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writes:Ok - I had my first bf at age 9 and my mom had met his parent and i used to go to his house all the time and my mom didnt care. Now im 12 and my bf of 2 years is 13, and we want our parents to meet so we can start goin on dates and goin to each others house.How in the world can i ask my mom for this permission. I already know the first thing thats gonna come to her mind is sex and she'll think thats all we want but its not!We just want more time together besides school and the 611. So how should i ask her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Why don;t you start with things like going to the movies or asking mum if he can come over to watch a movie and have dinner - something like that would not faze a mum at all. Spending time together at your age should be very innocent fun and most parents would appreciate that. This is a great time for your stage in life to have a talk with your mother about her expectations of you and it's a chance for you to show her your maturity by being able to communicate with her as a young women. Mothers try to protect their children and try to guide them as best they can and in many cases when they seem unreasonable it is because they care! The worst thing you can do now is to throw a tantrum about what you can or can't do, better to be grown up and talk and show your mother that you are growing up and want a little more social exchange, NOT SEX!! Reassure your mother that you can be trusted and sensible, then don't let her down! All part of growing up and remember your mother cares about you and that is why she may be more protective than you want. Start with little steps like having him over for a pizza or something.
Hang in there you'll have much bigger things to stress about when you get a little older! x x x
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 Aww...it's so great and responsable question from you to ask.Since she agreed to meet parents of your 1st bf just do it again-ask her can you invite your bf's parents over to meet each other.If she likes them,1st step is made.After that,call your bf at your place couple of times while she's there-that way she'll see you aren't doing anything she wouldn't aproove and that he's a nice guy.Then (in about a month or so) I believe you'll be able to ask her can you go to his place.If she doesn't let you tell her his parens will be there and give her their phone she could call to check up on you...I think everything will be fine cause she surely know what a great daughter she has...Hope I'll have a kid like you one day lol.xx
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