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Age: Nineteen but I'm an old soul.
Location: I live in the United States. (East Coast)
Relationship Status: I'm happily taken by my boyfriend of over a year and half now. He's thirty-seven and a lot of people said that we wouldn't make it because of that but we're still going strong. We just moved into an apartment together! :)
Qualifications: The things that help me answer questions most are my life experiences. I'm also studying psychology and philosophy. I have an associate's degree currently. I try to use reasoning based on the situation described and give an opinion from a different perspective.
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I'm terrified of losing the confidence and support coming from male attention if I commit myself to just one guy
Q. Hey guys, I really could use advice; from the guys and the ladies; it would be greatly appreciated! I'm a 19 year old female, currently in my frosh year of university. I was a fairly shy, homely looking child growing up, and didn't get much ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes, that is shallow BUT guess what?! I like male attention too and I've been in a committed relationship for over two years. I probably get hit on a lot more now that I'm taken then when I'm single. It's most likely because I know someone loves me ... (read in full...)
Signals or signs that tell me if a guy loves me?
Q. What is the kind of behavior that I should expect from a guy who is really in love with me?. How to know if a guy really loves me? I'm not in love with anyone. Infact I just broke up.. hence this question.. so I can have more insight as to de...
A. 6 March 2012: I'm going to answer this question as a woman in a happy relationship that is going on two and a half years now.
My boyfriend was not like all the other guys I've dated. The first signs were simple; He opened doors for me, he payed for our dates, a... (read in full...)
I fell for a teacher, he kissed me, sent me roses daily, I got sick, he moved on, what do I do now??
Q. My name is Alex (I'm a girl). I'm a freshman at highschool. When I started school I saw a very cute guy (he must be about 26) who was a teacher at the school (he isn't really my teacher, he doesn't teach at my classroom). We kinda liked each other, ...
A. 6 July 2011: What scares me is the words you use to describe this event. "I felt afraid but could not resist..." You didn't ask him to kiss you, yet he did it anyway.
You're not fat and ugly in any way. Obviously he was attracted to you because he kissed y... (read in full...)
Not ready to be a mom but also won't consider abortion! My boyfriend is an alcoholic and my family is extremely religious. Help!
Q. ok so if you have been keeping up with my other questions you will know the whole story but if not i will make it a 'long story cut short' ok so i am in a lets just say 'rocky' relationship and i have now wound up pregnant. i have just turned 19 s...
A. 6 July 2011: Personally, I had an abortion at age nineteen and it was the best decision I ever made. I felt a huge relief after the procedure. There are a lot of children in orphanages already so I felt bringing another one into the world wasn't fair. Despite ... (read in full...)
My virgin husband is making me get an std test before he will marry me...
Q. My fiance is making me get an STD test before he marries me. He is a virgin and I'm not. I have been with 2 guys before him. He told me he just wants to be sure I am clean before he marries me because he does not want to catch an std. He is ...
A. 6 July 2011: Of course you should get tested and let him know. I think it's a fair request.
If you love him, you'll do it. You don't want to give him anything, if you even have anything. If you think you do, then just be honest or wait for the test results.... (read in full...)
How to get to know this stranger?
Q. How can i get to know this guy better. He is a security man who is always stood outside an office which i have to drive past a good number of times every evening, as my job is driving around doing collections. He always watche s me pass by and i ...
A. 29 April 2011: I'm going to have to agree with bernard. Waving your hand is barely flirting, if at all. Start small with the wave of your hand. My best advice is just try to become friends first.... (read in full...)
How can you marry someone when they can't be a team?
Q. i've been with my girlfriend for a couple of years now. she moved to a different state to be with me. to me, i see us as a family now. she has a son that i've taken on as my own. so to me, when things happen, we should look to each other for ...
A. 29 April 2011: Have you discussed this with her? I think you should. There could be a number of things causing this to happen. Since she's really close to her family, she could be afraid of hurting them by "not needing" them or perhaps she's not ready to "leave ... (read in full...)
Do I just want to date this guy because I am lonely?
Q. I haven't been in a serious relationship for almost a year now and I'm lonely. There is a guy that is really interested in me and I'm sorta interested in him but I'm worried that I'm only considering dating him because I'm lonely and wanting to be ...
A. 29 April 2011: Well, I'd say go for it. Explain to him that these are just "testing the waters" type of dates to see if you guys click. There's a difference between dating and being in a relationship. Unless one of you says that you want to be exclusive, you're ... (read in full...)
My wife asked me to let her sleep with other men, but doesn't want to let me sleep with other women!
Q. Ok, So my wife and I have been married for almost 3 years. It's a very good relationship, we are quite open with eachother, we don't hide things and almost never argue. our sex is, I would say, above average... not too much but not too little ...
