Would nude photos of me, given to my boyfriend, be considered "child porn"?
Q. I'm 15, my bf is 18. He wants naked photos of me, which I'm up for 100%, but would it be illegal, considered as child porn?...
A. 26 May 2006: You're in the USA, so the answer to whether nude pictures of you (a 15 year old) would be illegal (child porn) is a big... maybe. Contrary to popular belief, in the USA, pictures of nude minors are not automatically considered child porn. However, ... (read in full...)
My husband likes porn and I am in an abusive marriage
Q. I have been with my husband for over 20 years and have experienced an abusive marriage with regards to his alcoholism, infedility, mental and physical abuse, masturbation, sexual demands as well as him being able to carry out conversations and ...
A. 20 May 2006: Well, I don't want it to be only women answering you, but the three who have answered so far have done such a great job that there is little for me to add.
However, I'll say this. Your husband's self-esteem seems to be derived primarily from him... (read in full...)
He's 52, I'm 17...how to get to know him..so we can be better mates?
Q. I'm 17, he's 52. We get on well and we've known each other for over 5 years. He calls me a mate which is great but we don't know much bout each other. We've always speak whenever we see each other and i trust him but i still don't know much bout ...
A. 20 May 2006: I'm generally in favor of "age gap" relationships, but this gap is a little too big even for me. I would suggest that you might want to just be friends. There is nothing wrong with having friends whose ages are dramatically different from your own. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend turned gay, Now I cant seem to move on.. Please help!
Q. Alright well let me start with my age. Im 15, yes i know its not very old. But i have had my share of relationship problems. I fell in love with this 18 year old kid. I absoulutly loved him...i really did. He felt the same way. He asked me out, but ...
A. 4 May 2006: I believe that you DO know what love is, but eventually you will have to move on romantically. Have you told him how you feel about him? Perhaps you and he could still remain very good friends.
It's best that he told you now that he was gay and ... (read in full...)
He loves me so much but just can't satisfy me!!
Q. I have been in a relationship with this guy for about 4 month now and i'm 30 year old and he is 48.I know he loves me so much but when it comes to sex it's not going so well. The thing is everytime when we do sex it last about 2-3 minute.He said he ...
A. 20 April 2006: It seems like he could help satisify you in other ways besides by using his penis. I mean, he does have a tongue, doesn't he?... (read in full...)
Am I a party pooper?
Q. Hiya My friends and I have a really good fun friendship. But most of them love to go out partying. They spend ridiculous amounts of money on drink and new outfits and getting into expensive clubs. They often stand out side clubs for 2 hours before j...
A. 20 April 2006: You shouldn't feel bad about not joining your friends on ALL their outings. I faced a similar situation in my early twenties. I allowed my friends to drag me along with them to various bars and strip clubs (yuck!) even though I knew I didn't really ... (read in full...)
I have a major crush on a teacher. He gave me a lift home and we kissed!
Q. Is it wrong for a 13 year old to have a major crush on a teacher? I asked him to give me a lift home the other day as I told him I was getting bullied, as I know he is kind and would believe me. So he did and we kissed. I really liked it but every ...
A. 12 April 2006: There is certainly nothing wrong with having a crush on your teacher. However, it was inappropriate for him to kiss you, mostly because he is your teacher. Based on what you have said though, it does NOT sound like he is "sick" or that he "exploit... (read in full...)
We're only 2 years apart, but my friends think I need somone older...
Q. im 14 and my boyfriends only 12 i no its not a huge age gap but it feels like it at my age . well getting to the point my friends think im wierd because the 2 years age gap and saying i should find some my own age . what should i do listen to my ...
A. 4 April 2006: Don't worry too much about what friends think. Real friends will support you in this matter.
I don't know why so many people are obsessed with differences in age. I think what really matters is how people treat each other, not how old they are... (read in full...)
I'm a 35 year old virgin. Should I tell this divorced man or will he think I'm a freak?
