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writes:This is healthy in a relationship, right? My boyfriend wants to hang out with his guy friends I'd say it comes up about... once or twice a month. He text me this morning saying,'my buddy has an extra ticket for an event.' So, we'll go out on Friday and hang out with our friends on Saturday. I think I was overly excited and responded with 'That works!' I'm ok with it because my friends and I don't get to see each other that often and it's nice to just be with the girls one whole day. :)Anyways, I guess the question is: Do guys need a breather from a relationship every now and then? Just go out and act like guys.. Am I being a great girlfriend by being ok with this? And if so, how often should we do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): oh blimey, right i think you should spend all of your time together. every single moment. even going to the bathroom should be done together. What do you think?
No most people need space to grow, this helps them helps them get other inputs and perspectives, helps them burn off steam and mostly just gives them a chance to grow.
It does not mean you dont care for the other person.
so to answer you questions...
yes.
You are the best girlfirnd in the world if yo do this and then when we are together make it like i am the only person in the world (that matters).
you should do this when its appropriate and right for you guys. there are no rules its really what works best. if you want maybe 2 nights or 1 weekend in two? its down to how you two are...
- why is this a worry to you?
Hugs, Star.x.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (17 March 2009):
 YES!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 March 2009):
Yes it's perfectly normal not to spend every single day of your lives together.
It's called a social life.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, didda123 +, writes (17 March 2009):
 Yes i think you are absolutely right 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' so to speak.
Everyone can do with a bit of me time now and then whether it is with friends or just on your own doing whatever you fancy.
I would hate to be in a relationship where i was not able to see my friends, go shopping or do things i wanted to do on my own and i know my partner would hate this as well, its lovely to spend time together but i think it is somewhat refreshing to have time just occasionally doing things with friends on your own.
Having said that i do know couples who are practically stuck together and that seems to work for them as well so it is just whatever suits you best as long as you are both happy with the situation.
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