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*tTuBrute
writes:I'm nineteen and my boyfriend is a thirty-seven. We've been dating for over a year now.Our sex life has always been great. We have sex at least once a week if not more. (Usually on weekends due to busy schedules.) We're not interested in having children at all but he cums inside of me every time. (Without condoms.) I know it's stupid but it turns me on. Please don't insert your opinions on this particular subject because I understand how stupid it is.Anyway, it's been over a year now and with as much sex we've had... He's cum inside a lot. At this point, we're both wondering if something is wrong with either of us. Keep in mind our ages. We both think he may be sterile. I'm thinking it's him because I would have gotten pregnant after a year, right? I'm younger and don't have any medical conditions that I know of besides being bipolar but that wouldn't stop me from having kids. I would actually be happy if he was sterile and I'm sure he wouldn't be upset either. I'm not sure how I'd feel about something being wrong with myself. I don't want kids yet I'd be hurt a little if the option of kids was taken away. I guess I'd feel like less of a woman.In case anyone is wondering, he does not have any kids and I don't either.So I guess my questions are these: Do you think he's sterile? Can a girl go a whole year like this without getting pregnant? What should we do?
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reader, doublejack +, writes (21 October 2010):
Keeping in mind I'm not a doctor and thus I'm not qualified to give medical advice, my understanding of male fertility is that it is very unlikely age could be a reason your boyfriend may possibly be shooting blanks. 37 is not very old for a man, reproductively speaking. So if he is in fact sterile, it means that he probably has been all along. The average male remains quite fertile into his 50's, and will continue to produce viable sperm even beyond that point albeit in reduced numbers.
Without testing there's no way to know for certain if either or both of you are in fact sterile. It is possible that only luck has kept you from becoming pregnant up to this point.
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reader, EtTuBrute +, writes (21 October 2010):
EtTuBrute is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've continued to get my period every month right on schedule so I don't really need confirmation from a pregnancy test though I have anyway out of curiosity and both were negative.
The pill interferes with my other medication which I need to keep me stable. My doctor and I are trying to find a different medication and dosage that won't interfere with that but in the mean time, I can't take the pill. I'm not totally stupid. I was on the pill for about half the year but now I can't take it.
Neither of us smoke, drink, and we don't consume too much caffeine per day. (We're not coffee drinkers but he does like his occasional Mountain Dew.) Exercise... Him, yes. Me, no. (Though I'm working on that.)
We were hoping to see what others thought about the actual sterile issue before spending money on the test. We've heard from friends it is costly. Can one shoot blanks at only 37?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I won't lecture you but I will say your comments made me shake my head. Saying that you're not trying to get pregnant right now is ridiculous.
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Why are you not on the pill or why haven you got the implant???
Did you get this conformation from a pregnancy test??
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Yes, my boyfriend and I went for over a year without getting pregnant.
You have to bear several things in mind..
Do either of you smoke, drink alcohol or caffeine and do you get plenty of exercise? These things can greatly effect fertility. When a couple is TTC they will eat and drink very healthily for 3 months before so their bodies are "freer" of bad things.
There are also fertility problems you cn have without being aware of it. He may have low sperm mobility, you might have a strange shaped uterus or cycsts on your ovaries which effects ovulation. If you are concerned, go see your doctor.
However, if you are not TTC like you said you dont want childerentyet, you might not want to spend the cash on heathcare just yet.
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