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writes:Should I move on or keep trying?My fiance and I broke about about 3 months ago (we had been together for almost 6 years and engaged for 6 months). We have recently been hanging out and I want to be wtih her so bad. I know this person is the love of my life but I am not sure if the feeling is mutual. She tells me that she loves me and misses me but needs time to find herself. She was the most caring and loving person I have ever known. I recently found out that she was sleeping with antoher guy and he was engaged. This is not a behavior I would think she would be a part of. Maybe she is becoming that person. I have been devastated and all I think about is her and what she is doing. I can't sleep very well and when I wake up it is usually thinking of her and her sleeping with that guy. I am lost and starting to suffer depression. Should I just break all ties and move on or lay it all on the line.
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reader, ALONDRA +, writes (5 October 2007):
Listen , don't waste your life thinking about what you don't have, and enjoy life, because life is too short.....and just think about this one thing...if you where her why would you be acting like that after a recent brakeup?......remember that actions speak louder than words....so what are her actions trying to say?......Hello wakeup!!!!!
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Oh,well,I'm glad cause then it all seems brighter,doesn't it?What if maybe she didn't know he's engaged or he got engaged after words?Moral is a funny category and there could be lots of reasons for her to make such a decision...I don't think you should judge her or be depressed cause she did something you didn't expect her to or wouldn't do it yourself.Also it doesn't mean she "turned evil" or something just cause she did it and don't be sad anymore because of that please-if it's possible,stop thinking about it at all.And back to your question...Now it seems to me you could talk to her again and let her know you'd like her to give you a call when she does "find herself" or ask her a bit more about it,like explain in what kind of situation you are at the moment (talking about that you love her and want to be with her but wouldn't want to wait for something that might never happen-that engaged guy don't even mention)...and I guess she'll give you the honest anwer.Take care
PS.How dare you to call ME a loser?
Haha,I'm just trying to be funny:))
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comment L.O.S.E.R. It was actually a mutual break-up because we had been fighting/arguing and could not stop it. SHe was not sleeping with this guy or talking to him while we were together. I found out from her and I found out he was engaged from someone that knows him. From what I know he is engaged right now and they have only been intimate a couple of times. It is more the moral of her sleeping with someone else's fiance than the act of sex. I have been with another woman as well.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R. +, writes (4 October 2007):
Well,it's just 3 months ago since the break up,it's normal you're depressed and you think about her all the time.You found out she's sleeping with another guy from someone else,not her?Did you two broke up cause of that?Guess she's the one who broke up.Anyway I don't think there's much you can do about it-she said she needs time to herself but at the same moment has an affair,right?All you could do would be waiting for her to broke up with him or break all ties (not to see her AT ALL,at least till you get over it)-what you'll decide I can't know or sugest but I can advice you to think it over now that you're single:your age is 26-29 and you two were in relationship for over 6 years.Could it be possible it's not love anymore?Maybe you just got used to each other.Maybe she changed,maybe you changed.Would you be prepaired to forget she was with this other guy if you get back together,wouldn't it haunt you?Will you trust her ever again?Would you accept the fact she could easily had feelings for him too?What if you wait and wait and she decides not to give you another shot even after she breaks up with him?...After you find all those answers you'll know what to do and do you still want to be with her after all.
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