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... Send *.O.S.E.R. a private message | | | *.O.S.E.R.'s profile:Hey you guys.I'm Ana and I chose a display name 'loser' cause currently I feel like one.Life isn't working out,everything is crappy,guess you know what I mean.I've been on this site for over a month now and gave plenty of my opinions to people seemed like they could use it so I guess the better way to get info about me is to read them.Set-ups that make my motives to stay joined on www.dearcupid.org are listed below and other than them I can't find anything else important to be mentioned here.I welcome you to contact me if the reason why you're reading this is to find out who's that loser who gave you the advice;)Holla
*NOTHING is determined and every situation has at least 1000 different points of view so giving mine away somewhere where it could help I find positive,even more if it's controversial or different (as long as it's well explained,rational and inoffensively written)...And generally I find it better to give any kind of reply then none to person seeking for it.
*While replying to questions I'm learning,mostly spelling and evaluating my own beliefs
*I'm pretty much bored in my everyday activities so I go online and log in here to have fun
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Do I wait four years for him or do I get on with the single life?
Q. My boyrfiend and I have been together for 1 1/2 years. He's been gone for a month now and I really miss him. I'm so used to seeing him all the time. We spent every day together. Now, i'm lucky if I could talk to him once/twice a week since he left ...
A. 19 October 2007: I think I hypothetically can kinda relate and understand your dilemma but FOUR YEARS of your life is WAY too much for ANYONE,at least I most honestly think so.I carefully thought of weather to give you this advice or not but I just feel the need ... (read in full...)
During the bj, I just can't seem to swallow b/c of what I was brought up to believe! How can I get past this?
Q. I really enjoy giving my husband blowjobs but when it comes to his cummin in my mouth and swallowing his fluids which i really really want to but i just cant seem to get past my inhabitations of what i was brought up to believe; which i know makes ...
A. 18 October 2007: It's just an optional answer:Why must you do it if you don't like it?Why to change yourself for his (just a bit bigger) pleasure?... (read in full...)
Is his porn use turning him into a pervert?
Q. i have noticed my husband of 14 years is watching porn and it`s making me feel inadaquate and that he`s not satified with me he is 50 and i`m 48. is he turning into a pervert i`m worried...
A. 14 October 2007: Well I think it's kinda natural for him to do it in that age,he isn't getting any younger so probably you should be happy he's just watching young girls online instead of chasing them (argh,mid-life crisis).If he keeps doing that you could maybe ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband that I once had an affair during our marriage?
Q. Hi. Is it good to confess to my husband that I once had an affair with another man during our married life? Or should I just forget it? I stopped it, anyway....
A. 11 October 2007: No looking back,no regrets and most of all no point.It would only hurt him and what for?I advice you to forget it if there's no chance he'll find out without you tell him.... (read in full...)
How come there was such an attraction when he's the opposite of what I like? Love at first sight, does it exist?
Q. I'd like to know if anyone thinks if love/lust at first date happens? I had a first date with someone yesterday, and it was great. We got on as if we'd known each other forever, bearing in mind, i had never met this person before and id only spok...
A. 10 October 2007: Awwww...how cute:)))I'm so happy for you girl.
There's over 6 bilions people on this world and since we all are similar so lots of them must fit in perfectly with each other (wouldn't define it as "love at 1st sight" but the way we call it does... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think I'm a slut OR fridged! What do you think I should do?
Q. hi, I'm 14 years old and I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months and i love him so much; however, we have were going out for 6 months then broke up. In 1 month I'm having a halloween party for my 15 th birthday. I'm playing a game c...
A. 10 October 2007: How old is HE is an important fact you forgot to mention.Anyway,I definitely don't think he could possibly have a single thought about you being fridged if you don't have sex with him.It's a thing of YOUR choice and he must realize that no meter how ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 dating a guy who's 22. Do you think that's wrong?
Q. I'm sixteen and i just started dating a 22 year ol that i met at a concert.. Our relationship is purely innocent. The idea of sex hasnt even came up. He is really respectful and we connect and a different level than age. I really and truly in my ...
