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writes: Hi all,I am wondering if some of you could be so kind and give me your honest opinions on my situation ... i am 33 and have have fell madly in love with a 19 year old woman i have known her for over a year and the feeling we both have for each other have grown so much over this period of time we have fun we are like minded for a 19year old she is very mature more mature than most of the woman i have dated in the past which is great as we get along so well there has been no flaws in the relationship so far... although the age gap is the somthing that worries me but legally its not breaking any laws..i feel ripped in two and my heart feels sad about how people in society may see us and destroy the happiness we have and this in its self seems to be the only problem we have and we feel we have to keep it a secret from our fmailys and friends for this very reason..should we care what other pople think ? is it wrong for us to be together as a couple? maybe the answer is already there and that the worry of the age gap and peoples opinions in it self is what will make it fail ...your honest thoughts would be most greatfulChris
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006): Dear Chris,I am a 24 year-old woman who has fallen in love with a 44 year-old man (and vice versa). Obviously, I don't have a problem with age differences or with what other people think. However, some of the aspects of your relationship worry me. You mention that you have kept the relationship a secret from your families. Personally, I don't think that is right. If you want to embrace your relationship, then you need their support more than anything else. You also mentioned that there are no flaws. Well, in every relationship there will be issues, but you must make sure that you can handle each other's emotions under pressure. Also, you should make sure that the relationship is based on more than just physical, if that aspect of the relationship is involved. In my particular relationship, we abstained from all physical contact except an occasional hug and kiss on the cheek in the first months of the relationship to ensure that the friendship is what matters most (trust me...this was tough). From even a mature 24 year-old perspective, I believe 19 is rather young for marriage because most of the time 19 year-olds aren't completely sure what they want and they will transition a lot in the next couple years. I would wait a few years before marriage to make sure she is settled in a job, able to legally drink and financially stable on her own. If it is meant to be, it will be. Also, if you are really right for each other, nothing else will matter. You won't care what people think as you walk down the street, hand-in-hand, and you will find that with each passing day you'll care about the age difference less and less. Cheers to you both, but take your time...it's not a race.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): I am 13 and have fallen in love with a 24 year old, age is nothing to me...but for some people its everything.
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reader, GLforever +, writes (4 January 2006):
 She is legal. Don't worry about what society thinks. If you always try to please "society" you may end up miserable your whole life. I have been much happier since I quit trying to conform to the expectations of a narrow-minded society.
Your relationship may or may not work in the long run, but if you don't try, it is almost certain that you will regret not having at least tried to make it work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2006): Age is just a number. My husband and I are 14 years apart. We love each other very much and have a beautiful daughter.
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