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I'm so confused, just what is he playing at?
Q. I don't know where to start, please bear with me. I've had a rocky road with my boyfriend over the last few years. He left a relationship to be with me and we were living together, a problem became apparent in our relationship regarding my sis...
A. 9 June 2009: He was already with his ex when he was being awkward so why bother in the first place and i have spoken to her and there is no relationship going on between them, there would be no need for him to get his own place if he was comfortable there. He ... (read in full...)
We've broken up but he still drives past my house! Why?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up, he started dating a friend of mine (we are no longer friends) but yesterday I caught him driving by my house. I live on a remote street, the only reason for him to drive down my street is to drive by my house. ...
A. 9 June 2009: I don't think that is the reason at all he is not on an ego boost, if he had moved on in my opinion you would be the last person on his mind and i am sure he would have much better places to be than driving past your house reliving old memories.
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He's the love of my life but his kids always come first to him.
Q. Dear cupid I am 20 and I am In a realtionship with a guy whi is also 20 but he has two kids from a previous realationship. I love him and I feel that he is the love of my life. But I can't help but to feel a little selfish because not that I would ...
A. 19 May 2009: The anonymous poster who said its ridiculous to put the kids first is obviously out of their minds! Of course the children will and should be the main priority.
Yes you have a place in his life but until you have children of your own you will nev... (read in full...)
I want to try a threesome with another girl. How to get my husband onside?
Q. Ok, so this will probably answer itself, but I need advice. I love my husband with all my heart-never loved another man like him in my life. But I've been wondering what being with a woman would be like. I'm not the most "in shape" woman in the ...
A. 19 May 2009: I agree with Old Guy it is a very dangerous game and best left to the imagination!
Have you taken into consideration how you will feel if he actually enjoys the experience so much that he wishes to continue with other women involved, you can hard... (read in full...)
What should I do I'm in love with my cousin!
Q. I'm in love with my cousin sister since a year now. I like her a lot and want to spend the rest of my life with her. What should i do coz i can't live my life without her and she stays far away from me. I'm not going to forget her if u think i...
A. 19 May 2009: It is not illegal Nicola100 certainly not in the UK, India many other countries and over half the US States it is ignorance and old fashioned views that confuse people do a little bit of homework and you will find out for yourself.
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Peter Andre and Katie Price breaking up has really upset me. Help!
Q. I feel seriously pathetic and stupid for asking for adivce on this... but thank you guys for even reading the question. I'm sure all you people in the UK will have heard the news that peter andre and katie price are splitting up? Well it has real...
A. 18 May 2009: Do you mean 'Jordan real name Katie Price' lol as if we didn't know!
I agree with Uncle Phil and Ginalolabridga and Army Medic who has a valid point. It's a publicity stunt to rake in even more money so don't worry any longer, by the time she... (read in full...)
What should I do I'm in love with my cousin!
Q. I'm in love with my cousin sister since a year now. I like her a lot and want to spend the rest of my life with her. What should i do coz i can't live my life without her and she stays far away from me. I'm not going to forget her if u think i...
A. 18 May 2009: Plus i wrote this to another person enquiring about a relationship with his cousin in January after reseaching the topic:
'I have just read an article regarding abnormalities which may occur with children of 1st cousins and apparently scientis... (read in full...)
What should I do I'm in love with my cousin!
Q. I'm in love with my cousin sister since a year now. I like her a lot and want to spend the rest of my life with her. What should i do coz i can't live my life without her and she stays far away from me. I'm not going to forget her if u think i...
A. 18 May 2009: It is legal in this country to have a relationship with your cousin and you can also marry a cousin courtesy of Henry VIII who changed the law to marry his own cousin! I am not 100% sure elsewhere in the world are you living in this country or ... (read in full...)
Can I enlarge the size of my manhood?
Q. I want to ask you folks if there is anyway to enlarge my manhood without an operation and are those oerations good and effective in enlarging manhood?? I have a high sex drive and i can last very long 40 minutes but i am very shy of the size "4 ...
A. 18 May 2009: There are many different products which claim to increase the size of the penis but in reality the only way is an operation which is really unnecessary and i wouldn't even consider putting yourself through it.
The problem lies within yourself... (read in full...)
If it was so innocent why hide?
Q. A couple of nights ago I walked into my bedroom and my wife frantically attempted to hide her phone beneath some laundry she was folding. When I reached for the phone there was the name Antonia. She went on to tell me that it was some chick she met ...
A. 10 April 2009: I know it will be difficult to forgive and forget but if this is something you wish to do and your wife is clearly sorry for the hurt she has caused you and wishes to repair your relationship it is still possible.
Maybe she has just got caught u... (read in full...)
Is it dandruff?
