I need to hear those three words
Q. Hi everyone, I am 23 yrs old and I have a new bf, he's 30 yrs old. We've been going out for 4 months now and bf/gf for 2months. A month ago I told him that I love him and he just nod and agree, I told him its ok if he doesnt feel the same way...
A. 26 May 2010: You are acting very insecure and manipulative. If you want him to say it and mean it, then let him be and quit trying to manipulate him into it. Coercering and cornering is not to your advantage. Just because you fall in love so easily doesn't ... (read in full...)
Can you heal after being cheated on?
Q. I have just found out that my fiancee cheated on me. We have been together for two years and a few months back he had heard some rumours that I was cheating on him and when I told him it was not true he did not believe me. A few nights later I saw ...
A. 26 May 2010: He has not shown in the two years of being with you that he is committed to the relationship. If you aren't even married yet and are having these kind of issues with him, it might be better to lick your wounds and move on before starting a family. ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend seriously ignores me, what should I do?
Q. For the past few days, my new boyfriend has been ignoring me, and not talking to me. Hes always with my friends and seems so much happier with them then me.... My friend who dated him said he was just shy, but this doesn't seem like shyness to me......
A. 26 May 2010: Could be he isn't boyfriend material and should be placed in the "friends only" drawer - at least for the time being. It doesn't sound like he is ready for a serious relationship. As much as it may hurt, somethings just aren't meant to be. I ... (read in full...)
Is cryotherapy worth the cost?
Q. I went in for my regular female exam and ended up having to get a cervical biopsy. I got the results back from that, and all my doctor told me was "the abnormal cells we seen are caused by hpv." She didn't tell me if I had warts or if it was just ...
A. 25 May 2010: Dr's who have seen many types of the same thing usually know what procedure will most likely work without some of the extra steps. They also want to treat you right away to prevent any further problems. I had the cryo"therapy" - one session on an ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. So my ex and I broke up about 2 years ago, it was difficult at first, but we managed to maintain a pretty close friendship... But now things are a little different. The last few months, we have been hanging out alone a couple times a month, a...
A. 25 May 2010: He obviously has feelings for you. Maybe you should ask him just what they are. Don't you want to know what you might or might not be getting into? It's time to play the "grown-up" card and talk things over like adults. ... (read in full...)
Did I mis-read the signals?
Q. Its silly, I've been married but I've never really been on a normal "date". I met my ex on the internet - our relationship was somewhat abusive and I was socially isolated for most our relationship so I tend to be socially behind my peers, and even ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well the ball is in his court. Maybe have some "lighter" facebook encounters with him. Don't pressure him but do provide questions or comments showing genuine interest in him other than romantically. If after a few attempts to encourage ... (read in full...)
My mother-in-law is a horrible example
Q. i have been with my husband including dating for nearly five years, and within those five years we have had the biggest arguments, all because of one person, my mother in law. although hate is a strong word, but i will use it only because of the ...
A. 25 May 2010: What Grant writes is true. However, it is up to your husband to step up and be the man of his family (you and your children) and protect your interests. It is obvious that his mother has issues by anyones standards. If he can't do this, then ... (read in full...)
I'm trapped as long as my sister refuses to pull her weight
Q. This is more of a family question, hope you guys can help. I'm 27, and both my parents and I are immigrants. I have two college degrees and have been working for the past 3 years. I live with my parents and younger sister. I bought the house...
A. 25 May 2010: Although your sister appears to be a user and is not pulling her weight, it is not her responsibility to take on the role you helped enable for your parents. It is not fair to try and pass this burden onto her. There are absolutes in life. You ... (read in full...)
Looking at an escort site and my girlfriend found out...what should I do?
Q. Where do I start I have been seeing my partner of a year I'm 41 she is 42 we both have kids everything was amazing till I very stupidly one night I was waiting on here to return from work and I used her pc I was fed up been working since 5 am was ...
A. 24 May 2010: Many times, cheating doesn't start out as an "intent to..." It starts out exactly as what you did, pretty innocent, curious, yada, yada, yada. It can develop into a problem and has for many people. She is not wrong to be concerned. If she is ... (read in full...)
He's making subtle comments about commitment -- should I press him?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is 31. We have been together with for just under a year. We have discussed marriage once before in this time seriously about 3 months ago. At that time I wasn't ready and I didn't know how to express it so I got real...
