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writes:When is the right time to tell someone you love them? I've been with my new bf for 2 months, and I feel I've fallen in love with him. I wasn't expecting too, and wasn't looking for a relationship when I met him, but he is truly lovely. He tells me he adores me all the time, and we've got lots of plans for things we want to do together next year. In my last relationship, my ex-bf told me he loved me after 3 weeks, which felt too soon, but we were together 4 years! So I'm wondering when is the right time to tell my new bf I love him? Should I wait for him to say it first? Would it freak a guy out if the girl said it first/scare him off? Thanks :)
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reader, JavaJade22  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Ah, the right time to say I love you. I was so nervous when I told my boyfriend I was falling in love with him, in fact, he said he loved me right as I was trying to find the right words to say. It was about 2 1/2 months into the relationship and we have been dating for a total of 2 years.
If he feels the same way, he'll know exactly what you're trying to admit to him.
Just sit down facing him, grab both of his hands and tell him you have something very important to say. If he's on the same page as you, he'll know exactly what you're about to say.
Good luck hun!
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reader, sweetlove +, writes (12 October 2010):
 There is never a wrong time to tell someone you love them. If you truely love them and really feel you need to tell them you will feel it when the time comes.You will know exactly what to say and how. Dont rush it but dont wait to long either, I say he probably feels the same way as you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): HiI also have only been with my own boyfriend for 2 months. We only see each other one night a week and some weekends (he lives a 45 min drive away but comes to see me for a few hours then goes home as he is not comfortable staying with me when mine or his children are in the house anyway that is neither here not there lol)We speak on the phone every night.He tells me that he is 'falling in love with me' asked if this was ok, I answered yes I like that and that I have feelings for him too.I think 'love' is measured on how much time a couple spends together and in my own situation...things are coming along just right...slowly but getting somewhere...How about as my boyfriend did with me...ask him how he feels about you falling in love with him. Hopefully you will get the answer you are looking for...I hope this was of helpGood luck and enjoy...
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reader, Bobito  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Darling,
I assume you and your boyfriend are about the same age. If this is the case, you're both old enough to know whether you want to be together or not. As you are a couple, I can also quite confidently assume that you two DO want to be together! I don't see why someone who wants to be with you should be freaked out by your love! If you truly feel you love him, then it is indeed the time to let him know. I'm sure he'll tell you he feels the same. :)
Be happy!
xx R
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reader, EtTuBrute +, writes (12 October 2010):
 There is no set time to tell someone you love them. Just do it when it feels right. If you truly love him, then tell him. If he loves you, he'll tell you when he's ready too.
If he freaks out at the words, then he's either got a fear of commitment or he's just not meant to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): There is no right or wrong time you say it if and only if you actually mean it. Love can mean different things for different people so make sure you know what your feeling.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 I agree with kenj,
you tell him now.not tomorrow but right now.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You tell someone you love them when you know you mean it, theres no right or wrong time.
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