Q. I don't know why but for some reason, all of a sudden today all these little flakes have been falling out of my hair.. it's probly dandruff, why would it start today??? I've never had it before, I tried to brush the flakes out but there were a ...
A. 7 April 2009: Have you being using any new products on your hair?
I think it is probably caused by something you have being using which has dried out and now appears to be falling out like dandruff, sometimes certain products do this i have noticed it mysel... (read in full...)
Is it time to move on?
Q. My husband and I have been going to marriage counselling now for a few months,during these sessions i have found out that he has cheated on me more times than he had confessed. Sorry its long but a bit back ground on my problems,Feb 08 i was told...
A. 30 March 2009: You have done the right thing by going for councelling but hurtful things were bound to come out and i suppose he has been honest, he could have very easily kept things to himself but he must feel he wants a clean slate to start again.
He is right... (read in full...)
Seeing 2 women at the moment but find it difficult to choose.
Q. Hi, I am in my late thirties and have never really had a proper girlfriend or an intimate relationship. I've been on dates and had a series of short relationships, which never went beyond going out together on dates and kissing. The reason is that ...
A. 25 March 2009: I think you should maybe forget about A and B and start again.
The weight issue you have with A is not her problem but yours, you like her in all other ways but this weight issue is a problem for you and who is to say a simple diet will solve th... (read in full...)
Do you think this will ever go anywhere?
Q. I am gay and my mate always knew it. My mate is a big strong Fence Builder who drives a work van and has 2 teenagers from his first marraige and one more kid he's seen only once from a second marriage. We were in a church together for years until I ...
A. 25 March 2009: After 15 years i really don't see the relationship going anywhere.
No doubt he has experimented and may infact be supressing gay tendancies but unless he will allow himself to relax his mindset on the subject i can't see things improvin... (read in full...)
If it was so innocent why hide?
Q. A couple of nights ago I walked into my bedroom and my wife frantically attempted to hide her phone beneath some laundry she was folding. When I reached for the phone there was the name Antonia. She went on to tell me that it was some chick she met ...
A. 23 March 2009: I think you both need to talk things over some more.
It is possible it has started as an online relationship but sometimes these relationships can become almost affair like when you are constantly talking to someone online and the relation... (read in full...)
If he knew it was wrong, why did he cheat twice?
Q. My husband cheated on me he says he is sorry and it will never happen again.When i asked him if you had never got caught would you still be going behind my back his reply was can,t really answer that but proberly.This is not the first time he has ...
A. 17 March 2009: When you said he had cheated i was just wondering if it was with the same women each time or different women?
I think a big factor in men or women who cheat is low self-esteem not necessarily from physical appearance but much deeper self-dou... (read in full...)
I really don't want a relationship like what we had!
Q. Hello... Don't really know where to start but here goes. I was with someone 4 nearly a year. When we first met i was sooo mad about him and he didnt seem that interested in me.. infact he wasnt nice at all. after months of chasing he i finally ...
A. 17 March 2009: Yes i am sure you are doing the right thing, give yourself plenty of space and don't let him pressure you.
I think you know in your heart that this relationship is going no where, he is very controlling and i can't see him ever changing... (read in full...)
Do guys need breathing space in a relationship every now and again?
Q. This is healthy in a relationship, right? My boyfriend wants to hang out with his guy friends I'd say it comes up about... once or twice a month. He text me this morning saying,'my buddy has an extra ticket for an event.' So, we'll go out on ...
A. 17 March 2009: Yes i think you are absolutely right 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' so to speak.
Everyone can do with a bit of me time now and then whether it is with friends or just on your own doing whatever you fancy.
I would hate to be in a relation... (read in full...)
I confront him and he just lies to me more
Q. My boyfriend of almost 8 years is lying to me about were he met this girl on his myspace. We have had our problems in the past yet I have stayed with him. I feel like this is the last draw I don't know what to do I confront him and he just lies...
A. 16 March 2009: You have had issues with him in the past i honestly think the best thing to do is to move on.
I know you have had 8 years together and it is a long time but unless he is willing to work at the relationship with you it is a lost cause.
Only yo... (read in full...)
Help! I think my husband is cheating!
Q. Help! I think my husband is cheating! He has been texting someone and when i found out he claimed it was a joke he and some other guys on his job were doing to a new guy at work. The text was "gd mor baby i miss you call me", i don't know what ...
A. 16 March 2009: Why not rather than ring the number send a text and hopefully the person at the other end will respond and you can gather some information from the text you receive back and then decide whether you should give the number a ring.
Just say somethin... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair with a married man with 3 kids!
Q. will i will just be brief here my 24 year old sister is having an affair with a 38 year old man who is married and has 3 kids.. he says he was never happy with his married life and was forced to marry this woman because of his casanova image a...
