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writes:This may be a bit long-winded but I would really appreciate some good advice.I live in a very small town - everyone knows everyone. I used to live with my friends but because the landlord wanted to sell the property we all had to move out. Now I live back at home with my parents. I have a good job and earn good money but its boring and I hate it although I know that it is probably the best job I could get in my town as there are not alot of opportunities. I get on with my family and I have alot of friends who I love to bits and have great times with. This year Ive been messed about by alot of guys, each time it really upset me. I was dumped a few weeks back by a guy I really liked and it really hurt and still does. Anyway, my friend who lives 40 miles away has offered me a room in her house. She lives in a big city and loves it there. I know I could get a good job there too. I dont know anyone there apart from her. But this seems like too good an opportunity to miss. The only thing thats keeping me happy here are my friends - other than that there is nothing. My friend wants to know my answer this month but Im worried I will regret my decision. Im worried that the only reason I want to move there is cos Im still hurting about whats happened with the men situation. I know if I moved to the city I will get on better in life. I just dont know what to do. Please help me with this!
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reader, SAMSAM1127  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I honestly dont think this is SMART choice.
I feel as if your only thinking IN THE MOMENT
Your considering your feelings NOW...but you dont know how you might feel in a MONTH from now.
What if you move on and decide the move was a horrible mistake?
You should never run away from your problems either
Cause new ones or even the SAME ones always find their ways back.
And are you going to run forever?
I think you should , instead of focusing on why you WANT to leave.
Think of all the reasons you SHOULD stay.
BEST OF LUCK ;]
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I couldn't agree more with baby duck - think you should do it. If things don't work out the way you expected them to you can always come back but at least you'll know you tried. About the friend, you'll be able to see her anyway cause 40 miles ain't much. Of course don't forget to follow up on us from there:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): "I know if I moved to the city I will get on better in life."
Sweetie, you just answered your own question. 40 miles isn't that big a distance in the scheme of things. You could definitely go visit home and your friends on the weekends. In the meantime you'll be making new friends and getting better opportunities career wise too!
There aren't many times in peoples lives where they don't have a stronger committment to tie them down (marriage babies etc etc) But right now nothing is stopping you except your fear. Don't let it. You are far more likely to regret not going than going. Good luck in the city!!
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reader, Odders +, writes (2 October 2007):
 Tell your friend that you need to move on in life, but you want to see her all the time, you can go on weekends and fridays, but you need to think if your life is going to get any better in your town, because really you should go to the city. you can come back a lot, and you can phone and stuff, but i think you need to think about yourself now.
Hope it helps
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