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writes: why do i get so shy around people i like!! and just make a fool or myself lol when i dont have feelings for someone im so much more open! its really annoys me! anything you can do to feel more comfortable around people you actualy have feelings for?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 You need to work on self confidence, there are books you can get with more in dept advice.
Practice on the mirror how to behave in certain situations and what to say.
Positive thinking is good too. Tell yourself (looking in the mirror) one good thing you like about you every day three times and Mean it!
Good luck xxx
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (7 December 2006):
 I have this problem aswell but luckily I don't end up making a fool of myself. :) You get shy and nervous around people you have feelings for because you are afraid of something bad (embarassing) happening. You have to reassure yourself that nothing bad will happen and if it does, so what! Big deal, life goes on, it's not the end of the world. Maybe it would help if you pretended that the person you are nervous around...pretend that they have a boogie in their nose or something to make yourself feel more confortable.Pretend they've got spinach in their teeth or their fly is undone. Just say to yourself "Stay cool. Everythings fine. Me talking to (insert name here) is not a big deal so I won't get worked up about it."
I hope this helps.
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Hi there sweety,
there are very few people that don't feel awkward around people they like or at least started that way.
The secret is to start finding things that make you feel confident such as sports, hobbies, etc. But you also have to learn to love yourself and feel confident in your own skin.
When with a boy that you like, learn to ask open ended questions (such as what was is it about that movie that you enjoyed?)
with open ended questions you can follow on from what he has said. Also try answering closed ended questions without giving yes and no answers. As you've gathered, closed ended questions end with yes and no answers.
Learn by practicing on friends and family.
Good luck.
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 a looooooooooooooot of people have this problem, including me, its just how you deal with it that matters.
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