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writes: I'm so upset, we were about to start trying for a baby. I'm going to the clinic tomorrow to get myself sorted, but what if I am infertile now because of him? What if he is infertile?! And where did he get it from? He said he was checked and given the all clear just before we met. He has been harping on about catching it from a public toilet seat - what a load of rubbish! I'm really gutted this has so rocked my world am I over-reacting? I feel like breaking up with him but we have planned a whole future together and it is too much to just throw away
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): hi just a thought but how do you know that you didn't have it to start with and that it wasn't you who passed it onto him?I got tested after i split from my long term boy friend and it was negative so when i started a new relationship i was shocked to find out a few months later i had chlamydia so i told my new boyfriend that he must of had it before we got together which he also thought as he had never been tested so when it came back that he didn't we were both shocked and he thought i had cheated on him which i honestly hadn't he would not believe that i had only slept with him and my ex also did not have it but i did my home work and found that you can get both false positives and negatives i only got tested because i had symptoms and knowing my partner had never been tested worried me as it is we split up i think you should be very careful he might be telling you the truth that he has not cheated but his test might have been wrong the first time any thing can affect a mans results take your time
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reader, badbrit  +, writes (26 July 2006):
one question. How does he know he was clear just before he met you? He had a test just before he met you? I dont know him so cannot judge or know for sure, but i do find that very unlikely. I dont know of many men who pop themselves off for a test just for the sake of it.
I shall only tell you things from my own experiences. Once I cheated on a partner and thought I had clymidia too. While waiting for result, i was racking my brains to think how to tell my partner without admitting I had cheated. I decided, and it seemed logical at the time, to say i had caught it either from a toilet seat too, or to also say I had been tested due to some made up reason a year earlier then hope that she had either cheated herself and would feel guilty or would think she had had it for ages. (i was negative by the way)
I wonder, has he accused you of cheating? Cos if he really knows for sure that you gave it to him, it is only logical to suspect you may have cheated. I know it can be dormant a year or two, but most men, when finding this out, would be mightly suspicious, unless they know they got it elsewhere
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Catching chlamydia from a toilet seat my arse...!!!! It is transferrable though sexual intercourse and oral sex. I should know I had it once...!!! Anyway, he is either lying about him being in the clear when you met or he has been with someone while he has been with you. Either way he is a lier...!! Up to you what you do now...
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Okay Chlamydia, is a very silent STI. There are normally no symptoms with this and if there are its normally a discharge and some dicomfort down below and with men its normally a discharge from his penis, if any symptoms at all. Now the thing with Chlamydia it can be in your system for years without you knowing it.. So you could have already had it from a previous partner possibly and its you thats passed it on to your bf or hes cheating and caught it from someone else, you do say he was clear before he met you, so his ramblings of catching it off a toilet seat etc are very very remote and could be that hes covering up something or hes scared you will think he will have been cheating, the only way you will know for sure is whether you know for sure prior to him you didnt have Chlamydia. I have known people to have this for at least 2-3 years before relising it and its normally because they pass it on to someone else that they realise they have it. The thing with the inferlity is that the longer this infection has been in the system the longer it has to attack your reproductive organs. If you have only had this for a short time then the risk is alot less and you should have no problems concieving, its the long term damage that the problem as it is hard to know you have it as the symptoms dont always present themselves. It however is treated with a high does antibiotic so its simple enough to treat, but can leave longer lasting effects dependant on how long you have had it. I hope for your sake you havent had it for a long period of time without realising, but also i really hope he hasnt cheated, but i dont know where he would have gotten it, of a, he didnt get it from you then he must have got it from another female at some point, unless of course he wasnt clear before he met you!!
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