A. 10 October 2007: As Waterloo Sunset gave you great advice I can just repeat it:don't give a shit about others opinion and enjoy:)
Tho (there's always a "but") keep a bit of clear headed thinking cause society's opinion on the subject (as on any other) is gene... (read in full...)
My best friend told my deepest secrets to my worst enemy!
Q. Alright. This isnt really a problem with the girl i like, its more a friend problem, but i have nowhere else to turn. My best friend, who has always been there for me and who I have poured my deepest secrets to told pretty much my worst enemy almost ...
A. 7 October 2007: Out of her it's very crapy thing to do.I wouldn't trust that kind of person ever again but if you feel good while hanging out together (must be great since you're asking this question) no problem,forgive it.But DON'T ever forget it cause someone who ... (read in full...)
What do you think about body hair?
Q. I have a rather odd question. Do women generally find body hair unattractive? If so, where? I have wondered this for a long time, but I am too embarrassed to ask my friends or my family, lol. I mostly just want to know what women think about hair...
A. 7 October 2007: Well...I couldn't possibly know what other women think...Guess it's commonly unatractive on the back or ass but legs,hands and chests are fine.I even used to think shaving is gay and it didn't seem to me like a macho stuff at all but wtf,time ... (read in full...)
How can I get our parents to meet up?
Q. Ok - I had my first bf at age 9 and my mom had met his parent and i used to go to his house all the time and my mom didnt care. Now im 12 and my bf of 2 years is 13, and we want our parents to meet so we can start goin on dates and goin to each ...
A. 7 October 2007: Aww...it's so great and responsable question from you to ask.Since she agreed to meet parents of your 1st bf just do it again-ask her can you invite your bf's parents over to meet each other.If she likes them,1st step is made.After that,call your bf ... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends!
Q. I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends. Every guy that I ever like ends up with one of my two best friends. Last night I was at a party and my "best friend" got off with the guy that I was interested in. I always ...
A. 7 October 2007: Well look,I dunno your metrical system that good but I'm 5ft11 and dont even want to measure and find out how much kilos I have.It's comforting to think that you and I are both normal,just in bigger package-I couldn't possibly have less that 70kg ... (read in full...)
Girls at work are dissing me.
Q. I have a work-related question. I am currently employed at a company where all they do is gossip and care what other people is doing. I am happily married with a 5 yr old son. I am a kind of person that doesn't like to hang around people ...
A. 7 October 2007: Well since you're working there i think your husband (kudos for his support) has the point-just ignore it.Of course be as rude as possible while talking,don't smile,wind them up etc but don't confront over this.And yes,I find it cool you're not one ... (read in full...)
I want sex but I'm scared. Please help!
Q. I need help big time. I'm 12 yrs old and my bf is 13. We both want the same thing - sex. But i'm to scared. I feel ready but dont no if i should. He is so understanding n never rushes me he says if i dont want to than he'll wait. We've bee...
A. 7 October 2007: Well hun,if you're scared that might mean you're not ready after all.Ok,you both are the same age and it's nice,especially cause he's a virgin too.You love,respect and trust each other,that's also great.Every cicumstance is fine except the fact ... (read in full...)
Should I break all ties and move on or lay it all on the line?
Q. Should I move on or keep trying? My fiance and I broke about about 3 months ago (we had been together for almost 6 years and engaged for 6 months). We have recently been hanging out and I want to be wtih her so bad. I know this person is the lo...
A. 4 October 2007: Oh,well,I'm glad cause then it all seems brighter,doesn't it?What if maybe she didn't know he's engaged or he got engaged after words?Moral is a funny category and there could be lots of reasons for her to make such a decision...I don't think you ... (read in full...)
The guy I like, and who likes me too, is dating my friend.
Q. I've recently told a guy i like him, i thought he'd freak but its all good. Now he feels the same but hes going out with a friend of mine, should i wait till they're over or tell her or just keep going the way is it. Ive never been so happy and ...
