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writes: my husban looks at porn and goes onto chat rooms then denies it when i talk about it we havent had sex since last year iknow he is wanking to this crap. help please we have been married 20year
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): ladies, and gwyn, Please have patience with these guys, they are not your enemy. I refuse to believe that your husband is so undimensional. Here is some advice that you probably won't follow but if you do I think it will help you help your husbands. Go look for porn. Do some searches for nude girls, and things like that. Find out what he is so interested in. I promise you that it is not your body he is not interested in. After you have looked at porn doing different searches for a few days... then become the porn that he is looking at. He has needs if you fill his needs then I see no reason why you can not ask him to fill your needs to stop viewing porn. Personally I look at porn because my wife has negelected me sexually for too long. I have to have a release somehow, and I refuse to have an affair. Women, stop trying to make a monument out of this and just move on. Trust me 100 percent of men have viewed porn or are viewing porn right now. Moving on won't fix it. Good luck, have patience, be sweet and gentle and he will respond very well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2006): i think you have been married a long time and it would be a shame to give up on your marriage. However a relationship or marriage is two way and it is about making each other happy and sharing lifes experiences together.If your husband values your love and partnership he should make an effort to discuss his feelings with you, the fact that you have not had sex for a year is worrying, he has obviously not lost his sexual appetite if is viewing porn.If he will not talk to you then maybe insist that you got to a counsellor lots of people visit counsellors nowadays and it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is worthwhil to see if it can mend the sexual element of your marriage. You do not say if everything else is ok in your relationship therefore I can only base my answer on what you have provided.Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2006): ditch him love, no woman deserves a man who gets off to other naked women....you deserve better
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reader, gwyn +, writes (27 July 2006):
gwyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice but we had a megga argument which really was about this problem but he,ll not admit it
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Huh... and people (mainly on here I've noticed) think porn is harmless and normal. What a joke!!! Yet ANOTHER question to do with porn...mmmm poeple are rather blind if they think it is harmless, as you clearly state here he has NOT had sex with you for a year. Rather then face problems head on and talk about them etc he has escaped into a world of fantasy..PORN, and that fantasy to you feels VERY REAL. Of course it is as real as him actually going off with another woman, that is what the pain feels like to you eh? So you need to tell him this is totally unacceptable, he needs help, perhaps both of you can see a (dare I say it) marriage counseller. I don't know, I can't say what is going to happen, I hope you are able to resolve something here, sorry I don't know what else advice to give, as there are SO MANY of these questions on here like yours, and Porn has been a major NEGATIVE IMPACT on relationships...
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