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*o_in_love
writes:Hi. I'm 16 years old and I have slept with 5 people.. All being within the past 3 months.3 of which were on holiday, so they don't matter to me. However, 2 were in England, one being one of my good friends (we've discussed it and have decided to forget it happened) and the other being a 21 year old who I met through a friend. He has a girlfriend, and has done for two years. I feel awful on her for what I'm doing, but then again I sometimes don't see that I'm doing anything wrong.. I know this guy doesn't care about me, and that doesn't bother me too much. I'm worried about the guy I really like finding out about all this and going off me for it, I know that he wouldn't be interested if he knew. I'm basically asking to guys.. Or girls really.. If you found out about all that.. Would you still be interested in someone?? I've had STI checks and they are all negative.Thanks xxx
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reader, so_in_love +, writes (2 August 2007):
so_in_love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone.. Thats actually what I really needed to hear (not being sarcastic..)I'm gonna stop being that way, and save myself for a guy who's worth it.. Hopefully one will still want me.xxxx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (31 July 2007):
 I would normally say that your sexual history is your concern and that if a man judged you for it then it would mean he probably wouldnt be right for you. However, at 16 you have lots of sexual experience in non-committed relationships and I think that isn't necessarily all because you like the sex. It is probably because you like the attention from guys running up to having sex and maybe there are some other emotional reasons. Only you can figure it all out and you have to start learning to relate to guys in a non-sexual way in order to sustain a long term relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): Quite probably. I'd say don't mention it and hope that he isn't interested in knowing as no good will come from it. That said, it is our experiences that make us who we are so it would be a shame if your past caused this relationship to end before it even got started. All the best and good luck!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Yes. Yes it may.
Some men like self respecting girls andif they hear what you've done(dismissing the sex you had) it may turn them off.
I dont wanna sound too harsh but like deejuliet said clean up yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): Sleeping with lots of people is not going to impress anybody; you'll just get yourself a reputation for being easy. Sleeping with that many people at such a young age and in such a short amount of time would put anybody off.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Yes, this will turn off any decent guy worth having. You will only get the dregs of society. Clean up your act, girl!
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reader, Guitarboy  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Any girl who has that kind of sexual history at the mere age of 16 would be a red flag to me. What are you trying to prove? Do you have sex so quickly because you think it'll win a guy's love? It won't. Quite the opposite. We like to feel like we have to work to acheive something that's worth having and worth appreciating. You make it too easy for us and we'll just use you up and toss you aside and eventually (if not already) you'll get labeled as a slut and then no decent guy will want you. It's a terrible pattern to break. You'd be wise to step back and change your pattern at once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): well i would call u a slut but the truth is you're not doing anything worng so im gonna take your side here. the 3 guys on holiday dnt matter any1 would do that. ditch the older guys coz hes a waste of time nd probably an ass. the guy u like dont need 2 know all this just stop doin it with random people for a while. take a break and just go with the flow for a bit. you'll feel much happier. good luck with life and i hope this helped.
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