A. 30 November 2010: I'm on the fence with this question but I'll try to give you the point of view from a woman who actually thought about this.
I once asked my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship for a threesome. At first, he was a little upset at the i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to want sex anymore!
Q. My boyfriend hardly ever wants sex, I really do think it's wierd. Usually you hear that they are pests but my boyfriend isn't at all. It's not a case of I need to tell him, I've told him and his response is usually 'your a slag and I'm tired' even ...
A. 16 November 2010: Honey, there is nothing wrong with you besides the man in your life. He sounds insecure and like he needs to make you feel the same way about yourself. If this is a "better" relationship, I think you may need to look again. He sounds very ... (read in full...)
He doesn't talk to me!
Q. Dear Cupid my boyfriend at doesn't talk to me at school does he still love me...
A. 30 October 2010: That's not very much to go on but I'm going to say probably not.
If someone likes you, they'll make an effort to be around you. Teenage boys are often embarrassed about their feelings though. If he talks to you outside of school and in private,... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I'm scared of everything
Q. Hello. I am 13 yrs. old. I am in the 8th grade. I dont have many friends. I dont really like people, and people dont really like me, but I want friends. I hope it will get better in high school, but I dont think so, and I dont know why I think ...
A. 30 October 2010: Whoa! Slow down hun. I know you're worried about this issue but you need to focus on how this affects you now. You really shouldn't be worrying about marriage at thirteen-fifteen years old.
If you are this worried though, I would think about se... (read in full...)
I think I'm ugly
Q. Well,I think Im ugly,,,,,,I have a flat but,bushy eyebrows but that all wrong.But guys where I live hate flat butts.:( Then the girls I hang with are all really pretty,and have all been in a relationship,had a kiss or whatever,but me?Nope.The guy I ...
A. 30 October 2010: Well, I have eyebrows that need a waxing, I'm not the skinniest gal around, my teeth aren't perfectly white, and I could go on.
My point is everyone has things they hate about themselves. Even those "pretty" girls you hang out with have their is... (read in full...)
Should I try harder to make my girlfriend love me or start flirting with someone else?
Q. i am confused about my relationships. i am a girl in a secret relationship with this girl that i absolutely adore. but the problem is that she moved to a different country a couple weeks ago and now its an open relationship (meaning that we can meet ...
A. 29 October 2010: The bottom line is you can't make anyone love you. If she doesn't have feelings for you, move on.... (read in full...)
Why won't he look at me anymore during sex?
Q. So heres another question about me and the bf... So we have rarely been having sex (my choice because he is being STUPID)... anyways... I noticed the last 2 times... he wont look at me (position willing) anymore. he used to make me look...
A. 29 October 2010: Dirtball said it all. That's a great honest answer for you. I just wanted to back up what he said.
Looking into someone's eyes during sex is a sign of intimacy. It's about how each of you feels towards one another. Obviously, this guy just wan... (read in full...)
I feel so humiliated... but at 58 it will be so difficult for me to leave him.
Q. Four years ago I found that my Husband of then 35 years had been having an affair for 7 years... we have tried to make a go of it, we go on holidays.. share our passion for gardening/children/ grandchildren etc and are about to celebrate our 39th ...
A. 21 October 2010: Why does being fifty-eight matter so much? You're still able to get out of the house, right? Then why not start over? I believe it's never too late.
I know it may be harder to be on your own because you've lived with someone for so long but he's... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finds it hard to cum when his laying on his back, any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend finds it hard to cum when his laying on his back. He gets the feeling but nothing happens, and he can just go on and on.. Can you suggest anything??...
A. 21 October 2010: Why not try different positions? Switch it up every now and then. There are tons of exciting new ways to get close to your partner and help him cum.
Simply google sexual positions. You usually won't get dirty sites with the SafeSearch on. Just... (read in full...)
Depression and its Effects on Relationships
Q. I am just wondering how many relationship that have broken up due to one partner's depression. Who broke up with whom, and when when the others depression was better did you end up getting back together? Can a relationship be fixed if one partner ...
A. 21 October 2010: I'm bipolar and when I get really depressed, fights happen often. They're always my fault and most of the time ridiculous. When I'm depressed, I lose touch with reality.
I usually tell him to leave me because he doesn't deserve to have to put u... (read in full...)
Do you think he's sterile?
Q. I'm nineteen and my boyfriend is a thirty-seven. We've been dating for over a year now. Our sex life has always been great. We have sex at least once a week if not more. (Usually on weekends due to busy schedules.) We're not interested in ha...
A. 21 October 2010: I've continued to get my period every month right on schedule so I don't really need confirmation from a pregnancy test though I have anyway out of curiosity and both were negative.
The pill interferes with my other medication which I need to ... (read in full...)
What makes a girl 'girlfriend material'?