A. 24 May 2010: A 26 year old snooping for no reason is teenage crap. The questions and issues you have raised are very serious and do not have simple solutions. On many of them, your position should already be established prior to any relationship. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy you've been friends with for many years has developed a crush on you.
Q. How can you tell if a guy you've been friends with for many years has developed a crush on you. We are past the point of long loving glances, as we look each other in the eyes when we talk anyway. I have fallen from him, but I don't want to screw ...
A. 24 May 2010: I would ask him more serious questions while not being threatening. Work into your conversations things like: so, where do you want to be in 5, (10, 20 whatever) years? What would you do if you had 5 kids? You must know him pretty well by this ... (read in full...)
How much communication with your significant other is enough?
Q. How much communication with your significant other is enough? My boyfriend of three years goes to law school at night and I work all day and so during the week we hardly talk. I tried calling him during the week but he just sounds stressed out from ...
A. 24 May 2010: You have a need for more communication than he does. The schedules you have definitely take a toll on a relationship. He needs his friends and the kind of life he is trying to live. I am confused though, why can't he combine you with his friends? ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage and don't know what to do
Q. I'm very unhappy with my marriage and I am really fed up and want to finish it but don't know what to do. I do all the housework and gardening and shopping and work full time. I have lots of friends and get involved in lots of local activities...
A. 24 May 2010: He has some obvious mental and psychiatric issues. The first red flag is the comment "husbands have killed their wives for nagging so much". Since he has "divorced" you mentally and emotionally, I would definitely move on. The first thing I would ... (read in full...)
I'm just not getting into this new relationship!
Q. dear cupid, i was recently dateing a girl for 2 and half years for which we broke up about 9/10 months ago after her doing the cheating thing on me which in the past 4 weeks i got together with my new girl for which i have known for a year, the ...
A. 24 May 2010: It may be that you're not ready to give a romantic relationship the energy and attention it needs to grow. It might be a good idea to keep your relationships on a purely "friends only" basis for the time being. Be honest with the women who might ... (read in full...)
Girl of my dreams... still loves her ex. What do I do?
Q. Ok, here it is. A few months ago I met this lovely girl who I instantly developed very strong feelings for, right from the beginning. We have been texting each other ever since and have since met up once for lunch and we both had a lot of fun. I can ...
A. 24 May 2010: You don't state how long it has been since she broke up with her bf. It does take a bit of time to recover from a breakup, regardless of the circumstances. I would continue to stay friends with her, as you have both admitted to feelings of ... (read in full...)
I'm so afraid of getting hurt that I end things with every guy!
Q. Hi After I got divorced ( a 13 yr relationship) I met a man(7 yrs older) I really liked right away, first we were friends and then we became FWB( he was clearly using me since he never spoke of having any feelings for me nor did he show it in ...
A. 19 May 2010: It doesn't sound like you are ready for a romantic relationship at the moment. Most people do want to grow old with someone. Live your life in the now, enjoying it, take some classes of interest, volunteer in your community. Focus on other things ... (read in full...)
Financially a mess, I do love him but this discovey has soured my opinion of him!
Q. I met a father with kids a year and a half ago. Initially he was staying with the kids and their mother to help keep family peace. After six months he moved in with me and my kids. Shortly after that he lost his job. I have been paying all of our ...
A. 19 May 2010: So far, it doesn't appear that he is in love with you. As you know, his children should come first, before any love interest. From my unbiased opinion, he is using you to his and his family's best interest. Why you would subject yourself to this ... (read in full...)
Is he into me? or is he bored?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months. I have two concerns. First, he does not express his feelings. He says he loves me everyday but that is about it. He will not say anymore. He says he just don't show his feelings. He doe...
A. 17 March 2010: It sounds like he is not the man you want him to be. He has given you valid "excuses" and explanations for his personality and behavior but it doesn't satisfy your "need" for more. Give the guy a break. If you aren't into him the way he is, then ... (read in full...)
He says there is something missing...
Q. 3 months ago this guy asked me out at a party, hes 55, sweet and kind, we went for coffee twice then to the cinema on 3 consequtive saturdays, I told him from the beginning I wanted to take it slowly and I was so determined to stick to this and not ...
