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writes:my boyfriend is confused whether he loves me or his ex-girlfriend - we are dating for a month now but he can't seem to get over his EX-girlfriend... they were in a relationship for 6 years n after that she has left him for another guy... it's been a year now, but a week before she has called him saying she broke up with the guy she was dating because she is still in love with my BF provided that she still have his name tattooed on her body .. so now my BF is confused, he says he loves me but he is confused :(what am i suppoesd to here?? plz help
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reader, EtTuBrute  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 The girl is using his feelings against him because she is now alone. She realizes what a mistake she made by letting him go.
You need to remind him that she did let him go for whatever reasons. You, however, have stuck by his side.
A six year relationship is very serious. It will take a good amount of time for him to heal. It's not fair to you for him to start a relationship still feeling attached to another person but if you're truly committed, let him know that you will be there for him.
Tell him that even though you're okay with the fact he is still healing, you need to know he is committed to you as much as you are to him. He has a choice to make and it better be fast as it's not fair to you to wait too long.
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reader, Anadin +, writes (12 October 2010):
 be understanding about what he is going through and say to him that shes dumped him for another man, she may do it again, he will live in constant fear of her leaving if he was to go back to her. however if you start trying to convince him too much that she is bad for him he will wonder whats up and move towards that directon anyway..
you could also try stepping up your game slightly? also give him time to think about what he wants, give him food for thought aswell...she might also just be saying that because shes lonely and just come out of a breakup.... i dont think its very fair, but she made her bed, she may aswell sleep in it in my eyes. as im going through something similar, my gf left me for another man because hes got more money, more fun and a laugh kinda thing, but she says she misses me and still loves me..hope this helps you a little more..
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reader, Kenj +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Its common what your going through, it really depends on if he is comitted to a relationship with you or elsewhere.
If he is not focused on your own relationship then it may be time to get out before it gets more serious and hard to break it off.
I know my girlfriend is ok me and her talking about ex's but if either of us contacted them it would be a different story.
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