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writes: I have confidence in my appearance but I don't get any attention. I'm not like other girls and all. I guess you can say I'm unique thats how I put it. I don't get any attention from the guys I do like and all but from guys that are well lets just say not my type. Should I just settle for the guys that are beneath my standards? Transparent
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2006): I have to say that I was in the same boat as you until a couple of years ago. A family member told me to my face that I was being conceited and I'm way too fussy with men. I set my 'standards' way too high. I was looking for Mr Perfect, and he doesn't exist (neither does Ms Perfect, for that matter). Don't you think any nice, decent, respectale young man deserves a chance before you write him off completely? You might be pleasantly surprised. A man you might not have given a second thought to might just turn out to be your Prince Charming, once you get to know him properly. Give guys a chance, cast your net a bit wider, and get to know someone before you say that he's not your type.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (21 July 2006):
 Well without sounding harsh, what on earth does "beneath me" mean, thats a very shallow comment and if you conduct yourself in this type of manner it is more than likely why you are not attracting a guy more suited to you as your giving out the bad vibes! Time to take a chill i think, and remember no one is beneath you.. we are all equal in this world, we just choose to live our lives differently or we got dealt a different card! Dont be so concieted, theres not a rush anyway to get a guy, it will happen, but you may need to change your attitude.
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (21 July 2006):
 Ahhh.... 'woe is me' !! (Sniff..!)
Good answer Martini!! Hehe heh!! If you are only in your teens, plese honey do not worry, you will find someone in time, you have LOADS of time. Why not just enjoy being on your own, hang out with friends, so what if your'e not with a guy. All women seem interested in these days is being with someone, they think that is the answer to happiness and answer to all lifes problems...WRONG!! How sad to think this. The answer to leading a happy and secure life is to be happy in your own company, to appreciate that while, yes a reltionship is good when it works and you compliment each other and can share time together, but it comes with a price, if it doesn't work out, you have all the hurt and upset and pain that comes with it too!!
Why the rush to meet somone anyway? You say you have confidence in your appearence, do you have confidence in YOU? Are you a happy and secure person, who likes being on your own? If you are then you wouldn't have asked the question: Should I just settle for guys that are beneath my standards?!! Think I've answered your question here...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): And you are what age? If you tell me/us that you're still in your teens, then I'll just smirk and say nothing, cuz it always seems to get me in some sort of 'trouble'. However, if you are well above the teen years, I'll say this at the very least: you must not meet enough guys, and if you are, then you must be meeting them in very specific places in very specific ways.
From your last sentence alone, you sound like a very desperate girl. Are you REALLY that desperate to find some guy and get hitched? Why? That doesn't make any sense. What is this? A love-sick race to see who gets married first?!?!?
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