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writes:Hi, I was wondering how old you are before you stop getting crushes? I'm 26 and for the past 2 years have had the hugest crush (or so I think it is) on 1 of my senior managers at work. Every time I see him I get this thud feeling in my stomach and if he touches my arm I tingle all over.I have a boyfriend which I have been with for 5 years now and he's the nicest guy ever and I know, I'm lucky to have him but I don't get the butterflies when I'm with him. When we make love I imagine I'm making love to my manager.Nothing will ever will happen with my manager as he is in his 40's, has a wife and children and I'm not a home wrecker but I can't help how I feel. I thought my crush would have subsided by now but my feelings just keep getting stronger.Don't advise me to leave my job as it's not possible.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 January 2009):
I'm 25 married and still get them.
What helps me is recognising that is it JUST a crush. It's silly and a bit of fluff. Like reading a romance novel. It's not serious. If you make fun of it and take the mickey out of yourself then that will help you minimize these feelings.
Also, try and spice things up with your boyfriend. Stop loving him as the lovely cuddly bear he is, and look at him as a Man. Take him out on a date or get him to dig the garden, or put up some shelves. Something silly that will make him look a little bit tougher to you and more attractive sexually.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): Let's see... I stopped having crushes when I was in my mid 30's... Maybe hormones changed, I don't know. It doesn't mean I stoped loving sex, no, I just stoped having what you called crushes. Ussually my 'crushes' were also much older men for some reason. I am happily married for many years, but I guess you can't help it. Hormones leave their separate lives from our minds, I guessI am in my forties now. From now and then I start really liking this guy or that, now they became younger than me in age. It doesn't go further than that, and I can't call it 'crush' any more. It's a comfortable feeling, also flattering if they like you back.If you feeling guilty about your crushes, don't, blame the hormones, it's all their fault.You are faithfull to your boyfriend, that's important, keep having your crushes until they still last.
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