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writes: Hi everyone,I was wondering if you can help me. I'm a 24 year old male who has been hurt by every girl that I ever cared about. Three in total. I have learned something from every girl I have been with. The last girl I have been with really hurt me. I tried everything in my power to make things work between us. It's hard for me to meet girls cause I'm very insecure and shy about myself. I'm a very good guy. I'm told that I'm a very sweet guy and that any girl who gets me will be very lucky. I'm the kind of guy who will do anything for friends and people who are special to me. Why is that all the girls I do meet leave me when all I want to do is love them be happy with them? Every time I get over one girl another one hurts me more then the last one. Does the nice guy really always finish last? This is who I am and can't be an asshole like most people tell me to do. I have been going through this for the last 6 years, happy for a while then hurting like crazy. Someone help!Can I ever be happy? Will a girl appericate me for me or is it a lost cause? Ladies can you please give me your opinion. thanks Dan
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): What type of women have u been dating?
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Stop focusing on being in a relationship and start focusing on YOU!! You obviously have not met the right person yet, and anyway do you really want to yet as you are only 24? Carry on as you are and deal with your insecurities as it is these that may be drivng the women away. It is sooo not attractive when a man is clingy and strives for attention ALL the time!! So keep your head up, be confident, find interests to do in your spare time, make yourself interesting, still be nice though. Chill, be yourself, and enjoy life as it is with ot without a girl in your life!!
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reader, ask beryl +, writes (26 July 2006):
 u havent found the right girl yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): You sound soooo lovely, Im 25 and I keep falling for assholes and they keep hurting me, I wish I could find a sweet caring bloke like you. Trust me their are some really nice girls out their, these things are meant to test us and the right girl will soon come into your life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): Wow, you do sound lovely, erm can I have your number? I know someone like you, we all call him a walk over as he is too 'nice' with his girlfriends, do you fell like you stand your ground in situations and would you consider yourself a walk over? You know why Madonna is with Guy Richie?! Her answer was beacuse she loves the fact he has the ball's to stand up to a woman! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): You sound like a lovely guy and i'm sure u'll meet someone who will love and appreciate you for that. Don't become an asshole, no matter what everyone else tells u to do! having a few bad relationships is no reason to start treating women badly! but sometimes its a vicious circle!
you will be happy and u will find someone worthy of you! don't let anyone tell u otherwise and have faith in women - we're not all bad! and more importantly yourself!
i do wonder about a couple of things, u say ur shy and insecure?! - perhaps ur insecurity is partly to blame for the break down in previous relationships. i dont know the details or how previous relationships went but from experience insecurity and sometimes possessiveness and clinginess can drive the person you love away!? which is exactly what u don't want!
but don't worry, and don't listen to people who say don't be a nice guy - yes there are some women who for some silly reason don't go for nice guys and go for ones who treat us bad! but there are women out there who like nice guys! trouble is they're often as shy as you!
solution? try joining clubs etc, find some new hobbies and sure enough u'll probably meet someone lovely in no time!!!
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