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writes:Why don't I get attention?My friends say that I'm really pretty, but boys just don't think so. I'm not being big-headed here, but I'm quite pretty, I spend quite a bit of time on my appearance and I'm quite confident, but not too much. I've not got any huge disfigurement. However, boys really seem to dislike me. My friend recently asked all of our boy mates, and some others and they all rated me at about 5.Why do they not like me? Can I do anything else?Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): First and foremost, don’t ever let anybody determine how you should feel about who you are. Absolutely no one should have that kind of power over you. People emotions and feelings are something others do 'not' have the right to toy with. So stay away from people who tear you down. Remember this and carry this throughout your life. Believing this will always be your constant source of strength and comfort, in life, when you meet up with people who want to hurt you or act negatively. You confidence will give you strength..so don't stop being who you truely are. If you feel you need to make changes, do it because YOU want to. I always believe that life is a constant learning experience, where we all self-evaluate ourselves and make positive changes along the way. It never hurts to improve but having a loving relationship with someone, has little to do with the shape of your face, or the color of your eyes, or the radiance of your hair. It has everything to do with the inner you..it's about the graciousness, the warmth and energy you exude in your life. When you are interested in others and have hobbies and passions that you bring to a relationship you show the true you and the true beauty that lives within. Begin by being genuinely happy, by smiling and taking a sincere interest in other people and their lives. By finding joy in your life, and an interest in others, you will find love, eventually. Ignore the boy mates who go around 'scoring' girls according to their looks and style. That's pretty shallow, isn't it. You aren't losing much, in that way. As said before, just be who you are and all the rest will fall into place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): What does this mean? The five? What was the basis of the test? Were the answers fair? Was it about looks? About personality?
What is it they said that could stand improvement? If there were no such comments then that test was nothing but crap.
How is your personality? How do you hold yourself around the opposite sex? Indifference or insecurities can come across as "snobbish", "cold", "arogant". It is amazing how many people are so wrapped up in themselves that the PROJECT their thoughts and behaviours on others so readily.
This attitude and behaviour is more pronounced in the 13-22 years of age. How unfortunate.
What were the questions and how were they worded? I imagine not in away that would help you but rather further hurt and isolate you.
Awareness of others is not happening with these "friends".
I wouldn't put too much into what other think; especially when it's about looks.
I would stay true to who you are and how you are and believe that there are young men out there who can see and appreicate you the way you are. It doesn't offer quick answers and comfort I know but love who you are and just be kind and forgiving; it will all pass.
*hugs*
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (21 July 2006):
 Re: Below posting...: Ugggh you lesbo
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): Have you thought about switching sides?
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Maybe it's not your looks but your personality. You remind me of my friend, she thinks she very pretty which she is but she pissed at the fact i have guys interested in me.
Guys think she pretty and apporach her but she thinks too high of herself which just makes them walk. She's bit of princess.
So maybe it's not the way you look but the way you behave
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