome and worth every ounce of love, effort and support.
You were made for bigger things, you were not made to be discarded. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Secondly, your parents have brought you up in this situation ie. they home schooled you, they brought you up away from friends/family etc. So you don't have to leave home until you've found something. It is their responsibility to educate you.
Thirdly, this is YOUR life. Take control of it and make one change at a time.
Start with this feeling of worthlessness and talk to your parents (remember you're still under their roof, hence under their rules).
God bless you!
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (26 December 2006):
You just have to make one change at a time (per day/week/month) to change your life.
First thing, you're not alone, you're awesome and worth every ounce of love, effort and support.
You were made for bigger things, you were not made to be discarded. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Secondly, your parents have brought you up in this situation ie. they home schooled you, they brought you up away from friends/family etc. So you don't have to leave home until you've found something. It is their responsibility to educate you.
Thirdly, this is YOUR life. Take control of it and make one change at a time.
Start with this feeling of worthlessness and talk to your parents (remember you're still under their roof, hence under their rules).
God bless you!
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Dear Sweetie, Sounds like you are going through a bad time. A big hug from me.
Some parents do not know how to show love. Unfortunately, you are not alone.
Wait til your parents is calm and try to talk to the one that listens better to explain how you feel.
You are at very sensitive age and you need to get some sound advice before rushing into decisions.
Ring childline, I know it is not your age but perhaps they can give you contact of a local group you can join for moral support and further advice.
Try to get a part-time job where you will have some independence and have the chance to make some friends.
Stay strong and good luck
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): I am very sorry about what you are living now. You seem to be in a very difficult situation. I am not sure why they are so mean to you, but sometimes writting a nice letter asking all of those question could maybe help. I do nolt know if you are difficult with them but maybe they are having a difficult time to deal with a teenager. It is very difficult for you because you have no outside sources, therefore you should maybe think of meeting up with a councelor, or a help hotline if it's the only way.
Knowing all of the situation they can maybe help you go through this phase.
You seem to be very lonely and it's makes ou angry, all I can say is that after the rain ALWAYS comes the rainbow. Please hang on and reach for help.
I wish you a better year...
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