A. 16 March 2009: People switch partners every day who are we to say whether it is right or wrong we don't know the full circumstances of his marriage.
Yes the decent thing would be to end that relationship first for everyones sake because it is a terrible situatio... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair with a married man with 3 kids!
Q. will i will just be brief here my 24 year old sister is having an affair with a 38 year old man who is married and has 3 kids.. he says he was never happy with his married life and was forced to marry this woman because of his casanova image a...
A. 15 March 2009: Yes i would say just be there for her it is her life and telling your mum won't change a thing if her heart is set on this path infact it may have the reverse effect and she become more headstrong!
It is easy to judge when you are not in the situ... (read in full...)
Crossing the line?
Q. Hi I have started talking to guy on a social networking site, we have sent direct messages to each other and he has sent me music. The problem is he has a partner and a baby. Have we crossed the line? the whole thing feels rather secretive....
A. 15 March 2009: Well i think if you are feeling that way then probably yes you have crossed the line.
It is surprising how you can strike up a good relationship over the internet and it can become quite close and affair like.
You need to think how you would fe... (read in full...)
Is it MY semen or does she seemen?
Q. My partner and I had sex two days ago, today while we were beginning to have sex I pulled out and my member had a big glob of semen just below the head, and I know I didn't just cum. It looks fresh and she says it's from the last time we had sex and ...
A. 12 March 2009: No i think it is impossible the senario you have just given semen changes colour after ejaculation and two days later it would not be there in the consistency you have described.
The vagina is self-cleaning and douching can do more harm than goo... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my girlfriend and in love with another girl
Q. Hello, I'm in quite a miserable situation and ask for any advice, as it's hard for me to discuss the situation with a friend. I would be very happy about any comment or advice. I'm together with my girlfriend now for 3 years, and we have been ve...
A. 12 March 2009: Do you not think that you maybe should move out temporarily and get a place of your own from where you can have and appreciate your own space and you may see things differently.
I honestly think that is the only way forward if you are saying y... (read in full...)
Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 10 March 2009: I can't honestly believe that any loving husband would put his wife and family through such pain!
I would be totally relieved but absolutely furious if i had found out it was no more than a prank and the fact that you have had no contact of any s... (read in full...)
Problems with threadworms!
Q. I know this is mostly for relationship advice but I need some medical advice. I had threadworms as a child which went untreated, I had no problems until I started my period when they reappeared, I was so ashamed I didn't tell anyone, I have had no ...
A. 9 March 2009: You can buy medication over the counter at any chemist for the treatment of threadworm if you would prefer not to see your doctor.
It is a common problem in children and is easily passed on so don't feel embarrassed.... (read in full...)
I'm not good at giving bj's!
Q. Okay, so my borfriend and I have been dating almost 4 months now. I really love him, and he really loves me. He wants me to give him blowjobs somtimes. He has a bigger penis (biggest I've had anyway) I'm not very good at giving blowjobs, but the ...
A. 9 March 2009: I agree with natasia anything goes and believe me is most gratefully received.
I would definately not neglect the balls as they are very sensitive and the men i have known (not that many lol) have loved attention here with either your mouth or... (read in full...)
I'm not good at giving bj's!
Q. Okay, so my borfriend and I have been dating almost 4 months now. I really love him, and he really loves me. He wants me to give him blowjobs somtimes. He has a bigger penis (biggest I've had anyway) I'm not very good at giving blowjobs, but the ...
A. 9 March 2009: I agree with natasia anything goes and believe me is most gratefully received.
I would definately not neglect the balls as they are very sensitive and the men i have known (not that many lol) have loved attention here with either your mouth or... (read in full...)
Is it MY semen or does she seemen?
Q. My partner and I had sex two days ago, today while we were beginning to have sex I pulled out and my member had a big glob of semen just below the head, and I know I didn't just cum. It looks fresh and she says it's from the last time we had sex and ...
A. 9 March 2009: I am sure this is more likely to be a build up of yeast which is present in your partner's vagina it is white in colour and she will need to visit her doctor if she has noticed a discharge at all which can be easily treated and is nothing at all to ... (read in full...)
How can I ask a girl out but on a professional NON-date?
Q. I just got a new job and I want to get to know people at work. I asked a couple guys out to lunch and it was cool and we learned alot. Now there's this girl in my department and I want to go to lunch with her BUT I DON'T WANT ROMANCE. I just want a ...
A. 6 March 2009: It's a tricky one as i am sure that unless you make it quite clear it is purely business she will assume you have other romantic ideas.
You could say that you are quite new to the company and have had the opportunity to have lunch with a couple o... (read in full...)
What can a person do to get their ex back?