Q. I am 35 and have just started seeing a divorced man who is 15 years older that me and has 3 children from his marraige, i am a virgin and dont know whether to tell him that in case he thinks there is something wrong with me or will he guess i am a ...
A. 4 April 2006: Be honest and tell him. He will probably be very impressed and consider himself lucky. Not many 50-year-olds get to have a virgin... :-)... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend if he wants a threesome?
Q. hello, i am a 23 year old girl who has been with my boyfriend for 1 year and a month. we get along amazingly and have a trustful relationship. the problem (which really isnt a problem exactly) is that i want to spice up our sex life, by having a ...
A. 2 March 2006: As a male, it should be easy for me to answer your question. But, I find it hard to understand why a man would not be thrilled at such an offer. If he rejects your offer, then you have some serious thinking to do. I find it difficult to comprehend ... (read in full...)
There is lack of passion in our relationship so are we incompatible?
Q. I have been with my fiance for more than five years now... and it is good, but there is a lack of passion. I don't enjoy sex with him anymore, and we rarely kiss which I don't like either. What is going on?? Does this mean that we are not right for ...
A. 1 March 2006: Unfortunately, the natures of relationships change with time. The sexual "passion" that existed at the beginning often fades. Hopefully, there are other things (common interests) over which you can both share a different form of passion. It is als... (read in full...)
I'm 16-he's 31...we're so happy together..how do we get other's to see it that way?
Q. I'm 16 and have known this 31 year old guy for about a year now. At first, I wasn't at all attracted to him, but as I got to know him, I realized how much I enjoyed being around him. As the summer went on and I got to know him better, I really ...
A. 28 February 2006: I'm not sure why Harshbutfair thinks that people should BEWARE of adults who feel that young men and young women should be presented both sides of an issue and allowed to make their own choices. Had the question poster indicated that she was unhappy ... (read in full...)
I'm 16-he's 31...we're so happy together..how do we get other's to see it that way?
Q. I'm 16 and have known this 31 year old guy for about a year now. At first, I wasn't at all attracted to him, but as I got to know him, I realized how much I enjoyed being around him. As the summer went on and I got to know him better, I really ...
A. 26 February 2006: Hi. I am the resident cheerleader for age gap relationships - if they are done right. Yours seems like it could be a good one!
The fact that in about a year you have gone from meeting to kissing would indicate that he is behaving very much lik... (read in full...)
Looking at porn is all right for him (he says), but I'm not even allowed to talk to male friends!
Q. I know this is long, but it's hard to sum up, cause there's a lot to consider. It goes quite fast though, I assure you that. I just ask that you please read it because the advice will be muchly appreciated in return: So on basics, I’ve been wit...
A. 24 February 2006: You are being too nice. I don't see any problem with porn used in moderation, but your BF gives all men a bad name. Him: "yeah, slutty girls were made to do porn, but porn is just sick for girls to look at. Porn isn’t associated with girls to lo... (read in full...)
When I ask my Mother about sex...she goes all cold. Should I just keep trying or what?
Q. I have recently turned 16 and me and my boyfriend really want to have sex for the first time. we waited so that we knew it was the right thing to do, until it would be legal and so i could tell my parents, because i've always wanted to be as open as ...
A. 22 February 2006: Congratulations! It seems you are being more mature about this matter than your parents are. I think it is very wrong for your parents to say that sex at your age is disgusting. I don't believe that consensual sex is ever disgusting, and I don't ... (read in full...)
He claims that he downloads and trades porn "to practice hacking". I don't believe him...
Q. Been with my man for 2 years. We live together. Over the last six months I keep coming across porn. He was downloading it from the internet. Anyway I got upset at him, explained to him that it makes me feel ugly and I just don't like it being in...
A. 21 February 2006: Personally, I don't see anything wrong with porn used in moderation... though I am not much into it myself. However, your man seems to have a real problem with the truth. Downloading porn for some type of hacking practice?!?! That has to be one of... (read in full...)