A. 4 October 2007: Sorry hun but theres no particular reason for you to be happy about:either you'll lose a frend or you'll get into the relationship with a guy who has no respect for his current gf (which you would become).If you told him "recently",that must be over ... (read in full...)
Should I break all ties and move on or lay it all on the line?
Q. Should I move on or keep trying? My fiance and I broke about about 3 months ago (we had been together for almost 6 years and engaged for 6 months). We have recently been hanging out and I want to be wtih her so bad. I know this person is the lo...
A. 4 October 2007: Well,it's just 3 months ago since the break up,it's normal you're depressed and you think about her all the time.You found out she's sleeping with another guy from someone else,not her?Did you two broke up cause of that?Guess she's the one who broke ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I have my period?
Q. I just started my period again and my bf wants to have sex with me. How do I tell him I have my period?...
A. 3 October 2007: I definitely agree with Phiatiger-it's like you'd be embarassed to tell him you have a cold lol... (read in full...)
Should I move to the big city to get over my heartbreak??
Q. This may be a bit long-winded but I would really appreciate some good advice. I live in a very small town - everyone knows everyone. I used to live with my friends but because the landlord wanted to sell the property we all had to move out. Now I li...
A. 3 October 2007: I couldn't agree more with baby duck - think you should do it. If things don't work out the way you expected them to you can always come back but at least you'll know you tried. About the friend, you'll be able to see her anyway cause 40 miles ... (read in full...)
He's been planning this "suprise" for two months. He's rubbish at suprises! Will this come between us?
Q. can my man hating his job and keeping a surpise from me for 2 more months be affecting our relationship ? he is really bad at giving surprises and he has known about it for months already !!...
A. 3 October 2007: Haha,I don't understand your question AT ALL."hating his job and keeping a surpise from me"-what difference does it make does he hate his job or not,what has it got to do with the surprise?"he is really bad at giving surprises and he has known about ... (read in full...)
Do I break my heart for him???
Q. I met a man, years ago, when I was just a kid, if you call 17 a kid, we were flirtatious, mostly innocent....I got my heart wrapped up in him, he was my fantasy, the knight in shining armor on a beautiful white horse. In reality, he was twice my ...
A. 3 October 2007: I had similar situation when I was 14 till 17 with a guy who was 13yrs older and I drawed the line he after words never tried to cross again.It took me lots of time to stop acting and thinking as that 16yrs old who felt he's everything she ... (read in full...)
I don't find traditionaly beautiful women attractive. Whats so wrong with that?
Q. I am a college student in a long term relationship with a beautiful girl... we've been together for around 4 years now. I would like some feedback for a situation that so far I have found unique to me. I have had other girlfriends before her but s...
A. 2 October 2007: One more vote to Serinity's opinion about you;)So glad to know there are guys like that out there somewhere:)))... (read in full...)
Why does being good looking make you so miserable?
Q. this is going to sound unbelievably arrogant but i assure you this is a genuine problem i have and i am genuinely asking for advice because it is really hard and upsetting me. i think i am too good looking. i know i am attractive, and guys ask for ...
A. 2 October 2007: Heeey!I must reply cause I want you to realize your looks is no reason for eg "most of the time i kind of try to keep my head down so i will be left alone and i just want to blend into the background when i go out but it never happens and i hate ... (read in full...)
We have been married for six months, but I am still a virgin
Q. i am married 6 months now and still vergin i need help? i am married after a story a nice story of love yes me and my hubsna ddecide to not made sex untill we marry cos i was vergine. our first night together he try but he get scared and comfused...
A. 2 October 2007: You're gonna make it easier for both of you if you start communicating more and talk openly about it.Considering the fact that you are in marriage sex must not be the taboo subject anymore.There is an operation for gaining back the virginity but I ... (read in full...)
This man left me because he made another girl pregant. After months he emails saying they lost the pregnancy. He knows I want him back. Should I go back?
