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writes:I just got a new job and I want to get to know people at work. I asked a couple guys out to lunch and it was cool and we learned alot. Now there's this girl in my department and I want to go to lunch with her BUT I DON'T WANT ROMANCE. I just want a business lunch with her. So how can I ask her to lunch without seeming like I'm asking her on a date?Also, should I offer to pay for her lunch, since I'm inviting her? I paid for one guy's lunch and the other guy brought a brown bag. I don't mind paying I'm just wondering what ettiquite demands and of course I don't want it to be a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): I have been out on professional lunch dates and they are so boring.Make everyone pitch in their money and you can arrange a team outing.Its much more fun than a professional one-one date.Its a lot more fun if you could look up some picnic games whose main aim is making people get to know each other.Trust me,you will be a hit around the office.
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reader, didda123  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 It's a tricky one as i am sure that unless you make it quite clear it is purely business she will assume you have other romantic ideas.
You could say that you are quite new to the company and have had the opportunity to have lunch with a couple of work mates earlier which was very informative and you would like her help as well so if she would like to have lunch sometimeyou would appreciate it, or maybe you could ask someone else along as well then it would not seem so much like a date.
If you are asking her for lunch and picking her brains during that time i think it would be only manners to pay for her meal in return.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): If you did't have feelings for this girl you would not be worried about asking her out for lunch. I am bi and fem very attractive ask me out for lunch and you can pay?
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Ask her is she would like to go out with you, tell her that you don't mean on a date, strictly as collegues! X
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