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writes:I'm 17, he's 52. We get on well and we've known each other for over 5 years. He calls me a mate which is great but we don't know much bout each other. We've always speak whenever we see each other and i trust him but i still don't know much bout him. I leave school soon, how do i ask him i wanna know more about him or do i tell him that we can't be mates if we don't know much about each other. How can i we get to know each other as he's always busy. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): Wow, I just re-read my post and have to admit I am completely off! Haha! I thought the thread starter said she was 52! [sigh] 8[
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Not sure what really gives her, and why you need feel you need to have a friend quite so old!? Perhaps you have something missing in your life and you feel you need somebody older to guide you ? Thats the only possible reason I would think that a 17 year old would like to friends with a 52 year old ? Theres alot of distance between you and you probably wouldnt even listen to the same music or the watch the same programmes. I do find this odd, but well if you really insist on being friends with him, then treat him no different to any other friend and how you would talk to them and how you would find out stuff about them, I strongly advise finding some younger friends to hang our with though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): I believe the question you should ask Ms. Anon, is how he should get to know you better. You have decades worth of experiences, while has barely one. I am guessing he hasn't developed his own characteristics yet. I think this might be a difficult one. Were he in his mid to late twenties, it might be easier to pinpoint is desires, hobbies, aspirations, and such.
However, if his mentality is more developed, you should use the middle ground to find out what other sub-topics can stem from that common interest. What do you think?
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reader, ShortandSweet? +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Oh come on - nothing in common. I bet you are lovely - find a narrower age gap, luv! Best of luck. PS Might be too much information, but I didnt discover my proper sex drive til I was in my late 30s ........how old is yer man then? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont care bout da age difference, we get on well, dats wat matters. do I ask him I wanna kno more bout him n' how, wat 2 say or do I tell we hav no reason 2 be mates n' wat do i say
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reader, GLforever +, writes (20 May 2006):
 I'm generally in favor of "age gap" relationships, but this gap is a little too big even for me. I would suggest that you might want to just be friends. There is nothing wrong with having friends whose ages are dramatically different from your own. Of course, you are virtually a full adult, so you need to do what's best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): I agree look for somebody your own age to call you mate.A guy 35 years older than you calling you mate seems odd to me hes old enough to be your grandfather.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (19 May 2006):
 I jsut wouldn't go there. This is a silly situation for any teenager to get into, sounds like the plot to Lolita or something!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): My dear - he's way too old for you. You're generations apart. I would try and forget about him if I were you...
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