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writes:Me and my gf have been in our relationship for almost three years... i'm aware that in almost every relationship the past comes up. The thing is, my past doesn't bug her as much as hers does me... We both had boyfriends in our pasts but she told me something she did with a guy in a movie theater (more like screwing him in a movie theater) and it bugs me to the core up to this day.. that's all i can think about and it turns me off. Its usually on the back of my mind, i'm angry and jealous everytime i think about it. i've told her i've felt inadequate since i dont have a penis and i believe thats something she prefers, but she tells me she loves me and loves our strap ons and how i give her oral.. but it still really bugs me.. am i just being overly sensitive and immature about this? i'm tryin my hardest to stop thinking about it, she told me this about 3 months ago out of the blue and i was shocked to here this... anyway.. any advice on moving on from this would be helpful.. thank you-april
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reader, keilie  +, writes (9 October 2007):
first to begin with god made man for woman and the best thing to do is find a man but if you like just be freaky and have thressomes ocassionally cause thats your vice
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reader, ImYourProblem +, writes (29 September 2007):
ImYourProblem is verified as being by the original poster of the question i really appreciate the responses everyone. i'll take everything into account and see what's in front of me and be thankful for what i have. i cant help but be a jealous person.. but i'll def try out some new things with her (we're long dist. :( ) when i see her..
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 Og...But I agree with rcn,get over it;)Guess I can understand how you feel and it must be difficult but the past you definitely can't change so don't let it disturbe you in present time or in the future.You both tried it with the oposite sex and didn't like it,also if you're together for 3 years now she's surely with you cause she loves you,your personality and sex you have...Try not to bother anymore.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 September 2007):
 So you're saying you both had boyfriends in the past? So is this the only incident that makes you jealous, not any of the other boyfriends?
Is it be cause of the boy? The place? or being spontaneous?
We can sometimes find jealousy when our partner reveals something that may be a bit more exciting than the usual bed. Jealousy comes from "why with them, and ours is standard?"
If it bugs you that much, the both of you need to do something out of your regular routine.
This was with an ex, your with her now. The experiences she shared with someone else has nothing to do with your experiences or the quality of relationship you can create with her. We sometime get jealous about what people have done in the past. For example (don't spread this around I will deny it.) I have never had sex in a hot tub. My ex's have, but I'd just never had that opportunity. The closest I got was when my ex and I were staying in a suite in Denver, hot tub in the room, and she was sick as a dog and couldn't join me.
Share and enjoy her now, not trying to combine here past with your now. Think about it this way too. If this guy was a real real real special person that why is she with you? She'd still be with him if it really excited her that much, and if she had a connection with him. It has nothing to do with weather or not you possess a penis. The only difference that would make is standing while you pee. She's with you for you not for what you do or don't have. True feeling don't come from the body parts you possess, it comes from everything else you two share together.
Take care, give her a hug, make up and do something out of routine. Stop judging why she's with you. Your suppose to know why your with her, and she knows why she's with you, that's all that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Okay first off
Congrats for comin out, most people don't have the guts too.
Now, what I really think you should do is try to forget about this... I know it will be hard but that is just the way it goes.
This was a long time ago, and was actually quite wrong and discusting.
She has choosen you over him, so you being with her must mean something. If she is willin to forget it, you should too.
However if she keeps bringin it up, its prob just to annoy you, but I don't think that will happen.
Just try to forget it, if you can't why stay??
-Frankie
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