Q. Have you ever noticed how "girlfriends" tend to be pretty average looking? I mean, think of your guy friends' girlfriends, the ones they've been with for 3-6 years... they're usually not drop dead gorgeous... Meanwhile, a lot of beautiful women, ...
A. 20 October 2010: I'll try to give you a few answers based on my experiences.
Relationships can start a number of ways. The usuals are just hanging out, as friends, or a first date. The beginning of a relationship is the period where you are getting to know som... (read in full...)
It seems I'm addicted to love
Q. Why is it that I am love dependent? I realised in my last very long relationship that we had become dependent on each other. That we needed each other and didn't have lives of our own and so I broke it off after three and a half years. I stayed ...
A. 13 October 2010: I understand what you're going through with this as I'm the same way.
I'm not sure how well you are at hiding your obsessive thoughts but in my experience, guys that aren't worth my time and that only wanted to use me would leave after a few mont... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I work away on a mine site. I work away from home for 2 weeks at a time. I met this wonderful guy, called 'Matt' about 3 months into my job. He had noticed me as soon as I started and telling my friends he really liked me. I ended up giving him my ...
A. 12 October 2010: Of course you should tell him how you feel! This could be the beginning of something beautiful. If he feels the same way, you should give it a chance.
Long-distance relationships can be rough but eventually one person has to move if you want to ... (read in full...)
Do I mean something to him or has he been just messing me around?
Q. Hi everyone, there's one thing i'm wondering myself all the time. When a man fell for a lass, would he want to be in contact regularly and yet would want to know how's thing going with that girl? I lost my faith in love since my first love failed ...
A. 12 October 2010: Well, it's hard to give you a definite yes or no because the background is a bit confusing here.
From what I understand, you met him online and have been talking for over a year. Then he came to meet you and those two weeks were wonderful until he... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this crazy girl who wont leave me alone?
Q. Ok have a problem I got a girl trying to re-add me on facebook she dosnt seem to get the hint after all the trouble she has caused by saying and doing nasty things she has pushed altogether 3 friends away and 2 mates against each other . I've given ...
A. 12 October 2010: Plain and simple, block her. She won't be able to contact you or view your profile if you do this. Facebook also has a "Friends only." setting so that no one can "profile stalk" you.
If you don't respond to her attempts to get a rise out of you, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is confused whether he loves me or his ex-girlfriend
Q. my boyfriend is confused whether he loves me or his ex-girlfriend - we are dating for a month now but he can't seem to get over his EX-girlfriend... they were in a relationship for 6 years n after that she has left him for another guy... i...
A. 12 October 2010: The girl is using his feelings against him because she is now alone. She realizes what a mistake she made by letting him go.
You need to remind him that she did let him go for whatever reasons. You, however, have stuck by his side.
A six y... (read in full...)
I'm worried my past might come back to haunt me!
Q. i am a 24 yrs .typically from a cultural family .i have bitterness in relationship in my past.with many .everyone were a cheater .just made for physical relation .this hurts me a lot .due to my past even some of my fren scolded me .i was helpless .i ...
A. 12 October 2010: Be honest with him. Lying to a man is never the way to win his trust. Explain the situation and why you did what you did. Tell him how you feel about what you did now and how much you regret it. You can't take back what you did but you can explain ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to tell someone you love them?
Q. When is the right time to tell someone you love them? I've been with my new bf for 2 months, and I feel I've fallen in love with him. I wasn't expecting too, and wasn't looking for a relationship when I met him, but he is truly lovely. He tells ...
A. 12 October 2010: There is no set time to tell someone you love them. Just do it when it feels right. If you truly love him, then tell him. If he loves you, he'll tell you when he's ready too.
If he freaks out at the words, then he's either got a fear of commitme... (read in full...)
Help me to understand my bi-sexual boyfriend...What shall I do?
Q. Hi xx Im so confused, i Really do need some help :'( My boyfriend and i have been together 4 years (were 20) and hes recently (last 6 months) come out as being bisexual, and i really want to be okay with it and to understand how he feels and t...
A. 12 October 2010: I think you already know the answer to your question dear. You're leaning in the right direction anyway.
Yes, get yourself and him tested. If he refuses, get yourself tested anyway. You have the right to ask whether he used protection or not. Tal... (read in full...)
I'm only attracted to OLDer men, whereas I'm 17. How do I stop this?
Q. Okay... so I'm ONLY into older men... it really sucks for me. anytime i like a guy there is always a problem regarding his age, but the sad thing is that i cannot help it. i really try to like guys my age, but it doesn't work out. it really hurts ...
A. 12 October 2010: I'm a 19 year old female and dating a 37 year old man. We've been I've been attracted to older men all of my life. I've had somewhat of a father figure in my life but I've never had issues with missing/needing one. My attraction was based on a c... (read in full...)
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