A. 17 March 2010: Don't be so hasty to blame it on "shagging" or lack there of. Not wanting to jump in the sack right away is fine. Sounds though like you pretty much gave him a cold shoulder and you didn't offer him anything! Not even a nice warm and inviting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he would have me sign a prenup. What do you think of this?
Q. My BF if self-employed and his business is booming. He's also very ambitious. He tells me a lot about his work and the other day was talking about a client of his whose wife 'cleaned up' when they got divorced. He's also got a friend who recently ...
A. 1 March 2010: What are YOU thinking??? He didn''t bring it up, nor suggested it in your situation. What is wrong with protecting ones self anyway. ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend's boyfriend may be hitting on me.
Q. I'm wondering if my best friend's boyfriend's behaviour is appropriate? We often all go out together,we have all been friends for many years, but when he has had a few drinks he becomes very tactile with me. He hugs me, grabs me and strokes me and ...
A. 1 March 2010: It is what it is. No, you are not reading anything that isn't happening. The fact that you stated what is going on shows you are completely aware. Are you wanting affirmation? What about the word NO. JUST SAY NO TO MORAL COWARDICE.... (read in full...)
My b/f says it's the baby or him
Q. Hi I am 14 wks pregnant and been in my relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have a 5 year old son together. My boyfriend is not happy about this pregnancy and says he doesnt want anymore kids and is forcing me to choose between him and ...
A. 1 March 2010: Wow, try to get evidence of this to present in court. What a puke. Choose the baby. Get a new man.....or not. I realize that part of this site is tact but you can't ignore the obvious. ... (read in full...)
I want to rush this relationship along to make sure she is mine
Q. There's a girl. We haven't known each other for that long, but we have been going out on dates. We have talked nearly every day since we met and have really hit it off. We are holding hands, hugging, etc. She has recently gotten out of a bad ...
A. 20 February 2010: If you both feel it then let it be. Slow down, it will still be there. Make it last. Rushing is just what it is.....rushing. If you are seriously thinking of your future then really think, and act. ... (read in full...)
I have just discovered my husband is cheating with escorts
Q. Just found out my husband has been cheating on me with escorts. I still love him and want to work things out. Am I wrong for feeling this way?...
A. 20 February 2010: Not wrong but why? ... (read in full...)
My roomie brings home random men, has loud unprotected sex with them, what should I do here?!
Q. hi. this is long but i really need some advice... i was wondering if anybody had any ideas what else i can do to help my friend. she is 22 and we share a flat together at uni where we are studying to be nurses. she is really beautiful and a ...
A. 19 February 2010: Well, you can't stay in this situation. Are you sure you couldn't trade rooms with someone? Also, why don't you tell her you can't live in these conditions and ask HER to move on? Maybe she isn't there for the education. Tell her that you're ... (read in full...)
When I blush, my arms and face turn bright red. What is going on with me?!
Q. I'm 14 years old and a female. My skin is actually very pale, but when I blush my face and arms turn bright red. Now it is becoming a problem and my face gets red all the time. When I'm talking to someone, when someone says my name, even if they ...
A. 19 February 2010: Well, it is kind of like an anxiety attack of the skin. However, as it is a physical reaction to a psychological state, then mental is how you need to deal with it. Instead of fighting it, accept it. Go with it instead of against it. When you ... (read in full...)
I confided in my friend that my ex had been sexually abused, but now we may get back together.
Q. hey.. i broke up with my girlfreind about 4 weeks ago, she had been sexually abused in the past and it has affected her trust in people. anyway i took the break up bad, i kept things in for two weeks and then confided everything (including the ...
A. 19 February 2010: Why in the world would you tell your gf that you told her personal intimate details to another "friend". The fact that the "friend" is a female is even worse. Don't be an ass and tell her. You need to take perspective on yourself, the ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what to do about my troubled relationship without anyone getting hurt!
Q. I don't know if I should break up. It's been a year and a half now and until last October, I could see myself marrying "A" and having kids with him. We both wanted it. I still do want it but its definitely not possible the way things are right...
A. 19 February 2010: Unfortunately, some people are just toxic together and it sounds like this might be the situation for you two. Neither of you have respect for one another nor each others best interest at heart. As hurtful as breaking up is, it is nowhere near the ... (read in full...)
Do I have an STD from giving head?
Q. i gave head on monday the 15th of february 2010 and yesterday the 17th of feb 2010 i got a coldsore thing on the side of my lip,..is that anything to do with me giving head? i heard you can get an std by oral, im scareedddddd...