Q. What can a person really do to get his ex back? None of this rubbish that you find posted online, these terrible quack advice givers. Has anyone been successful? Have any of you felt all hope was lost yet managed to win back the heart of your lo...
A. 27 February 2009: Yes i have been in this situation and the advice i will give you has definately worked for me but i must stress that if really depends on the feelings of the other person although some people say that this doesn't make a difference but if they have ... (read in full...)
I love her so much it hurts!
Q. I love her so much it hurts. We went out for a few months and then she randomly dumped me. Now her friends are saying she really doesnt care about me in any way what so ever anymore. Its it tearing me up for her to do this. she has never ever been ...
A. 26 February 2009: The best thing to do to actually get someone back believe it or not is to stay away! Give them space, they need to have time to actually miss you and if you are speaking to friends texting, phoning or hanging about the same places hoping to see her ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me and my former cheater husband?
Q. Hi, Im wondering If anyone can help my sitation, I was I in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4yrs. He left me 2 months ago, I found out lasy year he was having a affair with a married women for about 7 months. Any way He pleaded with me to work ...
A. 26 February 2009: He has caused you far too much pain and it will never change. The best thing to do is end the relationship, yes you will be upset for a time afterwards and lonely but stop all contact with him and make things easy for yourself.
You say he left ... (read in full...)
Disappearing partner
Q. hi my partner and i got married in Jan in New York after being together a year in a long distance relationship... He is in the states and i am in the UK. We have agreed that he is going to come to the UK in the summer to stay a year and then go...
A. 26 February 2009: Well i would think most people would assume it could be pointing to an affair although considering the distance between you if he was having one he could still have quite easily kept up his contact with you, that is unless he is actually thinking of ... (read in full...)
My husband supports his 33 year old sister who is perfectly able! How do I tackle him about this?
Q. My husband is only twenty four years old and he's very established for his age and he works very hard. But he takes care of this thirty three year old sister and he has been. Does anyone think this is weird that he would fully support her five ...
A. 26 February 2009: It does seem a bit extreme to me and i can understand how it is causing you marriage troubles, especially when he is prepared to pay for her youngest to go to private school but not his own!
If he had done the same for his own children i would ha... (read in full...)
I'm not sure... could I be pregnant?
Q. Okay I'm 13 years old and I'm very scared of something I did. I had sex twice, one time I used a condom, the other time I didn't but it was only for like... 5-10 minutes. I don't know what to do!! He said something about he can sperm in that ...
A. 26 February 2009: It is very possible that you are pregnant but you are not going to know for sure without having a test done so i would advise you do this tomorrow and at least you will put your mind at rest if you are not sooner rather than later.
It is possible... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: I think maybe the walk and meal just in case she is not an outdoor girl then you are covering all areas. You will be able to have a couple of drinks then and that will help you both to feel a bit more relaxed and get to know each other better x
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The old lady deserves better than this
Q. I am almost 81, my wife is almost 88. Mona has 6 grown children from a previous marriage. Since we met 17 years ago we have always professed our love for each other. We have never wished not to be together. Although there never was any cause to...
A. 25 February 2009: No i am sure it is legit wonderingcat just the poster starts his second paragraph from the daughter's point of view.
Anyway i think this is a terrible situation, granted they may be concerned for their elderly mother but you have had a relation... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Well its only common courtesy really but put a few questions in your emails then she may feel more inclined to answer unless you do get around to asking her out. I hope so.... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Well if you don't someone else might!
It won't hurt i know there is probably a fear of rejection on your part but don't take it to badly if that is the case, you may not be right for her but someone else will love every part of you.
Better ... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Whoops i got carried away with the button there i posted my answer twice sorry x... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: My god you don't know how to text, where have you been hiding lol.
Well i had assumed that you were sending messages via your mobile phone but maybe that is the problem do you know if she is online very often. If she is and is not respondi... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: My god you don't know how to text, where have you been hiding lol.
Well i had assumed that you were sending messages via your mobile phone but maybe that is the problem do you know if she is online very often. If she is and is not respondi... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 24 February 2009: Are you sure that this girl feels the same way as you do about her because i honestly think that if she did she would make it her business to reply to you immediately i know i would if i really liked someone.
Why don't you ask her on a date whe... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my girlfriend and in love with another girl
Q. Hello, I'm in quite a miserable situation and ask for any advice, as it's hard for me to discuss the situation with a friend. I would be very happy about any comment or advice. I'm together with my girlfriend now for 3 years, and we have been ve...
A. 21 February 2009: You are still just young and have lived together for 3 years if you feel it is not working now and are beginning to get a roving eye at this stage then i think your relationship may be doomed.
The real problem seems to be your attachment to this ... (read in full...)
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