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writes: Is it wrong for a 13 year old to have a major crush on a teacher? I asked him to give me a lift home the other day as I told him I was getting bullied, as I know he is kind and would believe me. So he did and we kissed. I really liked it but every time I see him I get fluttery butterflies and go all embarrassed. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help..?
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reader, Angels Eyes  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Look it is not "wrong" to have a crush on your teacher anyone that tells you that is not worth knowing or even speaking to!!
I cannot believe you kissed!Yeah something that i dream about but i know it can only be a dream cause i know my teacher is half decent!He should never have done that i would tell a responsible adult immediately and keep your distance from this man because what he has done is illegal!!
Private message me if you want to!
Good Luck xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Omg god seriously that is just so wrong to have a crush on your teacher if any one found out that you kissed your own teacher he/she could go to jail and you would get expelled
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Im no lawyer but im 100% sure thats illegal and he should go to jail ,hes a proffesonal teacher and is engaging in relations with an underage student. Im only 16 and i know that hes F***ed up
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): Did he kiss you on the lips? oh boy oh boy... But think of it this way- no matter how wonderful you think he is- and how much you look up to him- remember if a grown man fancies a young girl (so young in fact- that you are only 13??) then you have to believe that he must have a pathetic existence- he should be able to get the attention of women his own age and should never be tempted by such a young girl
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Dear Reader,
First of all, there is absoloutly nothing wrong with fancying your teacher, everyone in this world has or will at some point. The only thing is, this guy, well ok, Man is a lot older then you. and he is you teacher. This means that even you two kissing is illegal.He could loose his job if anyone finds out. If you kiss him again he could take it a lot further.
My adivce is to either tell him it's wrong or just stay away. Teachers are off limits. If anyone finds out both of you will be in a lot of trouble. Get a boyfriend if he doesn't think it's right to stop. Find someone your own age. Chances are, even in some weird way you two did get together, it wouldn't work out.
Hope this is helpful and all the best
Phoebe xxx
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reader, GLforever +, writes (12 April 2006):
 There is certainly nothing wrong with having a crush on your teacher. However, it was inappropriate for him to kiss you, mostly because he is your teacher.Based on what you have said though, it does NOT sound like he is "sick" or that he "exploited" you. You shouldn't allow others to make you feel like a "victim" over something that didn't seem to bother you at all.However, you shouldn't expect that anything will develop from this either. One thing I think everyone here could agree on is that you WILL get over this crush. Don't worry too much about what happened, and someday this will be a pleasant memory from your early days of crushes and kisses.You might as well know that there are probably many men the age of your teacher that would like to kiss you. However, that vast majority of them will use better judgment than your teacher did, and they won't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): wow... i am a teen, and if i guy teacher i had tried to kiss me even if i had a crush on him... i would definitely tell my parents or a trusted adult and get it taken care of at school because he does not need to be teaching. i understand having a crush and thats ok, because he's older and seems wiser, but this guy is definitely not wise. i am sorry but he is sick, u are only 13, and u should know better yourself. i know it may be hard but u have to tell someone. it may be hard to get over this if u think u like this guy but like the others said when u are older especially, u will see how wrong this was. jus try to concentrate on school or any activities u do, and pay attention to some of those cute boys in ur class who can truly be ur friend and grow w/ u. at this age they really begin to change, jus wait and see... but please tell someone, i promise u know matter how u think u feel, ITS NOT RIGHT... good luck, i know u can do it
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (10 April 2006):
 you need to stay away from this teacher, your young and if you actually believe you can begin a relationship with this MAN you also very naive. it's normal for girls to feel a crush upon there teachers. if you went out of your way to actually trick you way into your teachers is very stupid move. you don't know what could have happen to you, you may not think a lil kiss is anything to worry about. but if this man did kiss you he just riskd his career for a kiss with a girl who hasn't even reached purbety.
it's not even like you two can began a relationship his what a 28+ teacher and your a 13 year old girl. just get this fantasy of you and teacher out of your head and try guys more your age.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (10 April 2006):
 This sounds like a bit of a fantasy and you have a big time crush. You are still a child and you need to stop following this man around and concentrate on your schoolwork. because of your age I strongle suggest you confide in you mum or dad and ask them for advice. I repeat again you are a child and you are gettin in over your head.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (10 April 2006):
 It's becoming very sad on how many young teenagers are coming to this website and telling us there story of an inipropriate relationship there having with there teacher(s), it makes me sick knowing that the education system is not doing enough to stop this, and it bothers me even more that some people (teachers)can expolit children this way and get away with it.
anyway ok yes its ok for you to have a crush but i agree with 'hopeful' its not ok from him to be kissing you, i know that when you have a crush and you hope something will come from it but face the reality here your 13 and he is probably over 21 years old nothing serious will ever come from this because it can't, he did'nt kiss you hoping that you two could start going out he kissed you because his a sick man, i know thats abit harsh but i'm just being truthful to you. would'nt you rather a crush on someone your own age? someone you can grow with and enjoy your teenage years with? i know its easier said then done to get over someone espeically when they have picked up on your crush for them and taken advantage of it, all i can say is that i really hope that you don't let this go further, your really the only one who can stop this from happening again , the only way you can do this is tell someone you can trust about what happened , you know that he will get in trouble and maybe no longer get to be a teacher anymore but if you don't do it now i know that when your older you are going to regret not saying anything, your getting butterflys and embrassed over having a crush on your teacher now but i can guarantee that when your older to realise what he has done your going to be embrassed and probably blame yourself and i don't want that and i'm sure you don't either, so do yourself a favor and tell someone.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (10 April 2006):
 It is not wrong for you to have a crush but it is VERY wrong for him to kiss you. You are 13 and he is a teacher, meaning he is definitely over 22-23-24. That is so wrong.
He would get fired if people knew about this, your parents would be furious and the education department would probably see to it that he wasn't allowed to teach.
He has taken advantage of you in the worst possible way. You are young and vunerable and have a crush on him - he has used you and this is disgraceful.
I know this is hard for you to see at the moment but when you are older you will see how wrong what he did was.
As he is clearly irresponsible, you are going to have to be the responsible one and make sure you are not in the situation where anything can happen again.
Secondly, I would consider telling an adult.
You see, if he kissed you and you are 13, he may do it again but go further. He obviously lacks commonsense and restraint and this is very inappropriate given his position.
I am concerned for you and for potentially other girls that he may take advantage of.
People like this should not be teaching and if I found out he were teaching in a school where my young cousin or neighbours go, I would be actively trying to get him off the teaching staff. He is not a good person to have on staff at all.
I would consider telling someone because what he did was very inappropriate and you should talk to someone.
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