Q. A man i was madly in love with left me a few months ago because he made another girl pregnant. I still am not over it and cry everyday asking why? He did leave me and said he would give it a try with this girl because he did have feelings for her ...
A. 2 October 2007: Find strength to say 'no' to him cause there are over 5 reasons to do that and one only not to-your feelings for him.Over time they will fade (nothing lasts forever) and after you start thinking cold headed you'll realize how bad he acted to ... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed she hasn't contacted me.
Q. I met someone from the internet y'day afternoon, following a brief email exchange which she instigated and we seemed to get on well, after a couple of hours chatting she invited me to meet one of her friends which I did and when we parted she ...
A. 1 October 2007: Could be she just saw it,opened it,quickly read it and something happened (eg a friend phoned her,mum called her to dinner,she had to go out to meet someone...) so she decided to reply l8r when she finds more time or tomorrow?Don't get dissapointed ... (read in full...)
I've been shaving my pubic hair, and it's gotten itchy!
Q. Hey. I've been shaving my pubic hair for a while now, but I always get red and itchy parts when I do. Also I can never seem to completely shave off all the hair, there is always little stubs still visable. I was wondering how to solve this problem ...
A. 30 September 2007: Yap,I 4got-you should do this:the left and right side you start from ends to the middle (horizontal moves of the blade,left to the right for the left side and reversed) and the middle from down to up (vertical)...if I expressed it the right way ... (read in full...)
I want her back, but it could destroy me. Do I gamble???
Q. Do I gamble and try and get something back with my ex? For those of you who haven't bee keeping up. My girlfriend of 2 years split with me back in June, because she was going to University. We had endured a long distance relationship sin...
A. 30 September 2007: It's worth of trying for a while but don't waste too much time on it.If your plan doesn't work out in about 2 months-give up...at least that's what I'd do.Good luck... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 30 September 2007: THANK YOU Cathy - that's all GREAT news:)))Whenever you feel the need to chat with someone or anything know that we'll all be here for you (I'm sure that others share my opinion on that).xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
It seems like everyone has a partner except me... What's wrong with me??
Q. What is wrong with me? Or is it this stupid town? It seems like everyone has a partner. Even our cat has a boyfriend next door (granted she's a cat). All my friends are with someone, not just sex buddies, but like someone special. And don't get me...
A. 30 September 2007: Oh hun...you made me laugh cause I have the kind of a situation myself.Not to mention that my dog has more friends than I do lol.It is frustrating.If everything is ok with your confidence try doing something new,like going to the gym,some kind of ... (read in full...)
Any good sites where I can meet people my age?
Q. does anyone know of a good website where i could meet people my age and in my area? not only boys but girls just for friendship too?...
A. 30 September 2007: Try www.myspace.com or www.hi5.com-when you create a profile (you can upload the pics too) you'll find there's a search for ppl in your area.... (read in full...)
Is my interest Gay?
Q. Recently I have met a guy who was friends with my cousin and his girlfriend. Anyway, we all hung out one night and me and this guy totally hit it off. This was a few weeks ago and i have not hung out with him since. We did have a real good time and ...
A. 30 September 2007: You might be wrong,he could just be the perfect man:)Dunno what do you usually do when you like a guy but seems like he's worth of a shot.Tell your cousin you like him and she could arrange you hang out again so maybe things will get more clear ... (read in full...)
I've been shaving my pubic hair, and it's gotten itchy!
Q. Hey. I've been shaving my pubic hair for a while now, but I always get red and itchy parts when I do. Also I can never seem to completely shave off all the hair, there is always little stubs still visable. I was wondering how to solve this problem ...
A. 30 September 2007: Me too!And grrr,it's so irritating...I dunno what are the english words for it but here they explained it to me it's cause of shaving process.We should vax the area to completely get read of them.But doh,I'm affraid of the pain while vaxing lol.Try ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with people presuming I'm happy when I'm so down. They wouldn't understand me if I told them how I felt. Help.
Q. Im fed up with people presuming im happy when im so down. I know this is my fault because i put on a smiley face and pretend im fine but deep down i feel depressed. I have a great supportive family but if i say anything they would laugh it off and ...
