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writes:How would you attract a guy without looking desperate? Reply to this Question
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reader, GLforever +, writes (8 January 2006):
 1. Be yourself! Otherwise, you will attract guys who are interested in what you are pretending to be, rather than what you really are.
2. Be happy when a guy tells you the truth, as long as he is not being rude about it. Some women are fixated on finding a man who will tell them what they want to hear, rather than telling them the truth. This is like setting up some sort of filter on men that says, "only show me men who lie".
3. Be flexible on appearances. If you hold out for only the hot guys, then you are excluding most (but not all) of the nice guys. I think men are more likely than women to do this, but women do it as well.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 January 2006):
 The quick answer is: confidence.The more detailled one is: Look like you feel comfortable in your own skin. Smile and make eye contact with people you're talking to. Be quiet now and then and listen to others' remarks. Include the guy you're interested in with your friends.Don't act like you need a social crutch, such as tobacco, alcohol or cannabis.Look nice/clean/natural, not slutty. Go easy on the heavy or intimidating fashion statements and avoid trying to "be" anything you're not, because it's a lot easier to keep being yourself, than to keep up a pretence of being someone else.Look approachable.Finally, be realistic. If the guy you're interested in, isn't interested in you, accept it and move on. The world's a big place with lots of other guys.Take care.
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