Walked in on my boyfriend and discovered his DVD of porn!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs and I love him very much and don't wont to lose him. But this morning I found a porn film in his room. We have descused porn before and I've explained that I personaly don't like it. But the issue is that I ...
A. 18 February 2006: I think the biggest issue is the lying. Why is he lying about watching porn? Is he embarrassed about what he is doing, or is he afraid of what your reaction will be, or something else?
Personally, I am not much into the type of porn your BF seems... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I want to marry the woman who's 30 years younger than me, but she says she wants me!
Q. I am 54 years old and my divorce was final at the end of June 2005 (married for 30 years). I met a 23 year old in May 2005 and we got engaged in sept 2005. She lost her father in Febuary of 2005. I think it's love but I'm not sure and I also love ...
A. 18 February 2006: I don't think her age really has anything to do with it.
You have been divorced for eight months, and it seems to me that you owe it to yourself to take a slow, methodical look at the whole issue of another marriage.
You wrote: "She says she lo... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and attracted to a 20-year-old, but I don't understand whether it's a crush or what...
Q. I am 13 years old. There is a girl (well she is about 20) and I am not sure how I feel about her. I just feel if she knew that I liked her and accepted it I would feel so much happier and the feeling which I have when I see her would be lightened. ...
A. 16 February 2006: It probably is a crush, but that doesn't mean you can't talk to her. I have always felt that the best way to get over a crush is to actually get to know your crush. (That's not always easy of course.) Sometimes you end up in love with your crush, ... (read in full...)
I'm fine with second-base and third-base, but my girlfriend says it's repulsive and I shouldn't do it!
Q. Hello! Me and my girlfriend have been with each other over 2 months, but she has a bit of an issue that she doesn't think she can get over. And that's that she doesn't want to have 2nd or 3rd base done to her, for the reason that she thinks it's ...
A. 28 January 2006: It can be frustrating when a woman feels the way your GF does about cunnilingus. Unfortunately some women are ashamed and embarrassed by the taste and scent of their vagina.
I have heard that some women resist receiving oral sex so that they wil... (read in full...)
I believe I'm ready to have sexual contact with my boyfriend, but having trouble with it since Mom walked in on us!
Q. My mom once walked in on me giving my boyfriend oral sex. My boyfriend and I are 16 and we have been dating for 11 months. My parents weren't as mad that I was giving him oral sex as they were that I was doing it in their house and they didnt want ...
A. 25 January 2006: I agree with you that 16 years old is a fine age to be able to decide for yourself if you are ready for sex. It is too bad that your parents see a natural and (with proper precautions) harmless activity as "that kind of behavior". I think their ... (read in full...)
I need him but he's jealous and threatening and he wants me to have his child...help!
Q. I'm 15 years old.. And I met and fell in love with a 22 year old. He never asked me to have sex.. It was my choice to give it to him. Now that were sexually involved he talks about me havin his child.. And he does things like take the condom off ...
A. 17 January 2006: It hurts me to hear that you are being treated this way. You deserve so much better. No one has a right to treat you the way he is treating you. I don't doubt that you feel like you need him. But you also have a right to be treated with respect and ... (read in full...)
My man prefers porn to me..he's hugs me and is affectionate..he just doesn't like making love to me!
Q. BF prefers porn to me. What can I do? Have been together 1.5 yrs, living together 7 months. Were having sex 2x/week but then 1x/week and now once every two weeks. He's affectionate but doesn't want to make love and becomes annoyed whenever I ...
A. 10 January 2006: This is a tough one. Most men would say that another man has "something wrong with him" if he chooses to masturbate rather than have sex with an attractive and willing female. Personally, I don't think that is always true - sometimes it might be, ... (read in full...)
I think my 12 year old was masturbating. I feel I should be aware of this..so how do I ask her?
Q. I have a daughter who is over 12 yrs now and knows most everything about the human body, its functions, about sexual intercourse and has also started her periods. A few times, on my way to bed, when I go in to straighten her blanket (she rolls ...