A. 30 September 2007: Wow,I feel allmost like I wrote your question.If you wanna contact someone with similar problems pm me...but I'm not sure would it make you feel any better.I can't know if you'll get worse dragging that problems through time (you haven't even wrote ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt my boys not to have a male influence in their lives?
Q. Curiosity question here. I am currently separated from my husband and seriously considering divorce. Of course at this time in my life I feel like I don't ever want another man in for life for as long as I live. Every experience I've EVER had ...
A. 29 September 2007: Yap,I also think that happy family with one parent is better than unhappy one with both-in theory I firmly support divorce if things aren't working out.I realize male role model is very important to the kids but I think it's less bad not to have ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 29 September 2007: I think that "Vote to remove unhelpful or hurtful answer" is pointless (and un-democratic) cause there's a moderator who aproves the answers before they're posted already.I know I wouldn't wish to post a question now that I know I'll get censored ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think this guy is taking things too fast?
Q. Hi! Sorry...this may be a bit long but I just want to give everybody a bit of bakground info :) I met this amazing guy over the summer. Let me start by stating that I’m 24 and he’s 22, so this isn’t some high school summer love. He was just pass...
A. 29 September 2007: I can only tell you what I would do - I wouldn't move.It's great you two are connected that well but as you said,you have a life and friends already.I honestly share an opinion that love is blind ("amantes=amentes" etc) and don't think it's worth of ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my Music Producer. Is it worth pursuing him?
Q. I am a small-time musician and I have a seriously intense crush on my producer, who is in a (very) long distance relationship. He's 31 and I'm 19. Are there too many reasons not to pursue him, or should I just go for it? He sends obvious vibes ...
A. 29 September 2007: Honestly,I think it's unprofessional out of him (and unfair to his gf) to try anything with you cause he's the person your career depends on in a way.Why you like him I think I can understand but his "obvious vibes" made me worried.Sorry cause I'm ... (read in full...)
I'm troubled by something my girlfriend did in the past...
Q. Me and my gf have been in our relationship for almost three years... i'm aware that in almost every relationship the past comes up. The thing is, my past doesn't bug her as much as hers does me... We both had boyfriends in our pasts but she told me ...
A. 29 September 2007: Og...But I agree with rcn,get over it;)Guess I can understand how you feel and it must be difficult but the past you definitely can't change so don't let it disturbe you in present time or in the future.You both tried it with the oposite sex and ... (read in full...)
Been with the guy I love before, but he's dumped me for stupid reasons in the past... 3rd time lucky?
Q. hello, i really want someone to help me plz this is the situation i think i still love this guy i have been out with him twice already but they didn` t last long as he keeps dumping me for stupid reasons e.g. once he dumped me because he had a ...
A. 28 September 2007: That all seems a bit strange to me but possibly he's just immature.Don't think of your friends that way-if they fancie his apperance doesn't meen they have no point in telling you he's not good for you...honestly I think the same-from what you wrote ... (read in full...)
If I could I'd express my love to him now, but 14-15 is a bit young to lose my virginity, is it not?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are soo in love, we've been together for almost a year [11 months and 22 days] And we've discussed having sex for the past few months, i am not pressured at all and we're very matture about the subject. We've discussed contrcep...
A. 22 September 2007: Well are you SURE you're ready?If you are,you know what you want,it's your life and you don't care about anything else...but you do.I think it's important not to care about what others think cause it can stop you from doing some things that might be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 22 September 2007: Awww honey...I realize it's just a beginning but 1st step is the hardest one and I'm unbelievable happy now that I read you made it.I also admire you for doing that,it takes lots of bravery and logical reasoning what might have been hard for you to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 21 September 2007: I 99% agree with Leanne cause actually I believe he'll change...on worse!PLEASE don't do it to yourself or to your son,you DON'T need it-run as fast as you can.There must be a place where you can go,wherever.It would be right thing to do to tell a ... (read in full...)
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