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writes:I recently started a friends with benefits relationship. We both argreed it would be physical only and that we would remain friends after. We both care about each other but do not love one another.I was wondering if people can actually remain just friends after being so intimate with each other? And if being so intimate is going to cause one or both of us to gain stronger feelings?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 January 2009):
 It is POSSIBLE to be completely platonic sex partners, I don't want to say it's never happened successfully. But I will say, that most of the time it ends up messy. Feelings, emotions, they are really hard to control. They just HAPPEN.
Someone could get hurt, so just be very cautious. If you guys care about each other like that, why don't you two date and see if you COULD have something together? Dating doesn't mean being exclusive. If you're not into that, I would keep your relationship to really JUST sex. Like EmilyAnswers says, keep your time together limited beyond the booty. Treat it like business, not pleasure, si? And if things feel awkward or if someone starts getting feelings, break off the booty calls ASAP!
Have fun!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 January 2009):
Yes you can both be friends after with no problems.
I had guys who I liked and got on with as a mate and who were attractive and every now and then we'd end up in bed together because it was fun and we knew it meant nothing. As long as you don;t spend every second together and your friendship doesn't become more sex than anything else it will be fine.
One of you could develop feelings for the other but that could have happened anyway.
Good Luck!! xx
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