A. 9 January 2006: Wow, I can agree with just about everything everyone has said so far on this topic, particularly purrfectionist84.
The only thing I would add is that I feel children should be told before they are 12 years old that masturbation is a natural,... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 9 January 2006: I offer an apology to the question poster if she feels I am trying to “impose” my beliefs on her. That was certainly not my intent, though, in my opinion, some other posters are trying to push their beliefs on you. I don’t know what else to call it ... (read in full...)
Honey to the bee?
Q. How would you attract a guy without looking desperate?...
A. 8 January 2006: 1. Be yourself! Otherwise, you will attract guys who are interested in what you are pretending to be, rather than what you really are.
2. Be happy when a guy tells you the truth, as long as he is not being rude about it. Some women are fixated ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 7 January 2006: I don't normally post twice on the same question, but I feel the need to do so here. After reading your follow up post to your own question, I feel even more comfortable about what you are doing. Your parents know him, and you are not currently ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife of 2 years, should I stay with her?
Q. I am in a situation right now with my wife, we have been married for about 2 years, and have known each other for almost 4 yrs. We got married when I was 19 and she was 20. We still live with her parents in their house. Our marriage wasnt really ...
A. 5 January 2006: Well, you both already made big mistakes by succumbing to pressure from the families.
If you don't love her, it is hard to imagine how getting your own place will improve matters.
The short, sharp pain of separation and divorce will ultimately ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 5 January 2006: My answer may well be the only one you get that is (at least partially) positive. At least with your ages at 13 and 24, you shouldn't have to hear the old, bogus, "he's old enough to be your father" line.
It is probably best if your "havnt d... (read in full...)
Should we have to worry about the age difference?
Q. Hi all, I am wondering if some of you could be so kind and give me your honest opinions on my situation ... i am 33 and have have fell madly in love with a 19 year old woman i have known her for over a year and the feeling we both have for ea...
A. 4 January 2006: She is legal. Don't worry about what society thinks. If you always try to please "society" you may end up miserable your whole life. I have been much happier since I quit trying to conform to the expectations of a narrow-minded society.
Your ... (read in full...)
Am I stoopid for dating a 37 year old married guy? Age 16...
Q. I'm not sure what to do. i am 16 years old and have been dating a 37 year old married man for nearly a year now. He i adore his children and i am friends with his wife. We have recently told each other that we love one another and i've stopped see...
A. 3 January 2006: I am a generally a strong supporter of younger / older relationships, no matter how large the age gap. If he were single, I would say go for it.
However, since he has made it clear that he is not going to leave his wife for you, then for the two ... (read in full...)
Dating someone older???
Q. hi i was wonderin what everyone thought about datin older ppl??? im 14 and datin a 28 year old man. what u fink??...
A. 2 January 2006: If this 28-year-old man pressures you for sex, treats you disrespectful, talks down to you, or tries to make you feel inferior to him, then I agree absolutely that you should send him packing. On the other hand, it is discouraging to see so many n... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for me (aged 18) to go out with a 15-year-old girl?
Q. I am an 18 year old male and I have been friends with a 15 year old girl. We now have relationship feelings for each other. Is this illegal if we did go out? Or would it be illegal only if we had sexual contact?...
A. 2 January 2006: Well, it is certainly legal to "go out with" her. You can legally "go out with" a 12 year old (assuming you could get her parents approval!)
Sex, or sexual contact, is another matter though. You should check on the age of consent laws for your cou... (read in full...)
He seems perfect and our ages aren't an issue to us. Should they be?
Q. I am 15 and my boyfriend is 21. We started going out and we really didn't ask the whole age question. We got really close and that's when I asked him how old he was. We had sex but I told him I would rather wait because it is safer. He respects that ...
A. 28 December 2005: The age difference should not be an issue. My answer would be the same whether your BF was 15, 21, 31, or 41. What really matters is respect. That he does nice things for you is great, and I hope he continues to do so. However, if he does not treat ... (read in full...)
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