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writes:should i finish with my boyfriend as he never wants to spend time with my children and always changes his mind about our relationship? one minute he tells me we should move in together, and the next that he needs time to get his head around the family thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): i think (and this is just an opinion so you dnt have to take it to heart) but you should get rid you need a guy tht will make you and your kids happy and will always be there to support you. he cnt keep changing his mind. give him the choice to see them and tell him thats his final chance then move forward
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Tell this guy your children are important to you & you dont want them to be fcuked around! Who does he think he is?
If a guy said that kinda thing to me i would bin them off as soon as. Preferbly before my children got to know him!
But thats just me & having a mum that dated a shed load of guys when i was a child & never stayed with them long.
I begged my ex to not waste mine & my childrens time & not lie to us, he promised he would never hurt me or my children, yet still lied through his teeth. You gotta trust your instincts on this one & i get the feeling yours are telling you to put your children first.
Good luck
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): That same thing happened to my friend's mom. The guy she was with kept breaking up with her, and he would say she could move in, then he'd change his mind. It made her miserable. That was about 3 yrs. ago. Now they are married. What she did was put her foot down. You need to do the same thing. Say you want to get married & move in with in a certain time period, or you're moving on. And mean it. Don't talk to him if he begs you back either unless he is ready to do what you want.
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reader, Guitarboy  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Yeah, I'd move on. He's either in or he's out but the back and forth thing is not good for you or your kids. It will make them feel rejected and responsible for your happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): leave him. if he cant accept that you have kids hes not worth it. if you stay together and it does work out then it could end up affecting your relationbship with your kids. hope this helped.
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