A. 19 February 2010: If you have never had a cold sore before, most likely, you have been exposed and now exhibit signs of the herpes virus. You need to get valtrex or something similar to lessen the severity. There are also over the counter cold sore medicines such ... (read in full...)
Why is he doing this?? Does he just want SEX?
Q. a guy i met on plenty of fish dating site.. we've met in public once he says he wants to come to my house and chill with me cos HE HAS NO MONEY TO TAKE ME OUT. but he drives a very posh car and has a good job. i said i want to go out on d...
A. 19 February 2010: Sounds to me like he doesn't want to be seen with you in public, for one reason or another. He obviously isn't trying to impress you. You haven't even been on one proper date and he's manipulating you and trying to make you feel guilty for wanting ... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: Sometimes after people hook up and have been together for a year or two, one of them might realize there is no spark or they're just not that in love with the other person. The person stays in the relationship because it is just easier. It sounds ... (read in full...)
A man is obsessed with me, please help.
Q. Hi, I am trying to end a relationship with a man who is obsessed with me and intent on marrying me. He is a good man and he truly loves me and wants to protect me. But he is controlling, and even though I love him, I can't take the control. I k...
A. 14 February 2010: First of all, you need to be stronger and more assertive. Do not move back in with him, that would be leading him on. Also, have you considered counseling or some sort of outside intervention? If you are sure you don't want to be with him, then ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: This is the epitimy of scorekeeping. You obviously have designated yourself as Judge and Jury. Probably a good thing you found a man with no balls to push around. A real man would tell you to take a hike. ... (read in full...)
I am very confused and not able to forget her past.
Q. I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...
A. 2 February 2010: More than her past, you should be concerned about the fact that she lied. You should probably take a step back and think more about it. If you can't get over it, then don't marry her. It is terrible for a partner to throw "old" relationships and ... (read in full...)
Did you have to train your boyfriend?
Q. I recently got into a relationship with a guy. Although he is much older than I am, I often have to instruct him in proper behavior. This is anything from wearing a belt (so the top of his rear isn't showing) to making mature conversation (so he ...
A. 2 February 2010: It isn't normal but do consider that all people aren't raised and "prepped" in the same social structure as yourself. Have you met his family? Also, he may have been exposed to proper etiquette but didn't feel the need to adopt the behavior while ... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 1 February 2010: What you should really do instead of being evil and "using" her, is tell her you find her cold, insensitive and cruel. Then leave her immediately. Don't poison your karma with bad behavior. Just move on and consider yourself lucky in making a ... (read in full...)
My sex life is just one big stress!!!
Q. I am soo stressed about this. I'm very young but I love my bf. I don't know if I should wait or go for it but I have a feeling that this time is right to have sex but when it comes to this I get very stressed out I tremble and I can't breathe. I ...
A. 1 February 2010: There are many things that can't be undone in life. Some of them very important and verrry memorable. This is one of them. Also if your boyfriend is 16 years of age or over he can be prosecuted in many states for statutory rape. You will be an ... (read in full...)
Is he more attached than he let on??
Q. Hello: My boss is like 44 yrs old. He is very immature.. Well, I have been pulling away from him for some time because of an attraction between us. Needless to say - It went to HR. He asked to stay cordial with me and wanted us to sti...
A. 1 February 2010: This is called sexual harassment in the work place. First of all, TELL NO ONE ever what you are about to do. Not even you best friend, ever! Slip a recorder in your pocket and have it ready to go with new tape (make sure it at least 30 min on ... (read in full...)
He's much older than me..will this be a problem?
Q. I am carrying this kind of problem everyday. I am confused and i don't know what is best and right to do. I currently having a relationship with a guy who is older than me and separated from him wife. I am 23 years old and he is 50 years of age....
A. 31 January 2010: You really need to search inside yourself and ask if you can stay committed to this man because of the age difference. Try to see what possible problems might come up because of it and threaten your happiness. As you work in a nursing home and ... (read in full...)
I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?
Q. How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad ...
A. 31 January 2010: E.D. seemse to be a fairly common problem. I believe it has been more exposed in recent years due to more openess about sexuality issues. It would be wise to discuss the issue with your wife so she isn't wondering about your feelings for her. ... (read in full...)
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