He's obsessed with the computer, and I'm neglected!

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Question - (23 January 2009)

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A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

23 January 2009: Im in a relationship and seem to be unable to get my mans attention. He is always on the computer and messing around and I feel neglected in many areas.I am at my ropes end and dont know what to do.........All I want is to feel loved and needed ...I do alot for him and make sure he has what he needs and wants but get nothing in return . I would like to watch movies or snuggle but nothing . We go to bed I get his back to me no night kiss no night I love you Nothing ..I dont know what I can do to make him see he is obsessed with the computer and I am getting neglected . I have thought about calling it off as for our relationship what can I do other then that ....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

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Im trying to think of how to tell him its not working ...

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A female reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2009):

Well if he just sees you as a maid then stop going round. Tell him it's over and find someone else.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

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Ok Yeah I have said to him how i felt and he doesnt seem to care have even ask him to watch a movie with me and he says yes but means no or I guess that is what he means since he doesnt do it it is as if I havent ask him anything or said anything to him..Have told him i dont want to continue like this....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

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A female reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 January 2009):

You don't say anything about having actually spoken to him about any of this.

As one of the other aunts says, he is not psychic, if you keep acting loving and bringing him his meals and looking after him then how is he supposed to know you are unhappy?

Tell him you are lonely and feeling unloved and want him to spend more time with you.

If that doesn't work then mention that a guy from work asked you if you fancied a drink and since he is going to be ok on the computer then you thought you may as well. If he feels like he is getting everything and doesn't have to make any effort, then he will not make any effort. If he realises he's been a bit crap and that you are getting other offers elsewhere then he may start making some effort.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

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well we have been seeing each other for almost 3 yrs he owns a home south of where I live about 2 hrs .He comes to stay with me in my home and this is how he is with me .as a matter of fact even when i cook dinner he eats at the computer in the computer room and doesnt pay any attention to the fact that i work all day and then came home and cooked dinner and he is retired at early age......

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