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writes:will i will just be brief heremy 24 year old sister is having an affair with a 38 year old man who is married and has 3 kids..he says he was never happy with his married life and was forced to marry this woman because of his casanova image and that he would divorce his wife waaay before my sister got into his lifei think its wrong for my sister to date him but she doesnt feel so \..what do u guys think??and i tried telling her to stop but she would not listen,so i told mom,do u think by telling my mom i did the right thing?
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reader, didda123  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 People switch partners every day who are we to say whether it is right or wrong we don't know the full circumstances of his marriage.
Yes the decent thing would be to end that relationship first for everyones sake because it is a terrible situation to be in yo yoing between two women.
Im sure given a little time things will work out for the best from what you have said.
I would suggest maybe she should say to him that she will give him say a month to sort things out and if he still hasn't made a move then she has every right to call it a day though it sounds easier than it is when emotions are involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe wants to divorce his wife and get married to my sister,but i dont think all this is right,since he is married now i think he should try and work things out with his wife
he is deeply in love with my sister,he even harmed himself when she told him that they should stop seeing each other
i think his love is for real but still the point here is THAT HE IS MARRIED
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reader, didda123 +, writes (15 March 2009):
Yes i would say just be there for her it is her life and telling your mum won't change a thing if her heart is set on this path infact it may have the reverse effect and she become more headstrong!
It is easy to judge when you are not in the situation and has little to do with morals when it happens, i have looked down upon other people in similar situations only to find myself in the same situation years later although mine had a happy ending thankfully.
Life is full of strange twists and turns and she is old enough to sort out her own problems, maybe he is really unhappy and will eventually leave his wife or maybe not who knows but it is her business so just be there for her.
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (15 March 2009):
 If its a serious relationship it would have come out anyway so telling your mum probably did no harm.
Sisters often have very different morals, she probably wont listen to you because if she feels she is doing nothing wrong she'll listen to noone. Ultimately it is 'morally' wrong if he is still in a marriage, how would your sister feel if she were this mans wife?
It's a difficult one to tackle because you're an outside party in this. Ultimately you just have to be there for her if and when it all goes wrong and be a good sister!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (15 March 2009):
 I agree with your morals but, it is your sisters life and she obviously doesn't have the same values and standards that you have.
Unfortunately whatever you say and do, it is her choice at the end of the day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): Yes, maybe mum can knock some sense into her hard head. What she is doing is wrong, and if she doesn't see it, then she's a selfish and bad.
Hopefully she listens to mum.
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